Snakeys 1yr relationship ended and now hes gutted!

[donnydarkoIRL]

Snakey, we're pretty much the same age as I mentioned earlier, I guess the difference is I went through what you're going through at an earlier age. It hurts like hell, but it happens all of us at one stage or another.

Listen mate, you do actually care about the girl, but what sort of a relationship is it if you have to use "weapons" against each other?

If you've broken up after a year, no matter how good the year was there's something wrong. I really don't want to be the bearer of bad news snakey, but the fact is that maybe she felt trapped. She felt that you're not the one she'd be with forever, she loved you but not in a permanent way.

All I'm saying is man, you've got to guard yourself from getting hurt more and be mature enough not to hurt her in return.
Thats going to be a tough task in itself.

[Snakey]

Snakey, we're pretty much the same age as I mentioned earlier, I guess the difference is I went through what you're going through at an earlier age. It hurts like hell, but it happens all of us at one stage or another.

Listen mate, you do actually care about the girl, but what sort of a relationship is it if you have to use "weapons" against each other?

If you've broken up after a year, no matter how good the year was there's something wrong. I really don't want to be the bearer of bad news snakey, but the fact is that maybe she felt trapped. She felt that you're not the one she'd be with forever, she loved you but not in a permanent way.

All I'm saying is man, you've got to guard yourself from getting hurt more and be mature enough not to hurt her in return.
Thats going to be a tough task in itself.

Yeah i know what ya mean dude but i was just amped and joking about the weapon thing. I just think she still loves me and that shes under alot of stress at the moment (not gonna tell yas why coz that shits personal) and those things that are causing stress are big things so when she broke up with me i dont think she was really in a good state of mind.

[donnydarkoIRL]

Yeah i know what ya mean dude but i was just amped and joking about the weapon thing. I just think she still loves me and that shes under alot of stress at the moment (not gonna tell yas why coz that shits personal) and those things that are causing stress are big things so when she broke up with me i dont think she was really in a good state of mind.

I understand man, exams and associated pressures are a serious cause of stress and anxiety, particularly to the student wishing to succeed in their pursuits.

I sit possible that some outside infleunce is warning her off you? Her parents, friends etc?

[Snakey]

I understand man, exams and associated pressures are a serious cause of stress and anxiety, particularly to the student wishing to succeed in their pursuits.

I sit possible that some outside infleunce is warning her off you? Her parents, friends etc?

Yeah possibly her friends are taking advantage of her being in a bad state of mind and i reckon when she came to them for advice they voted against me (she got new friends and i didnt like them). And her parents could of told her that she was spending too much time with me.

[Diane]

Okay, I gave my opinion earlier, and I wasn't going to comment anymore after that, however, as this discussion goes on, I wanted to make one more statement.

First I agree with Adam GB, for the love of God, do not use that story!!!! Big Mistake!!! You will come off as desperate, and pathetic, and she will see right through it.

Secondly, how would you know that Australian women are different from other woman? You're only 19, how many other woman have you experienced that are not Australian?

I know you think that you are mature for being only 19, trust me, pretty much everybody feels that way at 19, and in years to come, you will look back, and realize that you don't know anything about relationships yet. I don't mean to be harsh, but you seem to be in denial.

Denial
1.an assertion that something said, believed, alleged, etc., is false:
2.refusal to believe a doctrine, theory, or the like.
3.disbelief in the existence or reality of a thing.
4.refusal to recognize or acknowledge; a disowning or disavowal
5.Psychology. an unconscious defense mechanism used to reduce anxiety by denying thoughts, feelings, or facts that are consciously intolerable.

Most of us giving you advice are older than you, and we have much more life and relationship experience than you, so I hope you realize that we are only trying to help you, and give you guidance. We have all gone through what you are going through, so we are only trying to prevent you from making the same mistakes that we made, and are trying to prevent you from being further hurt. So, I hope you really listen to our words of wisdom, because you seem like a really nice guy, and I would hate to see you put yourself into a position that will only cause you more pain.

Stay strong, and good luck.

[donnydarkoIRL]

Yeah possibly her friends are taking advantage of her being in a bad state of mind and i reckon when she came to them for advice they voted against me (she got new friends and i didnt like them). And her parents could of told her that she was spending too much time with me.

nEW FRIENDS ARE A BAD OMEN IN A GIRLS LIFE. iT MEANS SHE'S WILLINGLY SEEKING CHANGE...bE VERY CAREFUL HOW YOU APPROACH HER, YOU MAY FIND HER IN A STATE WHERE SHE'S CHANGING AND IN COURSE MAY TURN ON YOU COMPLETELY IF YOU FORCE THE ISSUE.

[Snakey]

nEW FRIENDS ARE A BAD OMEN IN A GIRLS LIFE. iT MEANS SHE'S WILLINGLY SEEKING CHANGE...bE VERY CAREFUL HOW YOU APPROACH HER, YOU MAY FIND HER IN A STATE WHERE SHE'S CHANGING AND IN COURSE MAY TURN ON YOU COMPLETELY IF YOU FORCE THE ISSUE.

Well she only got new friends coz the other ones left school and some moved away. But i knew at some point last year her parents told her she needed to stop seeing me as much so she could study. They are pretty strict parents and shes a good girl so she doesnt like pissing them off.

[donnydarkoIRL]

Well she only got new friends coz the other ones left school and some moved away. But i knew at some point last year her parents told her she needed to stop seeing me as much so she could study. They are pretty strict parents and shes a good girl so she doesnt like pissing them off.

Yeah I get the picture. Do you know her parents?
If so, running into them by accident would give a clear indication of their attitude toward you. If you live in a close proximity that is.