Snakeys 1yr relationship ended and now hes gutted!

[AdamGB]

lol Snakey did you listen to what anyone said? It's not a case of scoring with her...

Your relationship has stalled - it isn't working... they take work... it's not a case of 'oh my god I love you - we're ment to be... so BE WITH ME!' it takes work and communication

[Saddo]

Sneaky mate just chill and if you start hassling her with "i love you stuff" it will just turn her right off you more and maybe for good.... they don't like it mate...

women are strange creatures mate and the only way she will be intrested in you again is if she cant have you.... fucked up i know but that is how it is with them split arses

somthing similar to getting another girl preferably better looking and make sure she sees bumps into you with her... it dosnt have to be a new girlfriend just a very hot girl to be seen out with say hi to you old girlfriend but be disintrested.

the main rule is if she thinks she cant have you she will want you... if she can have you anytime she wont want you.

thats the only hope you have of ever really getting her back for good

but if i were you i would just move on and have fun at your age mate its for the best

[Snakey]

Hey ive listened to what everyone has had to say and ive combined it into a super plan. Im giving myself two weeks to get myself into a good state of mind. After that im gonna arrange a meeting with her at which point im going to attempt to look like i feel fine. If she asks me about staying home the day after she broke up with me i will just say i was feeling sick (which i actually was...due to that ). And ill jump in first and ask her how shes going and judge by he reaction to that where i go next. I plan on ending the conversation with that story because i know shes a sensitive girl and she will relate to it.


Not full proof, probably wont work but i was with her for a year so what another couple weeks of waiting going to do.

[JT Rock]

Hey ive listened to what everyone has had to say and ive combined it into a super plan. Im giving myself two weeks to get myself into a good state of mind. After that im gonna arrange a meeting with her at which point im going to attempt to look like i feel fine. If she asks me about staying home the day after she broke up with me i will just say i was feeling sick (which i actually was...due to that ). And ill jump in first and ask her how shes going and judge by he reaction to that where i go next. I plan on ending the conversation with that story because i know shes a sensitive girl and she will relate to it.


Not full proof, probably wont work but i was with her for a year so what another couple weeks of waiting going to do.

Snakey get her a log in for the forum and we'll have Bilbo and X sort her out

[Kel]

To turn this around mate you are 19 it was one year out of your life, i know it sounds hard but this could have dragged on for years and messed up your life rather than just a year... i know it dosnt feel good to hear this but its better this happened now than later.

hell your already back with your mates who you aint seen in ages and i'm guessing that is because of this relationship so....

my advice is to get out there and fuck everything till your cock drops off... your 19 FFS you wont get these years back and will have plenty of time to fall in love later mate.

life a cunt somtimes but you have had a lucky escape you just dont relise it yet

keep your chin up mate

This is good advice. Get out with your mates and just have a good time.

Chances are this girl is fucking someone else anyway.

[AdamGB]

I'm out after this because it isn't working but to echo what myself, saddo and others have said:

Don't drag her down with the 'I love you stuff'... you'll come across as desperate/my hormones are all over the shop/unattractive/over imposing... I could go on and on.

and for the love of god don't tell her that story unless you enjoy being laughed at!!!!!!!

[CFH]

Snakey, listen to Saddo, Adam, and Kel. I don't want to be mean or anything, but you obviously do not have a lot of experience with girls or relationships. This girl does not want to be with you, that is why she broke up with you. She did it over the phone after a year long relationship, what does this tell you about the level of respect she has for you? And don't give me any bullshit about her being really sensitive etc., if she was that sensitive she would have considered your feelings and broke up with you face to face instead of being a coward and doing it over the phone, thus being considerate only of herself. Like Kel said, she's probably fucking someone else, it might have even be the reason she broke it off; regardless, she does not want you and probably never will again, you need to understand that - it will make what you are going through much easier. Why would you waste your time chasing after someone who does not want to be with you? It makes no sense. The best thing you can do is to go out and have a good time and try to get laid. Like Saddo said, chicks only want what seems unattainable, and most chicks like guys who are assholes, not some love-sick teenager who chases after them, regardless of what Hollywood or your mother tells you. Also, in my experience, they will not hesitate to take advantage of said love-sick teenager. Sorry to sound harsh man, but this is the truth and you need to stop obsessing about some broad who doesn't want to be with you.

[CutMeMick]

Snake eyes...

Grow some Oz ballls, Outback style and just move on.

[Julius Rain]

just go out find any chic that you can bang. even fat chicks just bang them and while your doing so. think of that girl you just lost and bang that wet puss harder and scream at it how much you hate her guts. hold down that chick that your bangings arm, widen her legs with your thighs and keep pounding. Tell her all your frustration tell her everything while pounding that poor innecent fat chick, just let it all out of you stomach while banging a random fat chick. Ofcourse that random fat chick won't know what the hell your talking about but don't worry she'll be too busy moaning and dripping wet to even pay attention to what your talking about as long as you sound dominant and angry while pounding her she'll just keep enjoying being ram'd.

It works for me

[Snakey]

HEY HEY HEY! Dont forget who you are talking to guys...i am snakey and yes ive been hammered and smashed and emotionally destroyed but i still got some tricks!

