Some guy at work is really doing my head in!!

[leftylee]

Okay as most you know I am studying A-Levels at college but work in a supermarket part time to pay for driving lessons, a car etc. I've been there since early September and everythings fine, the fellow staff are great and I enjoy the pay slips every month

However there is just one problem.

There's a guy who I work with on my department and he is an absoloute knob. He's in around late 30's and really pisses me off. Steve his name, he works there full time....

He always trys to bring me down and makes comments about my work. Saying it's poor and a load of crap. Another colleague informed me he referred to me as a "Shithead" the other day. A few colleagues tell me he's been talking to them about myself. I've even heard him refer to my work once as "Useless". I responded by saying "If it's that bad why don't you do it then".

The shithouse he is, hasn't got the balls to personally call me names to my face, If he ever tried that I would give him a load of abuse back.

He always gives me dirty looks and never speaks to me unless he wants to say something negative.

I'm not hot-headed by any means but I can picture myself lashing out one day at him when I've had enough. One thing that could happen is there are no CCTV in the back of the store and If we are around each other and he says anything it could get nasty.

All colleagues have to complete 12 weeks before they are offered a contract, my 12 week period finishes next week (I've been offered a contract). When it's up I'm really thinking about asking the boss to move me department.

I'm just wondering people, put yourselves in my shoes and what would you do ? Just ignore him ?

I'm only 17 yrs old remember

Cheers

[Plopeater]

Wait till he leaves now its dark and wrap a baseball bat round his head

[CFH]

Wait till he leaves now its dark and wrap a baseball bat round his head

Solid advice. However, I'd do my best to ignore him bro. He's middle-aged and working full-time at a supermarket, life is already kicking his ass for you. I'd wager no one there has any respect for him anyways, so I doubt they take what he says to heart. This is your first job, and you're going to need a reference from it, so beating him to a bloody pulp would probably be detrimental to your future employment, not to mention the negative effects a criminal record would carry. You'd be hurting yourself by doing that, in my experience anyways.

If it gets really bad and it's making you not want to go to work etc., then go to his boss about it (unless they're friends or something). I like the idea of asking him to move you to a dept. where you won't have to deal with the idiot.

Good luck mate.

[CGM]

In your working life you wil run into people you don't like, and people who don't like you. It's inevitable. Most people know how to act professional. That is the key, act professionally. Sometimes there is not much you can do. An open verbally abusive confrontation with a co-worker, where others can see and hear, is almost never a good thing. Your boss will not be pleased, regardless of who is at fault.

Because this guy is twice your age, directly confronting him may not be the best thing, and likely won't help matters. You may wish to get advice and/or help from an older co-worker whom you trust and is sympathetic to your situation. Going to your boss (not his if the two are different) might be a good idea, just make sure you have very good justification.

[leftylee]

Wait till he leaves now its dark and wrap a baseball bat round his head

Solid advice. However, I'd do my best to ignore him bro. He's middle-aged and working full-time at a supermarket, life is already kicking his ass for you. I'd wager no one there has any respect for him anyways, so I doubt they take what he says to hear. This is your first job, and you're going to need a reference from it, so beating him to a bloody pulp would probably be detrimental to your future employment, not to mention the negative effects a criminal record would carry. You'd be hurting yourself by doing that, in my experience anyways.

If it gets really bad and it's making you not want to go to work etc., then go to his boss about it (unless they're friends or something). I like the idea of asking him to move you to a dept. where you won't have to deal with the idiot.

Good luck mate.

Cheers Josh some great advice there.

And yes nobody really likes him there. Some woman reported him last week after she heard him calling me a "Shithead", she said that was way out of line.

Not sounding big headed here but I think he could be jealous of me.

I'm on the verge of passing my A-levels and already have a bunch of GCSE'S. He's stuck in a supermarket working 40 hours a week knowing he won't get any further in life. I'm currently learning to drive and I've booked my test. He can't drive and he lives a good way from the workplace. He also knows in 10 years time I'll have a good job with the grades I've got and I'm basically using his workplace as a stepping stone for better things.

Oh and I agree Josh I would only consider hitting out at him if he layed a finger on me. A criminal record is the last thing I need.

[kingfrnk]

damn i hate people like those fags. i usually ignore them because it really doesnt get to me that much only when i was working at Buffalo Wild Wings and this jerk of a manager was always giving me shit. especially when we were busy and he tell me to do this and do that i just wanted to slash his fukin tires.

but its really better just to ignore him. but if u ever get ready to quit just take a fuk load of stuff thats wat i did.

