Snakeys 1yr relationship ended and now hes gutted!

[Dizaster]

Just hang in there buddy! You should maybe take the day off, go to the video store and just hire a bunch of movies and stay in bed all day watching them... Maybe catch up with some friends..

I broke up with my first love when I was about 18 as well after we'd been together 2 years.. I had persuid her for a year before that as well... Fuck I seriously felt like dying.. It's probably one of the worst feelings in the world.. One thing that helped was just hanging around with my friends which took my mind off it a little bit.. I barely ate for a few weeks though... It was horrible because I still had to see her around school.. I avoided her as much as possible, but it was pretty f'd... I was like an obsessed little puppy dog when I saw her in class or ever talked to her, I practically begged for her to see me again, which really didn't help and looking back now, it's probably the worst thing you can do.. But my instincts just said do anything you can to get her back...
On our graduation ball I followed her around all night after she offered to dance with me, then pretty much begger her to kiss me... That was the last time I really saw her and it eventually got easier... But NO part of it was actually very easy at all...
It sucks man! But know that a lot of us has been through it too and can support ya

[Snakey]

Just hang in there buddy! You should maybe take the day off, go to the video store and just hire a bunch of movies and stay in bed all day watching them... Maybe catch up with some friends..

I broke up with my first love when I was about 18 as well after we'd been together 2 years.. I had persuid her for a year before that as well... Fuck I seriously felt like dying.. It's probably one of the worst feelings in the world.. One thing that helped was just hanging around with my friends which took my mind off it a little bit.. I barely ate for a few weeks though... It was horrible because I still had to see her around school.. I avoided her as much as possible, but it was pretty f'd... I was like an obsessed little puppy dog when I saw her in class or ever talked to her, I practically begged for her to see me again, which really didn't help and looking back now, it's probably the worst thing you can do.. But my instincts just said do anything you can to get her back...
On our graduation ball I followed her around all night after she offered to dance with me, then pretty much begger her to kiss me... That was the last time I really saw her and it eventually got easier... But NO part of it was actually very easy at all...
It sucks man! But know that a lot of us has been through it too and can support ya

Yeah mate, i just want her back so bad. You dont know what you had till its gone. Trust me dude, the snake man is gonna use every little bit of charm hes got in him when he sees her in a week or two. Im gonna give her around two weeks and then im gonna ask to see her (as my bday is in two weeks). She said she would but as a friend. But im gonna see if i can pull her into old habits. You know put my arm around her and see what she does and maybe try a kiss and if she kisses me back then we are in business but if she pulls away and wants no part of it then im down shit creek without a paddle.

[Andre]

Yeah mate, i just want her back so bad. You dont know what you had till its gone. Trust me dude, the snake man is gonna use every little bit of charm hes got in him when he sees her in a week or two. Im gonna give her around two weeks and then im gonna ask to see her (as my bday is in two weeks). She said she would but as a friend. But im gonna see if i can pull her into old habits. You know put my arm around her and see what she does and maybe try a kiss and if she kisses me back then we are in business but if she pulls away and wants no part of it then im down shit creek without a paddle.

Good luck mate.
But make it easy on your self, two weeks of false hopes could bring you right back to todays feelings.
Write to her or ring her.
Ask her if it is someone else for a start or maybe she wants to be free and see other guys?
If it is either of these you have been let off a major hook early on and you should move on ; if not, there is hope.

[Snakey]

Good luck mate.
But make it easy on your self, two weeks of false hopes could bring you right back to todays feelings.
Write to her or ring her.
Ask her if it is someone else for a start or maybe she wants to be free and see other guys?
If it is either of these you have been let off a major hook early on and you should move on ; if not, there is hope.

Nah i asked her before if there was someone else and she told me there wasnt. I think its coz its her last yr at school (ive been out of school for nearly two yrs) and i think shes feeling the pressure. I got the impression she was trying to say its too much and that its not working out at this present time.

