How do you deal with constant nagging?

I have been married now for just over five years and one thing that has really started to bug me is the incessant nagging. Since coming back from my holiday, the nagging is something that has really begun to stand out. It's all the time now. Honestly, anything I say right now gets turned into a verbal sparring match. I will say something, anything, and it will get turned into WW3. The same thing happened today. I simply said that I didn't want to do an early morning company class (starting 8am) and would much rather just work my regular teaching hours (between 10 and 6) and immediately she was on me calling me lazy, saying that I am useless, and telling me that she will never find me extra work again. Blah, blah, blah. A lot of histrionics over nothing. This time I put my foot down and simply told her to stop talking because I was just not in the mood for another row. Thereafter I simply ignored her and she stormed off to her room and here I am looking at a nice quiet night in the living room. I'm not complaining.

Ever since coming back from holiday she has been like this. The holiday was quite nice actually, but faltered a little towards the end which I had put down to PMS, but it's been getting progressively worse ever since. If I complain that it's too hot, I am always complaining. If I have a drink, I get called a drinking machine. If I wear a nice shirt and accidentally spill some dinner on it, I am in the doghouse. Today I went to work and my umbrella got stolen. I had to come home in the rain and my shirt was creased and drenched. It had been freshly ironed so I hurriedly put it in the bottom of the washing machine in fear of being accused of abusing my newly ironed clothes. That's just sad really.

One thing that annoyed my wife is that her company offered her a six month position in the UK and she asked me to drop all my contracts and just fly over there with her and do that. But I put my foot down and said no. I mean, no way will I just jump and leave like that. Korea is no heaven, but I have my responsibilities and ties here and to be honest I am more than settled. Maybe this is her sweet revenge, but if so it is extremely childish and tbh, I am getting towards the end of my tether with the whole shenanigans. It's not the easiest of things living overseas and if your supposed partner is then also trying to make everything you do so difficult then it leads to a lot of misery. I guess I'm just not very happy right now which is a shame because I really enjoyed my holiday and have come back quite refreshed. I haven't mentioned politics once since coming back!

So a thread about being nagged at and being in the doghouse. What are your experiences and how did you deal with it?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WH9vuEg-jU4

....I suggest getting a hobby


This is very important....with women you can either be RIGHT or you can be HAPPY, words to live by man

All woman are cunts :)

Hope this helps :cool:

LOL at Bilbo's thread in the threads that come up at the bottom of the page! That's a great story right there! ;D

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Originally Posted by miles

I have been married now for just over five years and one thing that has really started to bug me is the incessant nagging. Since coming back from my holiday, the nagging is something that has really begun to stand out. It's all the time now. Honestly, anything I say right now gets turned into a verbal sparring match. I will say something, anything, and it will get turned into WW3. The same thing happened today. I simply said that I didn't want to do an early morning company class (starting 8am) and would much rather just work my regular teaching hours (between 10 and 6) and immediately she was on me calling me lazy, saying that I am useless, and telling me that she will never find me extra work again. Blah, blah, blah. A lot of histrionics over nothing. This time I put my foot down and simply told her to stop talking because I was just not in the mood for another row. Thereafter I simply ignored her and she stormed off to her room and here I am looking at a nice quiet night in the living room. I'm not complaining.

Ever since coming back from holiday she has been like this. The holiday was quite nice actually, but faltered a little towards the end which I had put down to PMS, but it's been getting progressively worse ever since. If I complain that it's too hot, I am always complaining. If I have a drink, I get called a drinking machine. If I wear a nice shirt and accidentally spill some dinner on it, I am in the doghouse. Today I went to work and my umbrella got stolen. I had to come home in the rain and my shirt was creased and drenched. It had been freshly ironed so I hurriedly put it in the bottom of the washing machine in fear of being accused of abusing my newly ironed clothes. That's just sad really.

One thing that annoyed my wife is that her company offered her a six month position in the UK and she asked me to drop all my contracts and just fly over there with her and do that. But I put my foot down and said no. I mean, no way will I just jump and leave like that. Korea is no heaven, but I have my responsibilities and ties here and to be honest I am more than settled. Maybe this is her sweet revenge, but if so it is extremely childish and tbh, I am getting towards the end of my tether with the whole shenanigans. It's not the easiest of things living overseas and if your supposed partner is then also trying to make everything you do so difficult then it leads to a lot of misery. I guess I'm just not very happy right now which is a shame because I really enjoyed my holiday and have come back quite refreshed. I haven't mentioned politics once since coming back!

