I would like some advice. Some serious and some comedic.

[JT Rock]

Cliff,

I could have sworn you told us your best friends girl hated you at 1 point and was trying to get you out of his life?

Or was that another BF?

[boozeboxer]

Cliff,

I could have sworn you told us your best friends girl hated you at 1 point and was trying to get you out of his life?

Or was that another BF?

That was probably the same girl. For a very long time this girl didn't like me or talk to me at all. In fact one time I made her cry when drinking and felt poorly about it.

She slowly began to trust me and now we can talk often. She is very loyal to me.
This particular girl does not warm up to anyone very fast, and treated my family the same way and other people. Just takes her a very long time to open up.

I just feel shit about it all.

[JT Rock]

Cliff,

I could have sworn you told us your best friends girl hated you at 1 point and was trying to get you out of his life?

Or was that another BF?

That was probably the same girl. For a very long time this girl didn't like me or talk to me at all. In fact one time I made her cry when drinking and felt poorly about it.

She slowly began to trust me and now we can talk often. She is very loyal to me.
This particular girl does not warm up to anyone very fast, and treated my family the same way and other people. Just takes her a very long time to open up.

I just feel shit about it all.

There are consequences for our actions in life and repercussions. I don't know if there is any answer or advice for you.

Im sure there are good days and bad days. In a girls eyes if you fooled around once you will do it again, she is protecting her territory. In her comfort zone removing the situation all together is her solution. Hence thats why she is suggesting you choose.

Your going to have to hope that she can be trusting and comfortable, I would hope you wouldn't do that again with your buddies girl and that may be the case. Maybe you can cut back on playful flirting and interactions you COULD be having that may be hurting your girl...

[superheavyrhun]

Obviously you know that there might, at some point down the road, be a point where either you have to choose or your girlfriend makes the choice for you. You can try and guide and reassure your gf that there is no threat from this girl, and that you are totally into her and deliver the genuine compliments that will not sound fake. I'm pretty sure there's no guaranteed way of making sure the gf can actually get over this, maybe a worst case scenario would be to present a case that you are willing to break of friendship with this girl, but to do it in such a way where your gf would have to be a complete bitch to ask you to do that. It's manipulative, but I'm sure your conscience can handle it.

Alternatively, get really drunk with the both of them, then ask if they fancy a threesome.

You may speculate as to which aspect here is the more laughable of my advice.

[boozeboxer]

I agree. The problem is I would never choose to not have my best friend around. He helps me all the time. We have a great time together and he is invaluable to the family operation.

I know we pay for what we do. But if my best mate doesn't have a problem with it, I would think a girl I told because I am honest and who I care for deeply would understand.


I also think this girl is 'the one', but I am just worn out with all the shit. I know she is in a very stressful situation, but it isn't a bed of roses (as rhun would put it (great site)) on this side either. I am a very practical guy and about tired of all the drama and the thought has at least crossed my mind to just give up.

[Spicoli]

This girlfriend, is she legally seperated and moving forward on divorce or waiting? I dunno dude but sounds like alot is you need to decide what you want. I get current gf bugging out a bit and though she's ticked it's good you told her. Giving what she's coming out of I can see her looking over your shoulder. You ready for that? The friend man, you cannot replace longtime bros who have experienced the best and worst of you. Has she ever expressed concern that she could be pitting two best friends against one another?

[CFH]

If your girlfriend is being jealous and possessive about you being friends with another girl (who may or may not have romantic feelings towards you), I'd say that's a pretty big red flag.

[Nameless]

Considering that you did kiss this girl once, I can understand a bit why your girlfriend is not exactly fond on the other girl. Perhaps you could talk to your friend and explain her the situation and see how she feels(i.e make sure she's not in love with you and doesn,t dare to say it) in order to make sure to hurt no one, if the ground's clear, you could perhaps get her to talk to your girlfriend in order to reassure her... or match her with one of your good friend so jealousy's no more an issue