Help! My boyfriend is going to box

Hi everyone,
My boyfriend used to box back in high school (before I knew him). He did pretty well but for various reasons he stopped. Now, years later, he wants to get back into it... only this time professionally. He's got himself a promoter and a date for his first fight and everything...

Now I love him and will support him no matter what he does. I'll be there to cheer him on, congratulate him when he wins, and console him when he loses. But... I'm scared. I don't want him to get hurt. I have been reading too much about boxers getting brain injuries, and I'm really worried for him. It's his dream, and I won't stand in his way, but I don't like it too much. What can I do? Is there some kind of support group for significant others?

u r at the wrong website. but good luck to ur boyfriend

Get to know the people in his corner and make sure they are reliable. If they seem dodgy then tell your bf coz you as his gf need to know that they will save him from taking any un-neccesary punishment. ;)

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Originally Posted by chamiley

u r at the wrong website. but good luck to ur boyfriend

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Support group for significant others? There are not enough support groups for ex-fighters!!

What the hell do you need a support group for. If your other half is going pro, then it's his job. How many support groups for significant others are there in other professions???

I think you may not realise what you are getting into here, in terms of the boxing?

If he is cleared by all doctors "By stats" he should be fine.

But get familiar with the training and the people that train him, learn more about boxing and his trainers etc then even he knows, that way you can look at every situation and tell him about how you feel. If he wants to do this then he may, but if you want to feel confident about letting him do it, get familiar with his corner, trainers etc... so you can some what ensure it to yourself.

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Originally Posted by Starr

If he is cleared by all doctors "By stats" he should be fine.

But get familiar with the training and the people that train him, learn more about boxing and his trainers etc then even he knows, that way you can look at every situation and tell him about how you feel. If he wants to do this then he may, but if you want to feel confident about letting him do it, get familiar with his corner, trainers etc... so you can some what ensure it to yourself.

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:coolclick: Coz we think alike ;)

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Originally Posted by Snakey

Get to know the people in his corner and make sure they are reliable. If they seem dodgy then tell your bf coz you as his gf need to know that they will save him from taking any un-neccesary punishment. ;)

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:coolclick:, Yeah like Muhammad Ali's wife told him before the fight in Zaire.

just don't give her the list of all the boxers who have died since the year 1900

oops :-X

Honestly i wouldnt worry about it.
besides a black eye and a few bruises getting seriously hurt is rare.
More people die by stray balls on a golf course each year, stupid but its a fact.

his corner men are there to look after him

I remember a fighters' mother getting in the ring and hitting his opponent with a shoe. the fighter got disqualified and the fight was stopped.

If he is getting hurt in the ring, that's a proven tactic that will work. Plus it will prove to him that u love him.

Good luck from me. Hope he stays safe.

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Thank you everyone (except X) for your suggestions. I'm glad that the corner people will be there to watch out for him like you say. I've talked to him about it and he says he will only keep going as long as he stays competitive.... if he gets beaten badly, or it's too one-sided, or he gets knocked out, he says he will stop. That makes me feel a lot better.

X: Why shouldn't there be a support group for the people who hate the thought of the ones they love getting beaten up? There are groups for people whose SOs have other professions that are dangerous enough to inspire worry. The military for example (I have dated a couple of soldiers in the past... one is now off in Iraq :( )

how old is he and how much does weigh? And does he have dreams of being champ?

Mayweather, maybe we should be asking her how tall is she and how much she weighs? :lickish:

What if her boyfriend is former olympian and HW Micheal Bennett....what ever happened to him?

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Originally Posted by cuteboots

Thank you everyone (except X) for your suggestions. I'm glad that the corner people will be there to watch out for him like you say. I've talked to him about it and he says he will only keep going as long as he stays competitive.... if he gets beaten badly, or it's too one-sided, or he gets knocked out, he says he will stop. That makes me feel a lot better.

X: Why shouldn't there be a support group for the people who hate the thought of the ones they love getting beaten up? There are groups for people whose SOs have other professions that are dangerous enough to inspire worry. The military for example (I have dated a couple of soldiers in the past... one is now off in Iraq :( )

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What's his name?

When is his first fight?

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Originally Posted by drgoodlooking

Mayweather, maybe we should be asking her how tall is she and how much she weighs? :lickish:

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Maybe we could make her a champion

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Originally Posted by cuteboots

Hi everyone,
My boyfriend used to box back in high school (before I knew him). He did pretty well but for various reasons he stopped. Now, years later, he wants to get back into it... only this time professionally. He's got himself a promoter and a date for his first fight and everything...

Now I love him and will support him no matter what he does. I'll be there to cheer him on, congratulate him when he wins, and console him when he loses. But... I'm scared. I don't want him to get hurt. I have been reading too much about boxers getting brain injuries, and I'm really worried for him. It's his dream, and I won't stand in his way, but I don't like it too much. What can I do? Is there some kind of support group for significant others?

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hi cuteboots, its your boyfriend here...
I'll be ok dont worry, they know what they are talking about....boxers rarely get brain damage, they get more of that in american football.
Anyway dear, im kind of hungry so can you get me some milk and cookie's from the shops today and buy me that X-box, PS2 and that trillion dollar mansion across the street that ive always wanted. If you do that, ill quit altoghter.
K, thxs honey....ill speak to you after training when i get home ;) ;D

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Originally Posted by cuteboots

X: Why shouldn't there be a support group for the people who hate the thought of the ones they love getting beaten up? There are groups for people whose SOs have other professions that are dangerous enough to inspire worry. The military for example (I have dated a couple of soldiers in the past... one is now off in Iraq :( )

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Cuteboots - sorry to come over as all callous. The thing is that it's a tough sport and there simply is no money to be creating support groups etc. Big money only comes to the tiny percentage at the very top.