So a thread about being nagged at and being in the doghouse. What are your experiences and how did you deal with it?

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Get a younger model.

You just have to soldier on mate. Women are like that. Nagging is a hobby. In reality you're not the man she wanted to end up with. There's nothing wrong with you, she just had unrealistic expectations. It's like Chris Rock said..."Have you ever just caught your wife looking at you? She's just looking at you, and she's thinking 'How the fuck did i end up with you?" That's everyone's wife, at some point. The sooner we realise that, the better we'll feel.

Look on the bright side, death is no longer to be feared. After spending 30 odd years with the same woman, death will be a sweet release. Hope this helps. If you're going to jump, you already know that 5 stories isn't quite high enough ;D

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If you're going to jump, you already know that 5 stories isn't quite high enough ;D

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....actually depending on what surface you land on and how you land 5 stories is good enough, I do know from experience that if you swan dive from 7 stories on to concrete that the Fire Department has to come by and clean off the street with a firehose (I've seen it happen twice)

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If you're going to jump, you already know that 5 stories isn't quite high enough ;D

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....actually depending on what surface you land on and how you land 5 stories is good enough, I do know from experience that if you swan dive from 7 stories on to concrete that the Fire Department has to come by and clean off the street with a firehose (I've seen it happen twice)

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Originally Posted by ono

You just have to soldier on mate. Women are like that. Nagging is a hobby. In reality you're not the man she wanted to end up with. There's nothing wrong with you, she just had unrealistic expectations. It's like Chris Rock said..."Have you ever just caught your wife looking at you? She's just looking at you, and she's thinking 'How the fuck did i end up with you?" That's everyone's wife, at some point. The sooner we realise that, the better we'll feel.

Look on the bright side, death is no longer to be feared. After spending 30 odd years with the same woman, death will be a sweet release. Hope this helps. If you're going to jump, you already know that 5 stories isn't quite high enough ;D

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I find that a weird thing to say. Of course I am the man she wanted to end up with otherwise why would we have got together? I'm a decent chap with a lot of positive traits I will have you know. :p But yeah, I suppose years of being in each others faces does lead to times where even the smallest things can grate. I don't think my wife thinks 'How the fuck did I end up with you?', but she probably does have unrealistic expectations. I mean why would I want those morning classes? Why wouldn't I want a drink after a hard days work followed by a spell of evening verbal jousting? Why would I quit all my teaching jobs just to go to the UK for 6 months in which time I probably won't be able to earn a decent income myself? In that sense her expectations are unrealistic. I won't be a complete slave to the wage, be a monk, nor up and leave whenever the fancy takes me. For the time being it means making each other a bit miserable, but the nagging thing is bringing me down at the moment and it's pointless. If I argue back then it just escalates and to be honest, I don't really see the point in it. But I refuse to be a little doormouse either. It's annoying.

Like I say the nagging has only really been bad in the last week or so. There has always been a little bit but not like this, so I'm sure it's all about me refusing to up and leave. For two years I studied my MA (all the while still being able to be the main breadwinner mind), but only actually working 3 days a week. My wife sees that as her supporting me whilst she was working full time and so kind of expects me to boost her career right now. But I am just not in a position to do so, and I really don't want to move countries in order to do that. In her head I have probably become the devil because of that. But I think that is unfair. If she was wanting to study or whatever I would be more than willing to support her, but this is way too much. So, yeah, she is trying to make me miserable any way she can. It is childish because I have never agreed to move countries and this thing only came up in the last week with the company wanting her to go by October. I had no choice but to stand firm and tell her it was absurd. And having just finished my MA I am quite liking being able to work more myself. I don't want to spend 6 months doing nothing in the UK at the age of 30. I studied so hard so I could move on with my overseas career, not to go home and do nothing whilst I get ever older.

"Her room?" You have seperate rooms? She tells you off for spilling food on your shirt?

