Acid attack facts

[Master]

Absent father or mother, divorce, homelessness, junkie parents, alcoholic parents, physical and emotional abuse, neglect, incest, those kinds of things.

Yes, a child not having caring parents who provide love, education and good role model.

I would not say because you have an absent parent that the family is broken.

[Gandalf]

I would say that it is a broken family. A child needs a good male role model. Of course it is a tragedy if the Dad dies at war or of cancer, but all too many men abandon their kids and at a formative age. Trust me, when your mother is unable to give you connection and your Dad walks out on you and never ever tries to contact you again when you are 10 you are in a broken family. I am not being racist when I point this out. My experiences are no different than many black people. I know what it is like to grow up in an emotional prison like that. It's an all too common thing unfortunately.

[Beanz]

But you have never thrown acid over anyone and I expect the children of the neighbor back home you are talking about have not either. So? I know more people whose parents divorced in the 70's than stayed together but the overwhelming majority of them are not criminals and don't use it as an excuse. I was once sucker punched, knocked out from a blow to the back of the head and the twat that did it blamed it on his parents divorcing when he was a teenager ffs. Personal responsibility. Fucking blame culture started with kids born in the 80s and under the influence of America. The real Satan.

[Beanz]

The America thing was semi tongue in cheek🇺🇸😳😉😜

[Master]

Point being, you turned out alright and are a decent and happy human being.

[Beanz]

Just sounds like life mate. You did well for yourself while many people from stable two parent homes fuck up their lives big style. I bet that you looked good on the dance floor 😜

[Master]

You are only missing righting a poem about your first true love, maybe a song.

[Master]

You are only missing righting a poem about your first true love, maybe a song.

She was really special and we clicked. She liked odd music like Belle and Sebastian and Pulp B-sides then I would give her Hunky Dory. I was too young though so when someone richer and older comes along, then I lose out of course. But she found my number and we met in a bar and we had a great time and kissed at the end. I never saw her again. That was like a second broken heart. I had no choice I was going full on gay.

Well it was better than throwing acid at her.

[walrus]

Granted that I have never thrown acid in faces. But I reacted in different ways. I actually pursued a homosexual lifestyle for a while even though I was not gay. I was so disturbed by trauma after my first lovely girlfriend leaving me for someone older and cooler I decided to erase myself and start again. My best mate was gay so now was I and every night we were out taking drugs and sometimes other things happened. There was a time my gay friend caught me in bed with a gay friend of his. Strange considering I am not gay. 'I couldn't believe you would do that! he said. I could handle being the man in that situation. However it wasn't me and that probably caused identity issues. Instead I lost myself in lots and lots of drugs. I really became something quite wild. And boy could you dance because of those drugs.

My friend is still doing all that in London now. I don't know how he does it. As a comfortable straight man, I am happy to have a woman I love and that is all I need. But still those childhood traumas creep and we know they will never leave, but I will just be the best person I can be.

Had a bad pill addiction for many years, a legal kind. And that went on for a long time. Even now lots of pills on stock ready for the big S. Only joking, just as needed. But for sure I was an addict to something for 15 years.

All these things go back to childhood trauma. My sister played out in very different ways. Think she was a gran at 34. It continues generation after generation. That Dad is an idiot too. Mum works all day, emotionally gone gran helping on weekend. I look on and get the chills.

I am not becoming a Dad. I am too old anyway now.

So there is hope for me

[Master]

I was hoping walrus would not find this thread.

[walrus]

I was hoping walrus would not find this thread.

You r right master, I’ll start a new official gay hookup thread