what did you ever see in her in the first place miles?
well, if only we could all go back to the time we fell in love with the other person.
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what did you ever see in her in the first place miles?
well, if only we could all go back to the time we fell in love with the other person.
LOL at VD. ;D
That's the one thing she is definitely not doing. We spend fair too much time around one another to be doing that. There are no evenings apart or little trips out. Everything is pretty much done together, tbh probably the reason why we have been getting on each others nerves.
Like I say, we've got it all into the open and for the time being things have been alright. Though she did go to sleep at 11am and woke up at 3pm and then proceeded to blame me for not waking her up. She could have set her alarm or told me to wake her up, but no, it has to be my fault. Women are a strange breed!
With all his excellent advice on women I'm thinking VD is about 15 and his sexual experience is based on razzle and his right hand.:confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
* Tell her: The up hill thing to do in life is to look for the good in someone you reach higher ground ; its too easy looking for the bad all the time because thats just a downhill slide for both.Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
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Originally Posted by milesWhen I was pissed off I told her to do just that, but she refused. Actually, this evening before she went to bed I told her I should have taken her for a holiday to Salford and that her impressions of England would have been a bit different. She agreed with me. I think her tune is changing tbh and life might well get back to normal in due course. There will always be a bit of nagging though, but that's life.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nameless
Salford ? Thats too kind. Give me a shout, and I'll give you and her a tour of Toxteth, Liverpool. She'll be begging me to take her back that fukking airport in no time.
You know I almost wish that were the case after dealing with some of the most poisonous females to ever walk this earth. Something tells me you just might fall in that category.Quote:
Originally Posted by Howlin Mad MissyWith all his excellent advice on women I'm thinking VD is about 15 and his sexual experience is based on razzle and his right hand.:confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
A short update: I'm telling you women are a strange, strange, strange bunch. For over a week I was being given grief for almost everything I did. Every gesture, movement and sound was the work of the most evil man in the history of the world. Now not a bad word exchanged in days. It's almost like that week never happened and it was all in my head. It was weird, because though I can be a bit obtuse and am not always the most helpful around the house, my wife has never been the constantly nagging type. Sure, I will get moaned at for forgetting to cover the area around the grill properly or forget to add that fragrant liquid stuff to the washing machine before the cycle finishes, but she has never been the constantly lecturing, mean and snarky type. It's good that things are more peaceful and that we aren't at war everyday. She did some shopping and even bought me a 4 pack of beer today so all in all things are looking up!
In the similar threads bit at the bottom of the page, it brang up this:
http://www.saddoboxing.com/boxingfor...ging-wife.html
Thought of you! ;D
Haha, yeah it's a good thread. ;DQuote:
Originally Posted by 0james0
Just ignore them and nod yes to everything.
...and make sure you have a good peripheral vision for flying objects.Quote:
Originally Posted by Master
you notice the circular problem with this suggestion........:cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by Master
Reap what you sow.;D:pQuote:
Originally Posted by Violent DemiseYou know I almost wish that were the case after dealing with some of the most poisonous females to ever walk this earth. Something tells me you just might fall in that category.Quote:
Originally Posted by Howlin Mad MissyWith all his excellent advice on women I'm thinking VD is about 15 and his sexual experience is based on razzle and his right hand.:confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
IANS LawQuote:
Originally Posted by Master
Ignore
Agree
Nod
Smile
I now have two kids and a dog. I might not be the best example!
Which is why I get something thrown at me, every once in a while. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missyyou notice the circular problem with this suggestion........:cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by Master
If you get caught out you claim industrial deafness .Quote:
Originally Posted by Master
Thats where your hearing is fine but if theres two things audible at once one of them is just blurb...guess which one that is.
*Its not the tv ;).
Today the nagging has continued. I quit a job today. I had been promised 2 afternoons a week and 5 hours a day teaching. On my first day they changed my schedule completely only 3 hours actual teaching but with 3 hours waiting for class. Today I was told "no class". This meant no pay. Of course I called the boss and said this was bullshit. I have 8 years experience and a masters. I cannot tolerate this shit.
I came home and the wife was furious. It was all my fault why I am not working. I said "you only care about money?". "Yes", she replied. You can't really reply to that with a logical mind. So I told her to "fuck off".
So again I am in my living room being rather pissed off.
It's not so much the nagging, but the outright rudeness. So now I am only a money earner and that is it. If you don't do it then there are issues.
saying 'yes' was 1 of two things, either she means it or she was doing it to provoke/annoy you. You know your woman.
http://www.aceros-de-hispania.com/im...e-shot-gun.jpg
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_n7RltmTdk-...h+passport.jpg
A shot gun and your British Passport are your answers.