Also, it is a sport at the end of the day. There are more injuries and deaths in professional rugby but there are no support groups - I can't really see that there would be any in amateur boxing. 'Support groups' for other halves in sports sounds like PC bullshit anyway(IMO)

Sorry - just my opinion, no offence and all, but you did post on a public forum for opinions and advice

If hes with a promoter who regards him as good then he will be built up against people who just want to survive or are lighter or older and such like, he'll be fed no hopers basicly to build his own level up.

As long as he trains to the best of his ability and he wants to go places hell be fine

I wouldnt stess about it much. Like some others have said there are other sports with higher mortality and brain damage rates than boxing. Boxing is the only sport that has "that" image about. As long as he trains well and has a promoter that will look out for him he will be fine. The biggest thing is for him to keep up with his training so he will be in shape at all times. Good luck.

Thanks all...

JonesJrMayweather: He's 27 and he weighs 225 pounds right now, but he wants to lose some of it because he doesn't want to be in the heavyweight category.

TheMasterpiece: I'd rather not say who he is just cause I'm kind of shy about giving out private information like that.

ross: He was saying something about his first fights being easier like you were talking about.

X: I didn't mean something that needs a lot of money to run, just some online chatroom or forum or something like that where I could talk with other SOs.

Pantera: hmmmm maybe not :P I can't imagine doing this myself...

As long as a boxer is in good shape, his body is able to absorb punishment much better than of he is not in 100% shape. So basially as long as he gets in the ring at his best, you shouldnt worry about anything. ;)..............also, just so you know my girlfriend and mother have never gone to my fights cause they dont want to see me get hit even if i win, I play them the tape afterwards. You could always do that

You have a better chance of winning the lottery then your boyfriend getting any immediately noticeable brain damage. With a few exceptions, most boxers will only sustain a very subtle from of brain damage after years of fighting.

dont worry about injuries from boxing most people get seriuosly injured or die from car accidents--ken norton had many rough ring battles--but got permenitly injured from a car accident

I cool clicked you for having an interest and concern in your boyfreinds boxing, my girlfreind wouldnt have given a sh*t while I was boxing ;D

Hes bound to know the basics but when you go to his fights, scream "Chin down, hands high and be first with the jab." ;D

The odds of your boyfriend making a decent living in Boxing are as slim as making it into the NBA.

The odds of your boyfriend sustaining serious brain injuries through boxing are the same as sustaining them through any natural cause (falling down, car accidents, brain cancer, etc)

Anything else?

damn he's going to have to damn near starve himself to make it all the way down to cruiserweight and it'll be sick to try to go to LW....damn! I hope he's really out of shape and the 225 is just from years of inactivity...because if he's in half way decent shape...that's going to be too hard on his body..to lose 30 to 35 pounds...shit the ealier HW's holyfield, tyson, and the other ones were beast at only 212-220...he should stay HW...

I don't think he means to make his living off of this, so that's not an issue...

He does have some weight from letting himself go and he said it won't be too easy, but he's still really strong (he can pick me up with one arm lol)

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Originally Posted by cuteboots

I don't think he means to make his living off of this, so that's not an issue...

He does have some weight from letting himself go and he said it won't be too easy, but he's still really strong (he can pick me up with one arm lol)

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Boxing requires a different kind of strength. You can be able to lift heaps easily but punch like shit. It all comes with practice and technique. Good luck to your bf and dont worry as long as his corner looks after him then he will be fine ;)

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Originally Posted by cuteboots

I don't think he means to make his living off of this, so that's not an issue...

He does have some weight from letting himself go and he said it won't be too easy, but he's still really strong (he can pick me up with one arm lol)

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when is he having his first professional fight?

http://ejmas.com/jcs/jcsart_svinth_b_0700.htm

I guess I'll be the dark horse on this one

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Originally Posted by cuteboots

Hi everyone,
My boyfriend used to box back in high school (before I knew him). He did pretty well but for various reasons he stopped. Now, years later, he wants to get back into it... only this time professionally. He's got himself a promoter and a date for his first fight and everything...

Now I love him and will support him no matter what he does. I'll be there to cheer him on, congratulate him when he wins, and console him when he loses. But... I'm scared. I don't want him to get hurt. I have been reading too much about boxers getting brain injuries, and I'm really worried for him. It's his dream, and I won't stand in his way, but I don't like it too much. What can I do? Is there some kind of support group for significant others?

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Well first things first you had better stop him from driving because he is more likely to die in the car on the way to the fight than he is in the ring.

And by the way don't let him play squash as there are more fatalities in that sport than any other

And I'm being serious

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Originally Posted by Snakey

Boxing requires a different kind of strength. You can be able to lift heaps easily but punch like S***. It all comes with practice and technique. Good luck to your bf and dont worry as long as his corner looks after him then he will be fine ;)

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I think he should be ok there... he said that back when he was doing it as an amateur, he was usually the one who hit harder, including the time when he got to fight a world champion. Of course it's been years since he's been in the ring, but I'm sure he'll catch up

Thanks everyone for the well wishes :)

The_One: it's in September

steady_E: I never once said I was going to stop him or get in the way of his dreams. It's his life and he will do what he wants... but I am always allowed to be worried for him. I'm not so worried that he's going to die... it's the possibility of a brain injury that bothers me.

well my trainer says this to us all the time.....No matter how good you are your gonna get hit.......and every guy wants to become pro until they get hit.....then they change there mind. So best of wishes to your boyfriend. Peace out