[AdamGB]

Yeah mate, i just want her back so bad. You dont know what you had till its gone. Trust me dude, the snake man is gonna use every little bit of charm hes got in him when he sees her in a week or two. Im gonna give her around two weeks and then im gonna ask to see her (as my bday is in two weeks). She said she would but as a friend. But im gonna see if i can pull her into old habits. You know put my arm around her and see what she does and maybe try a kiss and if she kisses me back then we are in business but if she pulls away and wants no part of it then im down shit creek without a paddle.

Snakey mate, that's not the way to go about things... Dunno how old you are but I'm guessing you're young based off that.

You need to talk over the problems that you had, get some closure/reasons etc... if you're going to have a real relationship then it's not just a case of trying to get off with her again.

You're not on steady foundations. Loads of couples take time out from each other.

[Fantana]

Fantanas Guide to dealing with Heart Break

A HMHT has experienced pretty much all that life has to offer including the delights of being able to talk with moderately attractive women without them throwing up. Heart Break is one of those things which can make even the most rugged real man, such as myself, loose his way. The reason Hearts Break is scientifically proven to be related to dehydration, lack of sexy time and your lovers mother. You can take care of the first two by drinking more fluoride free water and buying some new white socks (or for the smaller member getting free white socks from megabowl). The third one however is just one of those things which cannot be changed, like annoying Welsh people. Rather than stewing in your own mess all alone just follow this effective guide to make sure you can deal with something almost as painful as blue ball syndrome.

4 Simple Steps to kicking Cupids Ass

1)The last thing you need is to be constantly reminded of that girl you were physical with, sexually I mean. Get rid of anything that will remind you of her. Photos, clothes or used rubber you left lying on the floor to show off to friends. All of these things need to be put somewhere like in your collection of old girlfriends shit or disposed off, perhaps clinically. Out of sight, out of mind. Just use the same thing you had to do when you couldn’t drop off your little soldiers in a timely fashion when with her, think of other girls.
2)HMHTs are like tigers, strong, muscular and menacing but never ginger. Ever. Like tigers HMHTs can not stand to be caged, unless of course it is with a hot women who is on heat. What you need to do is go out, explore the land and have a lot of fun, in a non gay way. Make plans for every single day but remember to work them around your bowls of coco pops with manwhiches. You may have other less important commitments like work or funerals, don’t neglect them completely, but don’t engulf yourself in them because that would be hiding the problem like you would hide a flesh wound in a gun fight. Or fat in a shirts off showdown. You need to deal with this head on and take it violently from behind, no pun intended.
3)Surround yourself with people, other HMHTs would be ideal. However, standard humans will do. You will constantly be reminded how much better you are than them and this will of course make you feel much better. You can laugh at their short comings and point them out to raise your own status. It is ok to let these dip-shits know you are hurting inside, in a non gay way, as it will make you appear slightly vulnerable and they will offer to buy you things. If it stops working start acting more Heart Broken, maybe put on a loose fitting top rather than a muscle clinger.
4)Something done over again and again will create a habit or an anchor. An anchor is something which for example when you are feeling low and you hear a song enough times while in that low state will trigger an emotion. The next time you hear that song even if you are happy you will be put into a low state again. Don’t allow this to happen because you don’t want to be in the middle of a Shirts off Showdown with an arch rival and “Akon – It don’t matter comes” on and your routine falls apart. Habits are done over and over again and can become part of your everyday life. Humans have many habits which when observed from the superior perspective of a HMHT seem utterly insane or pointless. It creates for them a comfort zone they don’t want to be removed from. Make sure whatever your habits are they are positive and inline with what a HMHT should be doing like picking on Galiens but never making bare skin contact with them.

