Help! My boyfriend is going to box

[cuteboots]

Hi everyone,
My boyfriend used to box back in high school (before I knew him). He did pretty well but for various reasons he stopped. Now, years later, he wants to get back into it... only this time professionally. He's got himself a promoter and a date for his first fight and everything...

Now I love him and will support him no matter what he does. I'll be there to cheer him on, congratulate him when he wins, and console him when he loses. But... I'm scared. I don't want him to get hurt. I have been reading too much about boxers getting brain injuries, and I'm really worried for him. It's his dream, and I won't stand in his way, but I don't like it too much. What can I do? Is there some kind of support group for significant others?

[chamiley]

u r at the wrong website. but good luck to ur boyfriend

[Snakey]

Get to know the people in his corner and make sure they are reliable. If they seem dodgy then tell your bf coz you as his gf need to know that they will save him from taking any un-neccesary punishment.

[CountryBoy]

u r at the wrong website. but good luck to ur boyfriend

[X]

Support group for significant others? There are not enough support groups for ex-fighters!!

What the hell do you need a support group for. If your other half is going pro, then it's his job. How many support groups for significant others are there in other professions

I think you may not realise what you are getting into here, in terms of the boxing?

[Purist]

If he is cleared by all doctors "By stats" he should be fine.

But get familiar with the training and the people that train him, learn more about boxing and his trainers etc then even he knows, that way you can look at every situation and tell him about how you feel. If he wants to do this then he may, but if you want to feel confident about letting him do it, get familiar with his corner, trainers etc... so you can some what ensure it to yourself.

[Snakey]

If he is cleared by all doctors "By stats" he should be fine.

But get familiar with the training and the people that train him, learn more about boxing and his trainers etc then even he knows, that way you can look at every situation and tell him about how you feel. If he wants to do this then he may, but if you want to feel confident about letting him do it, get familiar with his corner, trainers etc... so you can some what ensure it to yourself.

Coz we think alike

[drgoodlooking]

Get to know the people in his corner and make sure they are reliable. If they seem dodgy then tell your bf coz you as his gf need to know that they will save him from taking any un-neccesary punishment.

, Yeah like Muhammad Ali's wife told him before the fight in Zaire.

[raleights]

just don't give her the list of all the boxers who have died since the year 1900

oops

[LarryB]

Honestly i wouldnt worry about it.
besides a black eye and a few bruises getting seriously hurt is rare.
More people die by stray balls on a golf course each year, stupid but its a fact.

his corner men are there to look after him

[rob7022000]

I remember a fighters' mother getting in the ring and hitting his opponent with a shoe. the fighter got disqualified and the fight was stopped.

If he is getting hurt in the ring, that's a proven tactic that will work. Plus it will prove to him that u love him.

Good luck from me. Hope he stays safe.

[cuteboots]

Thank you everyone (except X) for your suggestions. I'm glad that the corner people will be there to watch out for him like you say. I've talked to him about it and he says he will only keep going as long as he stays competitive.... if he gets beaten badly, or it's too one-sided, or he gets knocked out, he says he will stop. That makes me feel a lot better.

X: Why shouldn't there be a support group for the people who hate the thought of the ones they love getting beaten up? There are groups for people whose SOs have other professions that are dangerous enough to inspire worry. The military for example (I have dated a couple of soldiers in the past... one is now off in Iraq )

[JonesJrMayweather]

how old is he and how much does weigh? And does he have dreams of being champ?

[drgoodlooking]

Mayweather, maybe we should be asking her how tall is she and how much she weighs?

[JonesJrMayweather]

What if her boyfriend is former olympian and HW Micheal Bennett....what ever happened to him?