When sparring or fighting think and look like a killer.

You are going to kill the guy, stop him from raping your family, go for him like he had hurt you gf/sister/mother.

you want the advantage you attack him, the same way you would a intruder to your home.

You want the advantage do the above.

I am not going to tell you ways to distract the opponent, there are many ways but I am not going to teach you how to be a weasel.

Good luck.