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bQOw-WjNSG...320/bleach.gif
Oh yeah and some bleach to clean up the mess before you leave Korea.
;D
I like your idea. It's brilliant.Quote:
Originally Posted by generalbulldog
That is where you went wrong. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
Yeah, not a nice thing for me to say really. But sod it, you must fight fire with fire sometimes.
My misses stormed out once I threw her stuff out after her and yelled if you leave dont come back.
Shes came back about 2 hours later :eek:
And she recons I dont listen to a word she says :confused:
It just pisses me off. I mean, sure I am and need to be the main breadwinner, but if one of my part time gigs is playing up or messing me around then I need to quit. It's a quality of life thing. With my experience and qualifications I simply refuse to hang around working for schools that simply don't know what they are doing or don't give me the support I need. There are plenty of jobs out there and I will find more work, but as usual she throws up things like "Money this... and money that....You don't want to work and just want to have fun....I'm going to England". Blah, blah bloody blah. Bugger off to England then and give me some peace and quiet ya miserable nag! We have done okay over the years, it's not as if I we are going to be wearing rags and eating soup every night whilst I look for more work.
I think I am going to spend the weekend in the pub with friends. At least they won't nag me and I might even turn my phone off too!
How long have you been together?
Too long! :pQuote:
Originally Posted by CFH
Married for 5, together for 7. Tbh the relationship stress has only come about in the last month, but except for a few days between the drawn out 'not getting on' we have been having prolonged spells of 'not getting on'.
I mentioned before that I refused to move to England and give up all my part time positions just so she could buff the resume with a bit of overseas experience. And here I am quitting a part time position, leaving a couple of afternoons a week free. Obviously that hasn't impressed her and my function as key money maker has been diminished somewhat. In her head it's probably "his excuse for not supporting me is gone and he still won't budge, therefore I am going to give him hell again". Let's ignore the fact that the school was chaotic and messing me around, but of course, I was supposed to suck it up and just get on with it. So, yeah, back in the doghouse indefinitely until I top my wages back up to her highnesses satisfaction.
I don't think it helped that when she got home from work yesterday I was playing Red Dead Redemption. Maybe I should have pretended to be job searching on the internet or something. And the really annoying thing is that it was her that first suggested the idea of quitting the job! I actually took her initial advice and I am still in the wrong. You are damned if you do and damned if you don't!
Who cares the least, holds the most power.;)Quote:
Originally Posted by milesToo long! :pQuote:
Originally Posted by CFH
Married for 5, together for 7. Tbh the relationship stress has only come about in the last month, but except for a few days between the drawn out 'not getting on' we have been having prolonged spells of 'not getting on'.
I mentioned before that I refused to move to England and give up all my part time positions just so she could buff the resume with a bit of overseas experience. And here I am quitting a part time position, leaving a couple of afternoons a week free. Obviously that hasn't impressed her and my function as key money maker has been diminished somewhat. In her head it's probably "his excuse for not supporting me is gone and he still won't budge, therefore I am going to give him hell again". Let's ignore the fact that the school was chaotic and messing me around, but of course, I was supposed to suck it up and just get on with it. So, yeah, back in the doghouse indefinitely until I top my wages back up to her highnesses satisfaction.
That's true. It's all such a load of bullshit though. Even without this particular job, I am still earning decent money. Plus we have her income too. I just don't see the need for all the histrionics. How many pairs of shoes can one woman want?Quote:
Originally Posted by AndreWho cares the least, holds the most power.;)Quote:
Originally Posted by milesToo long! :pQuote:
Originally Posted by CFH
Married for 5, together for 7. Tbh the relationship stress has only come about in the last month, but except for a few days between the drawn out 'not getting on' we have been having prolonged spells of 'not getting on'.
I mentioned before that I refused to move to England and give up all my part time positions just so she could buff the resume with a bit of overseas experience. And here I am quitting a part time position, leaving a couple of afternoons a week free. Obviously that hasn't impressed her and my function as key money maker has been diminished somewhat. In her head it's probably "his excuse for not supporting me is gone and he still won't budge, therefore I am going to give him hell again". Let's ignore the fact that the school was chaotic and messing me around, but of course, I was supposed to suck it up and just get on with it. So, yeah, back in the doghouse indefinitely until I top my wages back up to her highnesses satisfaction.