[Trainer Monkey]

Wait till he leaves now its dark and wrap a baseball bat round his head

Solid advice. However, I'd do my best to ignore him bro. He's middle-aged and working full-time at a supermarket, life is already kicking his ass for you. I'd wager no one there has any respect for him anyways, so I doubt they take what he says to hear. This is your first job, and you're going to need a reference from it, so beating him to a bloody pulp would probably be detrimental to your future employment, not to mention the negative effects a criminal record would carry. You'd be hurting yourself by doing that, in my experience anyways.

If it gets really bad and it's making you not want to go to work etc., then go to his boss about it (unless they're friends or something). I like the idea of asking him to move you to a dept. where you won't have to deal with the idiot.

Good luck mate.

Cheers Josh some great advice there.

And yes nobody really likes him there. Some woman reported him last week after she heard him calling me a "Shithead", she said that was way out of line.

Not sounding big headed here but I think he could be jealous of me.

I'm on the verge of passing my A-levels and already have a bunch of GCSE'S. He's stuck in a supermarket working 40 hours a week knowing he won't get any further in life. I'm currently learning to drive and I've booked my test. He can't drive and he lives a good way from the workplace. He also knows in 10 years time I'll have a good job with the grades I've got and I'm basically using his workplace as a stepping stone for better things.

Oh and I agree Josh I would only consider hitting out at him if he layed a finger on me. A criminal record is the last thing I need.

It is really solid advice
No matter what buisness your in,your going to run in to a-hole,wait it out and they usually shoot themselves in the foot anyway.

[CFH]

Wait till he leaves now its dark and wrap a baseball bat round his head

Solid advice. However, I'd do my best to ignore him bro. He's middle-aged and working full-time at a supermarket, life is already kicking his ass for you. I'd wager no one there has any respect for him anyways, so I doubt they take what he says to hear. This is your first job, and you're going to need a reference from it, so beating him to a bloody pulp would probably be detrimental to your future employment, not to mention the negative effects a criminal record would carry. You'd be hurting yourself by doing that, in my experience anyways.

If it gets really bad and it's making you not want to go to work etc., then go to his boss about it (unless they're friends or something). I like the idea of asking him to move you to a dept. where you won't have to deal with the idiot.

Good luck mate.

Cheers Josh some great advice there.

And yes nobody really likes him there. Some woman reported him last week after she heard him calling me a "Shithead", she said that was way out of line.

Not sounding big headed here but I think he could be jealous of me.

I'm on the verge of passing my A-levels and already have a bunch of GCSE'S. He's stuck in a supermarket working 40 hours a week knowing he won't get any further in life. I'm currently learning to drive and I've booked my test. He can't drive and he lives a good way from the workplace. He also knows in 10 years time I'll have a good job with the grades I've got and I'm basically using his workplace as a stepping stone for better things.

Oh and I agree Josh I would only consider hitting out at him if he layed a finger on me. A criminal record is the last thing I need.

Yeah, you got your whole future ahead of you, this is just a little hiccup. Your co-workers actions demonstrate how well-respected this guy is, I'm sure you boss(es) are well aware of his attitude. If it's been reported, I'm sure they'll deal with it.

Bitter old (and not so old) jerks like that are a dime a dozen man, you just can't let 'em get to ya. Unfortunately, you'll probably have to deal with many people like that over the course of your life. The only way they can really affect you is if you give them the power to do so. Easier said than done of course, but try to shrug it of, try not to let it get ya down, and if it becomes a real problem you can always go to your boss about it.

Anyways, I'm not saying anything you don't already know. Good luck.

[gudnite vienna]

personally mate id just ask the guy out right what his problem is.. I would be interested to hear what he got to say if u confront him...

[yvonne]

Okay as most you know I am studying A-Levels at college but work in a supermarket part time to pay for driving lessons, a car etc. I've been there since early September and everythings fine, the fellow staff are great and I enjoy the pay slips every month

However there is just one problem.

There's a guy who I work with on my department and he is an absoloute knob. He's in around late 30's and really pisses me off. Steve his name, he works there full time....

He always trys to bring me down and makes comments about my work. Saying it's poor and a load of crap. Another colleague informed me he referred to me as a "Shithead" the other day. A few colleagues tell me he's been talking to them about myself. I've even heard him refer to my work once as "Useless". I responded by saying "If it's that bad why don't you do it then".

The shithouse he is, hasn't got the balls to personally call me names to my face, If he ever tried that I would give him a load of abuse back.

He always gives me dirty looks and never speaks to me unless he wants to say something negative.

I'm not hot-headed by any means but I can picture myself lashing out one day at him when I've had enough. One thing that could happen is there are no CCTV in the back of the store and If we are around each other and he says anything it could get nasty.

All colleagues have to complete 12 weeks before they are offered a contract, my 12 week period finishes next week (I've been offered a contract). When it's up I'm really thinking about asking the boss to move me department.