Final Thoughts

A Broken Heart may take a long time to heal, even longer than your relationship lasted, so we are dealing with perhaps 2 and half weeks. It is important to stick to the guide and not drift away in a blaze of horniness desperation. If you feel physically sick a couple of tablespoons of Calpol will help. Make sure you get an adult to open the lid for you as those bastards are tricky. A Broken Heart needs fixing all alone, other women will not do this for you. I mean how could they, they are there for entertainment and not for self improvement. You will need to work on yourself and not use or rely on others to do this for you. You’re a HMHT for fucks sake, you’re capable of putting together even the trickiest of self assembly furniture. This means dealing with a Broken Heart is a walk in the park, late on a Friday night looking for a lady named Vixen. Heart Break will happen because as a HMHT, such as myself, you wear your heart on your sleeve. The first time will always be the hardest to deal with due to inexperience. The other times maybe harder, no pun intended, but easier to get through as you know where to go, no pun intended.

Yours in manliness,

Fantana

[Saddo]

To turn this around mate you are 19 it was one year out of your life, i know it sounds hard but this could have dragged on for years and messed up your life rather than just a year... i know it dosnt feel good to hear this but its better this happened now than later.

hell your already back with your mates who you aint seen in ages and i'm guessing that is because of this relationship so....

my advice is to get out there and fuck everything till your cock drops off... your 19 FFS you wont get these years back and will have plenty of time to fall in love later mate.

life a cunt somtimes but you have had a lucky escape you just dont relise it yet

keep your chin up mate

[Mark TKO]

yep you are only 19 - get out there and nail bitch for the next few years

one day it will all be over...make the most of it

[CutMeMick]

Snake eyes...

Chin up my Oz partner.... I'm sure theres a shit load of hot ass Oz girls out there ready to be banged.... So go out there and make me proud...

[CutMeMick]

And in the words of Amy Winehouse..... 'Love is a loosing game'

[Kel]

To turn this around mate you are 19 it was one year out of your life, i know it sounds hard but this could have dragged on for years and messed up your life rather than just a year... i know it dosnt feel good to hear this but its better this happened now than later.

hell your already back with your mates who you aint seen in ages and i'm guessing that is because of this relationship so....

my advice is to get out there and fuck everything till your cock drops off... your 19 FFS you wont get these years back and will have plenty of time to fall in love later mate.

life a cunt somtimes but you have had a lucky escape you just dont relise it yet

keep your chin up mate

This is good advice. Get out with your mates and just have a good time.

Chances are this girl is fucking someone else anyway.

[AdamGB]

I'm out after this because it isn't working but to echo what myself, saddo and others have said:

Don't drag her down with the 'I love you stuff'... you'll come across as desperate/my hormones are all over the shop/unattractive/over imposing... I could go on and on.

and for the love of god don't tell her that story unless you enjoy being laughed at!!!!!!!

[Julius Rain]

Hey snakey, we all go through this at some point. Throughout that 1 year with her hopefully you have establish yourself into her heart. If not snakey, to be honest your at the edge of a clip. First let me tell you this, women are naturally attracted to guys that can handle them gone. Or atleast a guy that can act like it. The worst thing to do is be the first one to say you miss her. Women are attracted to strong men, mentally not really physically. If she sense your doing fine without her, it will send a chemical reaction through her body to want to know why your doing fine alone. Curiousity always brings back a pussycat, take it from me. If you occupy yourself with other things besides thinking of her. Mother nature will lure her back to you. If this does not work, move on she will just cost you headache in the future if you still manage to gain her back for atleast a while.

A bit of advice towards your next relationship if it doesn't work out with your recent ex. A women worth keeping is the one that loved you before she liked you. The best wifes are the once that never like their husband ways (leaving toilet seat down,showering only ones a week,never remember her bday,never remembers anything,farts excessively in bed,can only last a minute or two at best during sex,etc.) but never leaves his side cause she loves him.

[ono]

Suck it up, walk it off and go chase some punani!

Long term relationships at 19 are not the way to go anyway.

Seriously i know how you feel....i think most lads have been in your situation. I have. The best thing to do is move on as soon as. Go out with your mates, start a new hobby.

I started weight-lifting when it happened to me. It was just something to do to replace the time that i normally spent with her.

You'll be ok pal, your just 19. You have a lot of fun years in front of you. Now you can enjoy them without being committed to just one girl.