I've been getting angry in return recently and snapping more. It's almost like she will put me down just to get a rise out of me and I guess that means she's won. Yeah, I'm going to chill and not bother with it. Might even finish my classes later and just go out for a beer. Why the devil not, I say! :)
Red Dead Redemption is awesome, much better than GTA 4.;DQuote:
Originally Posted by miles
:-XQuote:
Originally Posted by generalbulldogRed Dead Redemption is awesome, much better than GTA 4. OR Marriage ;DQuote:
Originally Posted by miles
I was thinking of starting a thread about that actually. Which is better RDR or GTA4? Both games are great, but I too prefer RDR. I like the Western theme and all the negativity and drug taking etc in GTA4 kind of wore thin on me a bit. I like the fact that Marston on the whole seems to be a pretty decent chap and doesn't feel the need to go to strip clubs.
Great game and lovely graphics too.
Anyway, madam is still not talking to me today. Whatever. :rolleyes:
Not talking is better than fighting.
So you are saying all of this kicked off because you won't move to England?
Is that what she told you or it's what you think has caused it?
Oh yeah, I've started some training to become a life coach and might be looking for volunteers on here ;D
BTW it's not about me giving you advice ;)
Had my own little trouble in paradise yesterday, I seem to have problems listening to the mrs, sometimes I actually try and listen but then don't hear the whole conversation and ask her to repeat herself. Or if I try and wing it, she catches me out for not listening fully.
Often I'll admit I am easily distracted by the TV, the dog, the floor or anything but what she is saying, but last night I tried to actually listen, but I seem to have developed a habit of saying "what?" after everything she says.
This inturn lead her to not speaking to me because she was pissed off I wasn't listening.
I told her to stop mumbling and speak clearer so I can hear properly (I'm not deaf or anything) I think she forgets how sound travels, if she's doing stuff in the kitchen or talking into the fridge, I'm less likely to hear her than if she looks at me and talks.
Women ey! :-X
Well that's an easy enough fix...go to the fridge to get a beer, stand there, pay attention (at least try to), and instead of saying "What?" You can ask different questions "How does that make you feel?", "How can I help?", and then just end things by offering some random kind supportive words...feining sincerity is pretty simple and ladies are suckers for it.
Yep, ever since then. She told me that was what she needed on her CV and we should go for it. It's a decent enough offer. 25,000 quid for the year and a house provided free with all the utilities paid for. It's twice what she is making here and obviously to her seems like a great opportunity and in its own way it probably is, but I just don't want to go. I can earn that here (with a full schedule mind) and she was hoping that I would just up and leave without any regard for all my students or friends (as few as they are) here. She has been open saying that was why she was so off before and when she was chirpier admitted that she still blamed me somewhat for not compromising and that's why we shouldn't talk about it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missy
Now that I have gone and erased one of my freelance gigs, she is probably thinking "why can't he just go and cancel all of them and then we can concentrate on my career". But I've been here 8 years and to be honest, this is my home now. I'm not going anywhere. I like teaching and the UK is not a place for a qualified ESL instructor, not unless you are working at a university.
She has gone a bit weird this evening. She doesn't actually drink, but has gone and drunk a glass of rice wine. She was goading me saying that I am a quitter and never try to deal with adversity (complete nonsense BTW, I have never failed to complete at least a year at any of the schools I have worked at in 8 years...except for this one). Anyway, I failed to stay calm (oops) and proceeded to tell her that she is being horrible and has no good reason to keep nagging and then ignoring me like she has been doing. She thought that was funny and just laughed at me in a rather creepy kind of way. She has gone to her room and is probably sleeping now.
I was going to go to the pub and have a drink, but nobody wants to go out on a Wednesday night! :(
Sometimes I feel like I don't have a partner
Sometimes I feel like my only friend
Is the city I live in, the city of angels
Lonely as I am, together we cry
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lwlogyj7nFE&ob=av2n
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never EVER say "How does that make you feel?", "How can I help?"Quote:
Originally Posted by El Kabong
if you have no idea what the fuck she said... just come clean an say sorry i missed what you said.
because the chances are she asked you something...
wife: what do you want for dinner.
husband: How does that make you feel?
wife: can you tell the kids to go to bed.
husband: how can i help?
:-X:-X:-X:-X:-X:-X:-X
just come clean... i'm always missing what the wife says and i always know when its my time to talk and i think fuck... so i just say sorry i was doing somthing on the computer i missed what you said.
women know men can't multi task so they will be cool ;)
just don't ignore them too much because your leaving the door open for a new guy to listen to them.
just my :twocents: