How do you move on from this. I was inlove with this girl but then she cheats on me and i find out she lied about her feelings. I wanna move on but i find myself thinkin bout her often. We told each other that we would still be friends too.
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How do you move on from this. I was inlove with this girl but then she cheats on me and i find out she lied about her feelings. I wanna move on but i find myself thinkin bout her often. We told each other that we would still be friends too.
"Just being friends" doesn't work because in the end you both want totally different things out of that relationship. Your best move is to cut ties completely...nothing good can come from anything else
I agree though I would try shag her one more time and when done just get up pull your jeans on and say "cheers bitch" then turn round and walk out and never contact her again.Quote:
Originally Posted by El Kabong
Do not under any circumstance look back round at her when you leave.
ps this also doesn't work very well if you are at your place when you do this as you can't just walk out of your own pad leaving her in it eg she may nick something
hahaha.. We are both still in school together so i think trying to avoid her completely will be difficult. And shes one of the few ppl i can still trust with anything..
not to point out the obvious, but can you understand the contradiction between this line and the purpose of you starting this thread?Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
Sorry to hear ya got cheated. I'm one for giving it to her one more time, dry and up the poop shoot then telling her to hit the bricks and not looking back.
You don't have to be hostile towards her, although you may feel like doing that. Just treat her like a casual aquaintance....don't share too much with her, don't show emotion to her, just basically become disinterested in who she is, what she does, how she feels, etc.......she'll either get the message and move on or she could become even more interested in you which could be a problem because she'll only break your heart again...but you could ride that out while it lasts, just don't get booty blind and figure that relationship is something that it isn'tQuote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
If you two remain "Just friends" resentment will rear it's head...either she'll cockblock you or you'll get jealous of her seeing someone, but either way it's just going to build up to where you two argue all the time and it's no good for anyone.
Women are fickle, they want what they can't have and they don't want what they can have, but they do not NOT want what they can have.....if you can get that. They are basically all bat shit crazy (some more than others) and guys are just along for the ride.
That may be some of the best advice i've ever heard.Quote:
Originally Posted by El KabongYou don't have to be hostile towards her, although you may feel like doing that. Just treat her like a casual aquaintance....don't share too much with her, don't show emotion to her, just basically become disinterested in who she is, what she does, how she feels, etc.......she'll either get the message and move on or she could become even more interested in you which could be a problem because she'll only break your heart again...but you could ride that out while it lasts, just don't get booty blind and figure that relationship is something that it isn'tQuote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
If you two remain "Just friends" resentment will rear it's head...either she'll cockblock you or you'll get jealous of her seeing someone, but either way it's just going to build up to where you two argue all the time and it's no good for anyone.
Women are fickle, they want what they can't have and they don't want what they can have, but they do not NOT want what they can have.....if you can get that. They are basically all bat shit crazy (some more than others) and guys are just along for the ride.
Thanks....I just know I've been where you are right now, it totally sucks and you figure it's always going to feel like this but you grow, you learn, and you figure things out about life, girls, and more importantly yourself and what you will and won't accept in your life and that's what matters. You can choose to be all down and depressed about this or you can say "fuck it" and do what everyone wishes they did when they were in school....ask out the hottest chicks you can and don't be afraid to if you ask out 100 chicks hotter than this girl you're all worked up over the odds are at least 1 (maybe more :mwink: ) will take you up on your offer and heck the rest is down hill after that man.Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
Have fun, be happy, don't waste your youth being depressed or jealous, or hung up on some girl who at this point in her life doesn't know her ass from a hole in the ground.
Haha thanks bruh. I appreciate the help.. Startin to feel better already.Quote:
Originally Posted by El KabongThanks....I just know I've been where you are right now, it totally sucks and you figure it's always going to feel like this but you grow, you learn, and you figure things out about life, girls, and more importantly yourself and what you will and won't accept in your life and that's what matters. You can choose to be all down and depressed about this or you can say "fuck it" and do what everyone wishes they did when they were in school....ask out the hottest chicks you can and don't be afraid to if you ask out 100 chicks hotter than this girl you're all worked up over the odds are at least 1 (maybe more :mwink: ) will take you up on your offer and heck the rest is down hill after that man.Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
Have fun, be happy, don't waste your youth being depressed or jealous, or hung up on some girl who at this point in her life doesn't know her ass from a hole in the ground.
Man. That sucks I feel for you. Happenend to me in highschool with someone I loved very much. ** edit **. Hard as it is don't retreat to anger,it will eat you up !! Cheapens you and ruins potential.
Been there too dude! Probably the lowest I have ever been in my life was after I found out my ex was fucking somebody else. I'm big enough to admit that it took me a good year to get over her. She ripped me inside out as I thought she was 'the one'
But you know time really is the great healer and I can't stress enough to have absolutely ZERO contact with her. Out of sight is out of mind. Every text or phone call just prolongs the agony.
Also get laid elsewhere as much as possible!! I promise you this will make you feel better or at the very least take your mind off her for the time being. Before you know it you'll meet somebody else and all the hurt she caused will just be a memory!
I couldn't imagine it at the time but what my ex did to me turned out to be the best thing that ever happened. I ended up with a girl 10 times as hot and better than my ex in every single department. ;D
I appreciate the support guys. Thanks!
I don't think I can top that advice, but just to reaffirm:
Get back with your mates, I'm sure they've missed you!
Get laid again asap
if you do want her back, women always want what they can't have, so ignore her and move on.
Remember your still at school! In 10 years when your married with kids, you'll look back and laugh about how serious this seemed. Your gonna have plenty more female encounters, if anything, she has done you a favour by freeing you whilst you are in your prime! Make the most of it.
Was she from Pakistan? Because there are plenty more in the sea! ;)
Well I'm never on here a lot nowadays and one reason is down to girls or a certain girl.
I've posted a few threads about them and my troubles.
I found out my ex I was meeting cheated on me, trouble is she was the first girl I ever fell for and it hurt me. I'm man enough to admit that it took everything from me, I was so down and depressed. And to this day she still means a hell of a lot, she is the one in those past threads I was on about.
I stopped speaking to her for a month, we both then got talking and it took a good few weeks of phone calls before we went out a few nights ago. I met her like half a dozen times in my car. Nowadays she's all I think about.
It's horrible being 19 years old and having a girl in your mind 24/7, its just horrible. My head is totally fucked. I had my Police medical today and she was there, I wake up and shes there, I type this and she's there. Right now im just gonna keep speaking to her. We both ring each other every night and I guess just see where it leads too. As I say I met her just a couple of nights ago. But I dont know what will happen between us, I just hope she feels the same way as I do.
I feel you man.. I rly do. Its tough falling in love for the first time and then trying to let go...Quote:
Originally Posted by Lefty
I agree. What MAg do you write for Lyle :cool: ?Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24That may be some of the best advice i've ever heard.Quote:
Originally Posted by El KabongYou don't have to be hostile towards her, although you may feel like doing that. Just treat her like a casual aquaintance....don't share too much with her, don't show emotion to her, just basically become disinterested in who she is, what she does, how she feels, etc.......she'll either get the message and move on or she could become even more interested in you which could be a problem because she'll only break your heart again...but you could ride that out while it lasts, just don't get booty blind and figure that relationship is something that it isn'tQuote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
If you two remain "Just friends" resentment will rear it's head...either she'll cockblock you or you'll get jealous of her seeing someone, but either way it's just going to build up to where you two argue all the time and it's no good for anyone.
Women are fickle, they want what they can't have and they don't want what they can have, but they do not NOT want what they can have.....if you can get that. They are basically all bat shit crazy (some more than others) and guys are just along for the ride.
I'd be saying to her, "Now I have had the space to think, Its probably for the best, think maybe we were both in it for all the wrong reasons.
Move on for real bro, once a cheat 99% of the time = always a cheat. And you deserve better.
I don't write for any mag, I just have experience in dealing with this kind of thing. I personally have gone through it, I've had friends go through it and I've just seen that getting all sad and depressed over it doesn't accomplish a damn thing, it closes you off to new people, it makes you not fun to be around, and it creates a very bad vibe around you....believe it or not (I know Andre will be on board for this ;) ) people are either givers of energy or takers of energy, people either make you happy when you're around them or make you feel like you've been drained of all happy feelings...and you have to notice what you're putting out there......chicks don't dig "Donny Downer", the dude that's all sullen and sad, unless they are those goth/emo girls and they are usually closet lesbians or just are psychologically and emotionally at a point where you don't want to mess with them.
*Opens popcorn and awaits VD's advice*
Get off with her best mate.
Men who cheat should have their willy chopped off and women who cheat should have their nether regions sewn up never to be used again. Cheating is a nasty business. I'm probably closer to sharia law than any Western concept of justice on an issue such as this.
And yes, I like ICB's advice too. :p
Yes clearly the best advice.Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
But nah seriously i mean i don't really see the problem here, he's pretty young isn't he ? still in school ? so a girl he's been seeing at school has cheated on him.
If her best mates fit, just give her one. If not has she got any sisters ? then give them a portion. Or just totally forget about her and move on to the next one.
Its not like your without choice your at school, its basically a pick em mix. Choose one to taste and if you don't like it, spit it out and try the next one.
Get stuck in there lad.
They are still in school miles, kids that age are up to their eyeballs in hormones and they make dumb decisions all the time. There's no reason to go medieval on anyone, you barbarian.Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
Part of being a man, is not allowing your emotions to control your actions...that's what women do and that's why they are so mental
Soo Ive decided to move on and talk to this new girl she great.Cudnt ask for more but yet I still keep thinkn bout my ex.
Fun fact. Sharia Law basically translates to Law Law, as Sharia is a type of Law that is based on the Qur'an. You can have that one :cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
Fuck me Ice, you've changed your tune. ;DQuote:
Originally Posted by ICBYes clearly the best advice.Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
But nah seriously i mean i don't really see the problem here, he's pretty young isn't he ? still in school ? so a girl he's been seeing at school has cheated on him.
If her best mates fit, just give her one. If not has she got any sisters ? then give them a portion. Or just totally forget about her and move on to the next one.
Its not like your without choice your at school, its basically a pick em mix. Choose one to taste and if you don't like it, spit it out and try the next one.
Get stuck in there lad.
That is top advice imoQuote:
Originally Posted by Conrad
some of you c*nts need to man up
roar one up her best mates shitter, film the whole thing and then send it to her facebook account
;D;D
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Originally Posted by ICBYes clearly the best advice.Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
But nah seriously i mean i don't really see the problem here, he's pretty young isn't he ? still in school ? so a girl he's been seeing at school has cheated on him.
If her best mates fit, just give her one. If not has she got any sisters ? then give them a portion. Or just totally forget about her and move on to the next one.
Its not like your without choice your at school, its basically a pick em mix. Choose one to taste and if you don't like it, spit it out and try the next one.
Get stuck in there lad.
Suddenly likes football, gone thorugh some kind of sexual awakening?
Alright who the fuck are you?
They aren't quite kids, if you are having sex and also able to cheat then you are beyond being a kid IMO. Would this person get away with murder? No, so why should we excuse cheating? Both are wrong. Perhaps my punishment is harsh, but I quite like it.Quote:
Originally Posted by El KabongThey are still in school miles, kids that age are up to their eyeballs in hormones and they make dumb decisions all the time. There's no reason to go medieval on anyone, you barbarian.Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
Part of being a man, is not allowing your emotions to control your actions...that's what women do and that's why they are so mental
And as for being a man and controlling emotions, maybe you should look at yourself and your bizarre relationship with David Haye. ;D
Had this happen to me recently and I just cut ties with her completely BUT i didnt give her the satisfaction of knowing she did any damage to me at all. My response to her was basically "oh ok fair enough well you know the deal, i dont do the whole friends with ex gfs so good luck in the future". She tried to get a reaction out of me and I just gave an unemotional response each time, she tried the whole "i still have feelings for you though" and i was like "yeah but youll get over that soon enough, youll be fine". So by the time I was done it was like I was breaking up with her when she had actually been breaking up with me and she was one of those chicks that doesnt cry that much but without even raising my voice or getting angry I had her in tears just by the fact I acted like I dont give a shit. Her friends told me she was all upset and cut up about it and I just told them that I didnt care coz I dont have feelings for her and that I possiby never did (which also apparently did a shit load of damage when they told her) but meh she cheated on me so she can fuck off. I do have the urge to beat the absolute shit out of the guy she cheated on me with considering I see him around every week and he tries to act like we are good mates (he doesnt know that I know about the whole cheating thing) and he had been braggin to people about it but has never been game to say anything to me.
Short version- Act like you dont give a shit, dont react, cut all ties ;)
Haha i like this one.. And i think you shud hit him one good timeQuote:
Originally Posted by Snakey
If she didn't fake her orgasm, then it's all good mate.Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
Lemme check.Quote:
Originally Posted by MemphisQuote:
Originally Posted by ICBYes clearly the best advice.Quote:
Originally Posted by miles
But nah seriously i mean i don't really see the problem here, he's pretty young isn't he ? still in school ? so a girl he's been seeing at school has cheated on him.
If her best mates fit, just give her one. If not has she got any sisters ? then give them a portion. Or just totally forget about her and move on to the next one.
Its not like your without choice your at school, its basically a pick em mix. Choose one to taste and if you don't like it, spit it out and try the next one.
Get stuck in there lad.
Suddenly likes football, gone thorugh some kind of sexual awakening?
Alright who the fuck are you?
Carrot and onions check.
Adams apple check.
A man.
jab,
this you tube find is for you my friend. Thought of this thread when I saw it...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CAV0XrbEwNc
All the best,
YB
LMAO this is funny as shitQuote:
Originally Posted by Youngblood
not nice. Be thankful you're done with her...only suggest one thing. Don't rush in to anything too serious too soon. Believe it or not men do have emotions and sedating yourself with another woman too soon is unfair on her and to yourself. (Because you're not over the other woman-you still have feelings for, you're not giving new bird your full attention plus you're avoiding what you feel which will over time turn you in to VD and no one wants that).
Go bang her sister or best friend. I promise you, you will feel a lot better.Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
HaterQuote:
Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missy
Write her this letter:
Dear (whatever her name is)
I know the counselor said we shouldn't contact each other during our "cooling off" period, but I couldn't wait anymore. The day you left, I swore I'd never talk to you again. But that was just the wounded little boy in me talking. Still, I never wanted to be the first one to make contact. In my fantasies, it was always you who would come crawling back to me. I guess my pride needed that. But now I see that my pride's cost me a lot of things. I'm tired of pretending I don't miss you. I don't care about looking bad anymore. I don't care who makes the first move as long as one of us does. Maybe it's time we let our hearts speak as loudly as our hurt. And this is what my heart says: "There's no one like you."
I look for you in the eyes and breasts of every woman I see, but they're not you. They're not even close.
Two weeks ago, I met this girl at and brought her home with me. I don't say this to hurt you, but just to illustrate the depth of my desperation. She was young, maybe 19, with one of those perfect bodies that only youth and maybe a childhood spent ice skating can give you. I mean, just a perfect body. Tits like you wouldn't believe and an ass that just wouldn't quit. Every man's dream, right?
But as I sat on the couch being blown by this stunner, I thought, look at the stuff we've made important in our lives. It's all so superficial. What does a perfect body mean? Does it make her better in bed?
Well, in this case, yes, but you see what I'm getting at. Does it make her a better person? Does she have a better heart than you (and you're moderately attractive at least)? I doubt it. And I'd never really thought of that before. I don't know, maybe I'm just growing up a little. Later, after I'd tossed her about a half a pint of throat yogurt, I found myself thinking, "Why do I feel so drained and empty?" It wasn't just her flawless technique or her slutty, shameless hunger, but something else. Some nagging feeling of loss. Why did it feel so incomplete? And then it hit me. It didn't feel the same because you weren't there to watch.
Do you know what I mean? Nothing feels the same without you. Jesus, I'm just going crazy without you. And everything I do just reminds me of you.
Do you remember Carol, that single mom we met last year? Well, she dropped by last week with a pan of lasagna. She said she figured I wasn't eating right without a woman around.
I didn't know what she meant till later, but that's not the real story. Anyway, we had a few glasses of wine and the next thing you know, we're banging away in our old bedroom. And this tart's a total monster in the sack. She's giving me everything, you know, like a real woman does when she's not hung up about her weight or her career and whether the kids can hear us. And all of a sudden, she spots that tilting mirror on your grandmother's old vanity. So she puts it on the floor and we straddle it, right, so we can watch ourselves. And it's totally hot, but it makes me sad, too. Cause I can't help thinking, "Why didn't you ever put the mirror on the floor? We've had this old vanity for years, and we never used it as a sex toy."
Saturday, your sister drops by with my copy of the restraining order. I mean, Vicki's just a girl and all, but she's got a pretty good head on her shoulders and she's been a real friend to me during this painful time. She's given me lots of good advice about you and about women in general. She's pulling for us to get back together, she really is. So we're doing Jell-O shots in a hot bubble bath and talking about happier times. Here's this girl with the same DNA as you and all I can do is think of how much she looked like you when you were 18. And that just about makes me cry. And then it turns out Vicki's really into the whole anal thing, that gets me to thinking about how many times I pressured you about trying it and how that probably fueled some of the bitterness between us. But do you see how even then, when I'm thrusting inside your baby sister's cinnamon ring, all I can do is think of you?
It's true. In your heart you must know it. Don't you think we could start over? Just wipe out all the grievances away and start fresh? I think we can. If you feel the same please, please, please let me know.
Otherwise, can you let me know where the fucking remote is.
Love, Snakey
That letter brought a tear to my eye.Quote:
Originally Posted by X