Fucks sake mate, you deserve the VD smiley.

Do you got to go with her? Why doesn't she just go by herself, this will give you 6 sweet months of sweet freedom from her constant nagging, and she will get to advance her career or whatever. Granted by the time she comes back ya'll might realize that living by yourself is way better than being married and thus the whole thing will end in a divorce. Alternatively just tape her mouth shut, or start going "bla bla" anytime she starts nagging see how long it takes her to snap, make a game out of it.

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Originally Posted by ono

If you're going to jump, you already know that 5 stories isn't quite high enough ;D

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....actually depending on what surface you land on and how you land 5 stories is good enough, I do know from experience that if you swan dive from 7 stories on to concrete that the Fire Department has to come by and clean off the street with a firehose (I've seen it happen twice)

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Dude seriously, if you fall that far and land on concrete your body will for lack of a better term "explode"....if you land on your back your eyes will pop out of your skull like those joke glasses.

Ever see "The Departed"?....firehose dude......firehose

Sorry to read this mate and for you to type it really tells me how unhappy you really are at the minute.


i know what it is and i have a feeling you do too.

me and the wife never argue and she never nags me EVER, but when we were in Germany she drank more as did i and we got into some really bad arguments.

now i have been back in the UK for 2 years we aint had one.... i can only put this down to the massive daily pressure of living abroad even thou we loved it over there ???

sounds like she just wants to come home mate... i know thats not what you want to hear but its the truth... what happens if you stick it out over there?? i have no idea mate because i didn't.

hopefully things get better because you and your wife are alot stronger than me :cool:

Mate you live in Lilleput, all you got to do is stand up and then just like God you can ignore what's going on down there on the ground.

...having just now read your actual problem, I'll post a non-smartass response (I won't even mention the jumpers I've seen....btw you don't want that, it don't pay off for anyone)

During any arguments men and women do things differently and here are a few pointers and hints I have for you:
#1 Man seeks to avoid confrontations and "shuts down"...we don't want to get our full "angry on" in front of our lady, it's ungentlemenly and we'd like to avoid it...in my observations women are both angered and confused by this tactic.

#2 Women are bat shit crazy, during an argument they'll say things like "I don't want to talk about it" while they MEAN "I want you to pay no attention to me saying 'I don't want to talk about it' and demand to address the issue to show your dedication to making this relationship work and show that you are in charge and can solve problems".....and this is why women are a "mystery" to some but just plain old fucking crazy to me. It's not that I don't love and appreciate them, it's just they take logic and kick it to the curb.

#3 As a man this totally sucks, but if you seriously want stuff to get better you've got to put your big boy pants on and calmly and rationally talk this out with her. Be supportive (unless there is a conflict of intrest) be understanding, use "I" statements when talking to her so as not to sound like you're accusing her of anything, for example "When you ____, I feel _____" (or "When you call me lazy, I feel like ____") ...all this sounds totally gay and the keeping calm and being understanding and all will be very difficult, but you'll at least get to the root of the problem....what you do from there is something for you two to handle.

its these sort of things that put me off settling down

don't really know what to say Miles but sounds to me as though the her giving up the 'coming back home for 6 months' has started things snowballing and I have to say it don't bode well for the near future - and I hope you get through tit :-\


the only advice I can give you - is to start drinking heavily ;)

Cheers for the advice fellas.

I think this nagging spell will pass in due course when she realises how unreasonable she is being. I mean fair enough working 6 months overseas will look good on her resume and enable her to gain promotion quicker, but then she is the one that has been talking about wanting to start a family in her early 30's. I'm the one that will need to be earning more money and TBH I can do that easier here with my experience, qualifications and contacts. Me going home and doing nothing and then coming back here again would just put me back at square one. It just wouldn't make any sense to do that. She is having her extremely irritating huff and a puff, but in the meantime I shall continue doing my work, try and avoid the gunfire, and drink heavily like Mark suggested. :p Like Lyle says, women aren't always the most logical of creatures and deep thinkers like myself are always ahead of the curve. She will realise that I am right in due course. Well, I hope so anyway! :D

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Originally Posted by Saddo

Sorry to read this mate and for you to type it really tells me how unhappy you really are at the minute.


i know what it is and i have a feeling you do too.

me and the wife never argue and she never nags me EVER, but when we were in Germany she drank more as did i and we got into some really bad arguments.

now i have been back in the UK for 2 years we aint had one.... i can only put this down to the massive daily pressure of living abroad even thou we loved it over there ???

sounds like she just wants to come home mate... i know thats not what you want to hear but its the truth... what happens if you stick it out over there?? i have no idea mate because i didn't.

hopefully things get better because you and your wife are alot stronger than me :cool:

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I think she definitely wants the overseas experience on her resume, but that's it really. She is Korean and has never lived in the UK before. That experience will mean easier access to higher positions in the corporate ladder when she gets back here further down the road. TBH my position is the most logical and I went into that a little in my previous post. The company said she was the best candidate to go and wanted a quick answer, but unfortunately with all my ties I am unable to up and leave, and like I say, I don't particularly want to go anyway.

Yeah, the nagging thing is annoying. If I try to iron my own shirts she will simply iron them again. If I wash up, then she will simply do it again. So, I have effectively given up trying to do those kinds of things. The only thing I am allowed to do with any peace is cleaning the bathroom. I'm quite good at that apparently. When it comes to drinking, she doesn't even drink. So any amount of alcohol is always me being a drinking machine. Ah well.

As the British would say, "Give her a good rogering." That should fix the problem.;D

If not a few good bottles of Soju should dull the senses.

How do I deal with a constant nagging cunt? I'd just say "bitch, gimme a beer... just clean, cook, and STFU!"

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If I try to iron my own shirts she will simply iron them again. If I wash up, then she will simply do it again

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what the fuck are you moaning about !!??!! The constant nagging surely makes it all worth it ;)

Sooner you can get her on the bathroom job too the better.


Didn't realise she was Korean so my bit on the fact you were stopping her returning home for 6 months is null and void.

Give her 2 months and if she still not calmed down adopt the Mike Tyson - Robin Givens tactic ;)

by the way you got PS3 sorted yet - we need to get it on on Fight Night

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If I try to iron my own shirts she will simply iron them again. If I wash up, then she will simply do it again

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what the fuck are you moaning about !!??!! The constant nagging surely makes it all worth it ;)

Sooner you can get her on the bathroom job too the better.


Didn't realise she was Korean so my bit on the fact you were stopping her returning home for 6 months is null and void.

Give her 2 months and if she still not calmed down adopt the Mike Tyson - Robin Givens tactic ;)

by the way you got PS3 sorted yet - we need to get it on on Fight Night

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The strange thing is that she has been as right as rain today, maybe just a case of me pissing her off and her having the post holiday blues. Dunno, will have to wait and see. I hope she isn't secretly reading all of this! :-\

And yeah, I managed to get the playstation hooked up. I designed this pasty faced fighter called Wlad Duncan. Stupid name really, but it sounded funny at the time. The kind of name you would expect Lyle to give a fighter. I just cannot deal with fighters who are bigger than me and I hate the lag that you get sometimes. Maybe we can get a fight going this weekend. The time difference might be a bit awkward though.

am doing nothing all day saturday have decided


send me request - marktko

I have a middleweight and a heavy

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Originally Posted by miles

She is Korean and has never lived in the UK before.

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that changes things then... it prob is just holiday blues.

she went away and didn't want to go home, she's prob just looking for an adventure and Mr common sense (you) is pissing her off ;D;D;D

looks like its already passed... chin up mate ;)

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Originally Posted by Mark TKO

am doing nothing all day saturday have decided


send me request - marktko

I have a middleweight and a heavy

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Right, I'm 8 hours ahead of you. So will try and be online from about 10am your time. I hope you aren't one of those bloody 6 foot 8 freaks who likes to fight like Wlad Klitschko! They do my nut in! :mad:

no - fought one of thiose first time last weekend though. Normally a middleweight but created a heavy as there are more peopel available to fight.

somehow the guy never tired and was punching constantly (had to be a button player)

He knocked me out in 9th (i can never get up a second time) despite me flooring him 3 times - no idea how he managed to get up the final time

look forward to it mate ;)

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She is Korean and has never lived in the UK before.