I wouldn't bother trying to win her back. I think that will just lead to more heartache. After a couple of weeks without speaking to her, you might feel completely different. Good luck mate

[Diane]

Ahhhh teenage love, oh how I remember that so well. My high school love and I were together for almost 5 years, and during that time we only got into 1, yes only 1 fight. Everybody thought that we were the perfect couple. We were talking about getting engaged, we were looking at rings, when BAM, he met this bitch that worked by him, and that was all she wrote. I was devastated, I couldn't eat, sleep, and I cried constantly. And what made it worse, is that he would not be honest with me, and come out and tell me that he met someone else, to which 6 months later he proposed to her, 4 months later they were married, and 1 month later she was pregnant. Talk about rubbing salt into my wound!

I know that everyone says this, and they say it because it's true, but time does heal all wounds. It took some time for me to get over him, but I did, I allowed myself time to get through the emotional stuff, and then slowly but surely, I started to go out with my friends, and tried to meet new people.

You said that this is her last year of school, I know that a lot of girls, and guys, start to get that itch of freedom in their senior year, and feel like they just don't want to be tied down to just one person. If she is going off to college, that can play a major roll in her decision as well.

I have to ask you, does she seem as heartbroken as you? If not, then that right there should tell you that her feelings weren't as deep as yours. And if that is the case, would you really want to get back with someone that doesn't love you? If after a year, she doesn't love you the same way as you do her, the chances are, she never will, and if you were able to get back with her, more than likely the result will be the same, only this time you will be even more heartbroken than the first time.

My advice to you - move on. You are only 19, and you have the best years ahead of you, so why would you want to be tied down, when you should be out having fun with your friends, and trying to meet new people? You should be taking the time to do things in your life that will help you grow as a person. Whether that is continuing your education, travel, participating in sports, or just going out and having fun with your friends. Just live life!!!!

Trust me, you will find that one person who loves you for your heart one day, but until then, don't let this girl continue to hold you back from enjoying your life. It is obvious that you have a great heart, otherwise you would not be feeling this way, and as a woman, I respect that you, and the other guys here, are sharing your feelings so publicly, not many guys would, so I commend you guys for being so open.

The biggest hurdle for you right now, is understanding the why, especially since it seems that she really hasn't given enough of a reason. When it happened to me, that was the hardest part to deal with, not knowing why. So, I would ask her to please at least have enough respect for you, and for what you shared for a year, to be honest with you about her reasons. Tell her that you respect her wanting to break-up, but you just want to be able to understand why. Hopefully she will be honest with you, if not, again, would you want to be with someone that doesn't respect you enough to be honest?

The don'ts.

Your emotions are in high gear right now, so don't try to do things like follow her, or constantly call her, or try to get her friends to help you, or any possilbe immature stunt to try and win her back. They don't work!! And later on, you will look back and think, boy was I being pathetic!! Trust me on this one, because I did it all, and I regret how stupid I was.

Don't let her use you. At certain times she will feel that itch of feeling lonely, and wanting someone, and she may call upon you. Don't fall for it. Teenage girls are not emotionally mature, and will play games with you and your heart. And once she realizes that she got what she wanted, it will be buh bye for you again, only to leave you hurt once again. So stay strong, and don't give in to that urge, and the thought of the possibility.

Don't try to date another girl to either make her jealous, or to help you get over her, that doesn't work either. Oh she may feel a twinge of jealousy, and might ask you guys to get together, but again, that is just an emotional game for her. And for you, it won't help heal your wound any faster, and in the process you can hurt the girl you are using.

So basically, just give yourself some time to get through all the emotions. Start to go out with your friends, and meet new people, without trying to meet that someone special, at least for now. Enjoy being single, have fun, and one day, love will find you again.

If you happen to look to music for inspiration during certain times in your life, keep listening to "Goodbye" by Gravity Kills, that will put you into a strong break-up mode.

Good luck, stay strong, and don't worry, you will find that true special girl.

And I'm giving you rep for having the courage to share your feelings, not many would. Believe it or not, but women really do appreciate guys that can share their feelings, because it shows that you are strong, and confident in yourself.