Someone said girls really only like arseholes...how do you think i got her? I know how to treat women ( i treat them nicely but also bag them out and shit...so not a complete arsehole). And thats what im trying to bring back, i wanna be my normal self. I wanna show her that she didnt effect me. Ive said alot of shit in this thread that ive said im going to say. I say this now but i havent exactly healed yet. After two or three weeks im going to be much closer to my normal self. By the way anyone who says she fucking someone else...thanks for the advice but your dead wrong. I know this girl and i know shes not fucking anyone else and i know she wouldnt do this. She is far from a slut.

Now reasons why i persist to say i want her back and am going to try to get her back is plain and simple...when she told me she didnt love me it was the most unbelievable bullshit. I know why she dumped me, coz shes confused. Shes doing her last yr of school and has exams coming up, she has a couple of personal issues going on at the moment and her head isnt clear. I can guarentee you guys right now that shes as cut up or even more then what i am.


So just remember guys, im greatful for the support and everything but in the end i know this girl. I know why she didnt do it face to face because she knows i would of seen right through some of the bullshit she said to me. Body language says alot in situations like this and she wouldnt of been able to hide that.

If indeed im wrong and its over then i will move on. A year for me is a long time, longest relationship shes had and the longest ive had. But i was with her a yr and i owe it to myself to get some answers. Ill give her time to think over what happened and ill give her the chance to maybe come back to me.

Adam GB you mentioned the story being a very bad idea, maybe....but im not relying on that to bring her back im just thinking about using it as a weapon to see how she really feels. Couldnt give two fucks about the story but i would like to see the look in her eyes.

Australian women are very different to other women. They have certain things they do and from discussing this matter with some female friends of mine i have come up with a plan.





Wooh that felt good, feels like my confidence and mood just lifted like 20 times over....thanks guys

[donnydarkoIRL]

Snakey, we're pretty much the same age as I mentioned earlier, I guess the difference is I went through what you're going through at an earlier age. It hurts like hell, but it happens all of us at one stage or another.

Listen mate, you do actually care about the girl, but what sort of a relationship is it if you have to use "weapons" against each other?

If you've broken up after a year, no matter how good the year was there's something wrong. I really don't want to be the bearer of bad news snakey, but the fact is that maybe she felt trapped. She felt that you're not the one she'd be with forever, she loved you but not in a permanent way.

All I'm saying is man, you've got to guard yourself from getting hurt more and be mature enough not to hurt her in return.
Thats going to be a tough task in itself.

[Snakey]

Snakey, we're pretty much the same age as I mentioned earlier, I guess the difference is I went through what you're going through at an earlier age. It hurts like hell, but it happens all of us at one stage or another.

Listen mate, you do actually care about the girl, but what sort of a relationship is it if you have to use "weapons" against each other?

If you've broken up after a year, no matter how good the year was there's something wrong. I really don't want to be the bearer of bad news snakey, but the fact is that maybe she felt trapped. She felt that you're not the one she'd be with forever, she loved you but not in a permanent way.

All I'm saying is man, you've got to guard yourself from getting hurt more and be mature enough not to hurt her in return.
Thats going to be a tough task in itself.

Yeah i know what ya mean dude but i was just amped and joking about the weapon thing. I just think she still loves me and that shes under alot of stress at the moment (not gonna tell yas why coz that shits personal) and those things that are causing stress are big things so when she broke up with me i dont think she was really in a good state of mind.

[donnydarkoIRL]

Yeah i know what ya mean dude but i was just amped and joking about the weapon thing. I just think she still loves me and that shes under alot of stress at the moment (not gonna tell yas why coz that shits personal) and those things that are causing stress are big things so when she broke up with me i dont think she was really in a good state of mind.

I understand man, exams and associated pressures are a serious cause of stress and anxiety, particularly to the student wishing to succeed in their pursuits.

I sit possible that some outside infleunce is warning her off you? Her parents, friends etc?

[Snakey]

I understand man, exams and associated pressures are a serious cause of stress and anxiety, particularly to the student wishing to succeed in their pursuits.

I sit possible that some outside infleunce is warning her off you? Her parents, friends etc?

Yeah possibly her friends are taking advantage of her being in a bad state of mind and i reckon when she came to them for advice they voted against me (she got new friends and i didnt like them). And her parents could of told her that she was spending too much time with me.

[Diane]

Okay, I gave my opinion earlier, and I wasn't going to comment anymore after that, however, as this discussion goes on, I wanted to make one more statement.

First I agree with Adam GB, for the love of God, do not use that story!!!! Big Mistake!!! You will come off as desperate, and pathetic, and she will see right through it.

Secondly, how would you know that Australian women are different from other woman? You're only 19, how many other woman have you experienced that are not Australian?

I know you think that you are mature for being only 19, trust me, pretty much everybody feels that way at 19, and in years to come, you will look back, and realize that you don't know anything about relationships yet. I don't mean to be harsh, but you seem to be in denial.

Denial
1.an assertion that something said, believed, alleged, etc., is false:
2.refusal to believe a doctrine, theory, or the like.
3.disbelief in the existence or reality of a thing.
4.refusal to recognize or acknowledge; a disowning or disavowal
5.Psychology. an unconscious defense mechanism used to reduce anxiety by denying thoughts, feelings, or facts that are consciously intolerable.

Most of us giving you advice are older than you, and we have much more life and relationship experience than you, so I hope you realize that we are only trying to help you, and give you guidance. We have all gone through what you are going through, so we are only trying to prevent you from making the same mistakes that we made, and are trying to prevent you from being further hurt. So, I hope you really listen to our words of wisdom, because you seem like a really nice guy, and I would hate to see you put yourself into a position that will only cause you more pain.

Stay strong, and good luck.