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that changes things then... it prob is just holiday blues.

she went away and didn't want to go home, she's prob just looking for an adventure and Mr common sense (you) is pissing her off ;D;D;D

looks like its already passed... chin up mate ;)

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Yeah, much better day today. She's gone to bed and not a single cross word between us. Hopefully the start of a new trend. I think you are right, she just needed time to come back down to earth. I should have shown her some of the rougher sides of UK life rather than spend all our time going to famous tourist attractions, seeing shows and sleeping in expensive hotels. Her world view is probably all warped now.

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no - fought one of thiose first time last weekend though. Normally a middleweight but created a heavy as there are more peopel available to fight.

somehow the guy never tired and was punching constantly (had to be a button player)

He knocked me out in 9th (i can never get up a second time) despite me flooring him 3 times - no idea how he managed to get up the final time

look forward to it mate ;)

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They are weird. And there seems to be loads of them. I also hate it when you are winning the fight and the people just up and leave. You should always stay and take your licking.

I've mastered the game easily enough, but am still a bit hit and miss with the online thing. I will try and give you a decent scrap though. Will have to get a bit of practice in tomorrow as I've spent ages playing that Red Dead Redemption game. Bit rusty with the old boxing.

yes I just gone back to fight night and fifa after about 2 months on Red Dead

I'm a one game at a time man - can't understand these guys who have more than one game on go at any one time.

Are you a button or TPC player with right stick ?????

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yes I just gone back to fight night and fifa after about 2 months on Red Dead

I'm a one game at a time man - can't understand these guys who have more than one game on go at any one time.

Are you a button or TPC player with right stick ?????

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Same here. If I start a game I have to see it through to the end and games are so huge these days.

I use the stick, no button mashing from me, but I am not going to divulge any more information about my fighting as I think you are trying to work me out. ;D

Well, why doesn't she go to do her stage abroad while you remain in Korea? I mean, 6 months is long but not that much either, personally I know some people who've been split apart for longer than that due to work or travel (my parents at the time have been split 6 months too when my Dad went to do his trademarket course in Toronto). I think it would be the easiest way and it's quite doable if you ask me, plus a 6 months is just enough for both of you to miss each other and to be extremely happy once you'll find back each others. Could it be a possibility?

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Well, why doesn't she go to do her stage abroad while you remain in Korea? I mean, 6 months is long but not that much either, personally I know some people who've been split apart for longer than that due to work or travel (my parents at the time have been split 6 months too when my Dad went to do his trademarket course in Toronto). I think it would be the easiest way and it's quite doable if you ask me, plus a 6 months is just enough for both of you to miss each other and to be extremely happy once you'll find back each others. Could it be a possibility?

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When I was pissed off I told her to do just that, but she refused. Actually, this evening before she went to bed I told her I should have taken her for a holiday to Salford and that her impressions of England would have been a bit different. She agreed with me. I think her tune is changing tbh and life might well get back to normal in due course. There will always be a bit of nagging though, but that's life.

I suggest you kill her and blame it on a fan. Problem solved and no jury in the land will convict you.

Women nag, it's part of their genetic make up.

This whole disagreeing thing sounds just like you are both scouting out your boundries again, testing each other a little. Bit of boredom and samedom prob.

Maybe you just need to have one fuck off big row so you can both tell each other EXACTLY what is bugging you. Then improve from there.

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...having just now read your actual problem, I'll post a non-smartass response (I won't even mention the jumpers I've seen....btw you don't want that, it don't pay off for anyone)

During any arguments men and women do things differently and here are a few pointers and hints I have for you:
#1 Man seeks to avoid confrontations and "shuts down"...we don't want to get our full "angry on" in front of our lady, it's ungentlemenly and we'd like to avoid it...in my observations women are both angered and confused by this tactic.

#2 Women are bat shit crazy, during an argument they'll say things like "I don't want to talk about it" while they MEAN "I want you to pay no attention to me saying 'I don't want to talk about it' and demand to address the issue to show your dedication to making this relationship work and show that you are in charge and can solve problems".....and this is why women are a "mystery" to some but just plain old fucking crazy to me. It's not that I don't love and appreciate them, it's just they take logic and kick it to the curb.

#3 As a man this totally sucks, but if you seriously want stuff to get better you've got to put your big boy pants on and calmly and rationally talk this out with her. Be supportive (unless there is a conflict of intrest) be understanding, use "I" statements when talking to her so as not to sound like you're accusing her of anything, for example "When you ____, I feel _____" (or "When you call me lazy, I feel like ____") ...all this sounds totally gay and the keeping calm and being understanding and all will be very difficult, but you'll at least get to the root of the problem....what you do from there is something for you two to handle.

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It must be my male side coming because I'm too lazy to read all the thread but as the token woman here, MILES. El Kabong is correct at least on part 1 & 3.

If you walk away from an argument it looks like you avoiding dealing with a problem which makes us even madder.

Simple thing is this and you know it already. Men and women communicate differently. If you adjust your reactions to her you will a different reaction from her. Think of it as retraining a dog, ahem. First you'll get confusion and resistance.

Regarding point 2. I know men especially like to think they're logically. Most people base most decisions on emototions and not logic...or if you're a guy who doesn't have emotions you have 'gut' reactions. ;)

Also consider things from her point of view. Regarding work. From her point of view she feels she has helped you find work...you're now saying you don't want to do it...she's seeing that as a rejection of HER so she will get pissy about it.

It takes two. Look, if spot a man developing a 404 error - that glazed over expression you get when stop listening especially we've mentioned something emotional that causes your brain to freeze up - I stop talking because I know you've stopped listening. This is great when you're calm but when upset that shit goes out the window.

With all joking aside.

Interracial marriages has a significantly higher divorce rate than same ethnic and or racial couples. A myriad of factors are added to the problems along with the traditional problems. One of these are that the interracial couples have to face the hurdle of different cultures and expectations within their respective cultures, along with other factors like society's views and opinions on them and the diminished social support from family and friends.

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/1...8.00491.x/full

A study done and published in the Journal of Family Relations. Not saying this will happen to you Miles, just thought the info was interesting.

Another thing miles, is that on occaision ladies like to have issues to work on/out like some kind of emotional aerobics....maybe she just had her Emotional Issue Death Ray pointed in your direction.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VorC_GHQnSc

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I don't think there is anything to worry about really. We had a good chat about everything yesterday and got all our views out reasonably and calmly and we are getting on for the first time in a week and life seems somewhat back to normal. No need to file the divorce papers just yet!

Again cheers for all the good advice, fellas and woman (Missy)! :D

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How do I deal with a constant nagging cunt? I'd just say "bitch, gimme a beer... just clean, cook, and STFU!"

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Like that? I always thought you and brucelee were cool

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Originally Posted by miles

I have been married now for just over five years and one thing that has really started to bug me is the incessant nagging. Since coming back from my holiday, the nagging is something that has really begun to stand out. It's all the time now. Honestly, anything I say right now gets turned into a verbal sparring match. I will say something, anything, and it will get turned into WW3. The same thing happened today. I simply said that I didn't want to do an early morning company class (starting 8am) and would much rather just work my regular teaching hours (between 10 and 6) and immediately she was on me calling me lazy, saying that I am useless, and telling me that she will never find me extra work again. Blah, blah, blah. A lot of histrionics over nothing. This time I put my foot down and simply told her to stop talking because I was just not in the mood for another row. Thereafter I simply ignored her and she stormed off to her room and here I am looking at a nice quiet night in the living room. I'm not complaining.

Ever since coming back from holiday she has been like this. The holiday was quite nice actually, but faltered a little towards the end which I had put down to PMS, but it's been getting progressively worse ever since. If I complain that it's too hot, I am always complaining. If I have a drink, I get called a drinking machine. If I wear a nice shirt and accidentally spill some dinner on it, I am in the doghouse. Today I went to work and my umbrella got stolen. I had to come home in the rain and my shirt was creased and drenched. It had been freshly ironed so I hurriedly put it in the bottom of the washing machine in fear of being accused of abusing my newly ironed clothes. That's just sad really.

