Quote Originally Posted by Kel View Post
It's funny that I hear people saying don't break eye contact.

Where I come from if you look at anyone long enough they will start a fight with you on the basis that your challenging them. Like animals do.

I had a fight with a guy over a woman (yeah I know)

I was 18 he was about 30. He took off his jacket and his watch and it made me think, shit this guy is too relaxed, what does he know that I don't?

Third punch he was out for 5 minutes, I even helped him up. He was a high class business man trained to look dominating and powerful. But he was a wimp at the end of the day.

Body language can be fake in every case
This is awesome... That was exactly what I was getting at...
I think body language is 99% of it.. At least in how we pick it up and send the message to the brain that THIS is a guy we should be wary of if anything goes down...

Even a weak guy can get his body language perfect.. He can tilt his head back, cross his arms, stare comfortably, etc etc, and people could perceive him as a tough guy... But deep down it is completely faked...

But then you take a guy who looks like he's been in jail. He's got his shirt off, tattoo's all over him, scars on his head,,, a real rough looking dude, but he's sitting on the edge of the gutter with his head hung down, sobbing like his favourite dog died... Socially all his physical attributes i.e. tattoo's, tell us this guy is a tough f'ker... But with him in this positition, would you actually perceive the threat of his tattoo's or rough looks?
You probably wouldn't feel any threat at all, even though you know deep down this guy could probably rip your head off...

But then their is the weak business guy on the train who hasn't even stolen a chocolate bar, let alone been in a fight,,,, and because he has his body language down and doesn't break eye contact with you,,,, you perceive the threat from him...


On that level, it's just like we are animals, still walking around without communication or advanced logic brains, but we can spot the guys out instantly who's demeanor is threatening or challenging to our masculinity in the tribe...