I'm just wondering people, put yourselves in my shoes and what would you do ? Just ignore him ?

I'm only 17 yrs old remember

Cheers

Been there plenty of times when i was a bit younger.This nob at work will most likely have no social life,no girlfriend,and no prospects in his life!!Just think about it bud,he's the one who's weak because he's the one who is showing all the signs of frustration and feels great thinking he can chew people younger than him.Dont take it too harsh and just laugh it off!You know,i know and the other people who work along side him know that he's a nob.Just do what your payed to do mate and if you get too pissed off by him it'll be worth while gannin on the bag when you finish work and let off some steam!Plus dont let work drag you down.Always remember that work is only part of life so dont class as life is all about work work work!

He's not even worth hitting mate,believe me.If anything he might want you to kick off so he can get bonus points built up in his mind.Dont give him the satifaction bud!

Get yourself out with your mates or go for work out on the bag or a jog!It helped for me when i was younger!

"YOU ALWAYS GET ONE AT WORK!"

[SigmaMu]

I had a similar problem many years ago, I ended up just suggesting I would beat up my floor manager and I got fired on the spot. I hated this fucker.

Just remember you need the little money and you are only there part time.

Ignore him, but try to see if he brings a lunch and then do things to his lunch, you can use your imagination or do a google on how to get back at co workers with out getting caught but you must NEVER, EVER brag or boast about this to anyone. Keep your little job, so at least you will have something to fall back on later as a resume in the near future for any other part time jobs. Don't get your self fired if push comes to shove, talk to the boss and tell him you are thinking about leaving because you are unconfortable in your dept. You can't biatch and moan if you really suck at your job though. If you are not giving it 100 % then you have nothing to complain about, I guess you are just new and have not learned the ropes all that well. Remember you are only there part time and this biatch is there all day, fuck with his car or get one of your homies to do it for you but no one else must ever know. A fish dies by it's own mouth and so do people who do things and then brag about them so remember, mums the word. All I can say is just let him talk, talk is free and keeping your mouth shut when he says anything will deter him some. Just pretend he is talking chinese or something lol. Don't know what else to say but good luch.

[Julius Rain]

He could be jealous of you, your in school, your a 17 year old who has a job, and he is a middle age men that works with you. He probubly hates every teenage thats on the right track cause he never found the right track for himself.

Everyone comes across a-holes, I myself is the youngest at work. The way i deal with a-holes is i confront them and make sure they understand I may be younger but Im a man too. Dont confront them with aggression but with intelligentlemen(my word) See older guys who are like this are intimidated inside of us younger guys cause they know we will surpass them easily. So when we confront them with the smarts we have over them they have no choice but to realize not to fuck with us, cause we are the future bosses.

Just keep up the good job Ryan, try one of our advise here.

If none of our advise work, then as soon as you get your driving license. Run that sonbitch over

[Youngblood]

start pulling your weight and quit being such a dog fuker.

Secondly, don`t listen to me. I told my last boss to stick it up his ass and made fun of him in front of the whole place, staff and customers. He sorta deserved it, as was pulling a heavy on me, as likes to with most employees and in front of people...but yea, in hindsight...I prob. should have handled it differently.

Gotta admit, it felt good though. Pegged the bastard for what he was...a controlling and condescending prick who did things for pure self-gratification and often without logic and reason towards the working environment. Won`t look good on a resume...so, yea, best to consider such things before acting.

[ICB]

I have no idea what i would do Lee sorry i really can't give you any real advice. I haven't been in that situation before, but if it was me i don't know if i could control myself.

I would probably confront him about it and ask him what his god damn problem is, then he would probaby say something offensive. And i'd probably end up clumping him.

So confronting him isn't the solution because if he says something insulting to you. Are you going to be able to control yourself ? and what good would it do ?

I think Josh had the best advice just try and ignore him, or speak to someone at your work about it. And report him for harrassing you or ETC. Unfortunately Lee work is just like school.

You always get some knob head trying to make your life shitty, but you'll get through it mate any of my solutions above would be the best idea. Let us know how you get on.

[antimoron]

Ive been to similar situation when i was still a jr. architect in our company. Some designers(5-15 years my senior) talk shit about my work behind my back. I heard all kinds of criticism, unprofessionalism and etc... you name it.. They do this childish act whenever the senior partners in the company entrusted me an important task.

10 years later, from being jr. architect, i am now part of the design consultant and them.. still there at the technical department which is under my department.. Now, all their work design comes to my office and needs my approval... i always play around not to approve their work... revenge time..

Lesson...

DONT GO TO THEIR LEVEL(being an a**hole)... just go on with your business and do your best...


lefty, you are only 17 bro... time is in your side..