One thing that annoyed my wife is that her company offered her a six month position in the UK and she asked me to drop all my contracts and just fly over there with her and do that. But I put my foot down and said no. I mean, no way will I just jump and leave like that. Korea is no heaven, but I have my responsibilities and ties here and to be honest I am more than settled. Maybe this is her sweet revenge, but if so it is extremely childish and tbh, I am getting towards the end of my tether with the whole shenanigans. It's not the easiest of things living overseas and if your supposed partner is then also trying to make everything you do so difficult then it leads to a lot of misery. I guess I'm just not very happy right now which is a shame because I really enjoyed my holiday and have come back quite refreshed. I haven't mentioned politics once since coming back!

So a thread about being nagged at and being in the doghouse. What are your experiences and how did you deal with it?

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Got some bad news for you. The reason you getting so much negativity is cuz somebody has too. You become the scapegoat for everything that's currently going wrong. Your the one to blame. Why is that? Why you? Cuz your not priority at the moment. Chances are (I'm putting this at 75% I'm right) she's screwing someone else. And that somebody is getting all the positive your not getting while at the same time filling her head with things. He's dropping little hints and little comments that are convincing her that everything that's going wrong is cuz of you. And that's pissing her the fuck off. Why the fuck should she bother getting along with you when she's blaming you for everything? Think about it

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Originally Posted by Violent Demise

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Originally Posted by Pacstraightleft

How do I deal with a constant nagging cunt? I'd just say "bitch, gimme a beer... just clean, cook, and STFU!"

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Like that? I always thought you and brucelee were cool

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Originally Posted by miles

I have been married now for just over five years and one thing that has really started to bug me is the incessant nagging. Since coming back from my holiday, the nagging is something that has really begun to stand out. It's all the time now. Honestly, anything I say right now gets turned into a verbal sparring match. I will say something, anything, and it will get turned into WW3. The same thing happened today. I simply said that I didn't want to do an early morning company class (starting 8am) and would much rather just work my regular teaching hours (between 10 and 6) and immediately she was on me calling me lazy, saying that I am useless, and telling me that she will never find me extra work again. Blah, blah, blah. A lot of histrionics over nothing. This time I put my foot down and simply told her to stop talking because I was just not in the mood for another row. Thereafter I simply ignored her and she stormed off to her room and here I am looking at a nice quiet night in the living room. I'm not complaining.

Ever since coming back from holiday she has been like this. The holiday was quite nice actually, but faltered a little towards the end which I had put down to PMS, but it's been getting progressively worse ever since. If I complain that it's too hot, I am always complaining. If I have a drink, I get called a drinking machine. If I wear a nice shirt and accidentally spill some dinner on it, I am in the doghouse. Today I went to work and my umbrella got stolen. I had to come home in the rain and my shirt was creased and drenched. It had been freshly ironed so I hurriedly put it in the bottom of the washing machine in fear of being accused of abusing my newly ironed clothes. That's just sad really.

One thing that annoyed my wife is that her company offered her a six month position in the UK and she asked me to drop all my contracts and just fly over there with her and do that. But I put my foot down and said no. I mean, no way will I just jump and leave like that. Korea is no heaven, but I have my responsibilities and ties here and to be honest I am more than settled. Maybe this is her sweet revenge, but if so it is extremely childish and tbh, I am getting towards the end of my tether with the whole shenanigans. It's not the easiest of things living overseas and if your supposed partner is then also trying to make everything you do so difficult then it leads to a lot of misery. I guess I'm just not very happy right now which is a shame because I really enjoyed my holiday and have come back quite refreshed. I haven't mentioned politics once since coming back!

So a thread about being nagged at and being in the doghouse. What are your experiences and how did you deal with it?

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Got some bad news for you. The reason you getting so much negativity is cuz somebody has too. You become the scapegoat for everything that's currently going wrong. Your the one to blame. Why is that? Why you? Cuz your not priority at the moment. Chances are (I'm putting this at 75% I'm right) she's screwing someone else. And that somebody is getting all the positive your not getting while at the same time filling her head with things. He's dropping little hints and little comments that are convincing her that everything that's going wrong is cuz of you. And that's pissing her the fuck off. Why the fuck should she bother getting along with you when she's blaming you for everything? Think about it

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Sancho has struck again!

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