Conflict On This Board

[Douglas]

My point had nothing to do with that... In fact is souly had to do with your prior decision making skills and how backwards your way of thinking is and the fact that you should be givingrelationship or dating advice to no one.

... Or should you? What do you think?

It's like me giving advice on building atomic bombs....

dating advice, yes I can give good advice at that. Relationship advice maybe not but maybe when I am not under the stress i was in. thats obvious.

your responding to my post when i was clearly overwhelmed with the news and how i was tryna to make a point of how hard it is to have to forget a girl. I did have my point there. The point was that it is a lot harder to have to foget a girl you enjoyed then to get a girl from the start? you understand? Im sure even you will agree it is harder when the end has come.

No, the point should be - YOU SHOULDN'T OF HAD THAT GIRL, BECAUSE YOU HAVE A WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Marriage isn't easy, you have to work at it, and every marriage goes through tough times, so don't use that as an excuse for cheating. If you don't love your wife, then get out of it, and then go fuck anyone you want, because you are disrespecting your wife at the highest level right now.

For me it's tough enough just bein' in love with ONE girl. But TWO at the same time?

Then again if you have that split personality, one self can love one girl while the other self loves another.....

[Sharla]

Julius has a wife who earns good money.

Julius said school is important for him right now.

Julius ages ago decided to quit school because he couldn't juggle school and work at the same time.

Now apparently he's back though.

This add up to anyone else - I doubt Julius has pure emotional attachments keeping him with his wife.

Oh but he still expects sympathy! Boo Fing Hoo Julius!

[Julius Rain]

Julius has a wife who earns good money.

Julius said school is important for him right now.

Julius ages ago decided to quit school because he couldn't juggle school and work at the same time.

Now apparently he's back though.

This add up to anyone else - I doubt Julius has pure emotional attachments keeping him with his wife.

Oh but he still expects sympathy! Boo Fing Hoo Julius!

Yea she does earn lots of money, she kills me with that. Shes 28 im 21, I haven't even finish school she already has a masters.

School is important to me, i tell her that she say she understand but when we argue I can not have any time to be alone and study.

Yea Im back in school. so far its still hard.

[Sharla]

Julius has a wife who earns good money.

Julius said school is important for him right now.

Julius ages ago decided to quit school because he couldn't juggle school and work at the same time.

Now apparently he's back though.

This add up to anyone else - I doubt Julius has pure emotional attachments keeping him with his wife.

Oh but he still expects sympathy! Boo Fing Hoo Julius!

Yea she does earn lots of money, she kills me with that. Shes 28 im 21, I haven't even finish school she already has a masters.

School is important to me, i tell her that she say she understand but when we argue I can not have any time to be alone and study.

Yea Im back in school. so far its still hard.

You would have all my support and sympathy if you didn't spend the time you would have to be alone screwing around unprotected and bragging about it.

Hell many of us - myself included - worked shitty jobs to get through uni - i didn't find time to screw around as much as you but I did get through it without scabbing off and cheating on the same person!

[Julius Rain]

Julius has a wife who earns good money.

Julius said school is important for him right now.

Julius ages ago decided to quit school because he couldn't juggle school and work at the same time.

Now apparently he's back though.

This add up to anyone else - I doubt Julius has pure emotional attachments keeping him with his wife.

Oh but he still expects sympathy! Boo Fing Hoo Julius!

Yea she does earn lots of money, she kills me with that. Shes 28 im 21, I haven't even finish school she already has a masters.

School is important to me, i tell her that she say she understand but when we argue I can not have any time to be alone and study.

Yea Im back in school. so far its still hard.

You would have all my support and sympathy if you didn't spend the time you would have to be alone screwing around unprotected and bragging about it.

Hell many of us - myself included - worked shitty jobs to get through uni - i didn't find time to screw around as much as you but I did get through it without scabbing off and cheating on the same person!

if i came of as bragging then im sorry, it was humor to me and not intentional that i was bragging. I usually note that what im doing is wrong. if you look at my living two lives thread you can see i say its not right to do but im doing it. I don't know sometimes, sometimes i hate my wife so much. i do not want to hurt her but maybe if i do anyway with out her knowing id feel better. its not right but it is what it is for some reason.

[Sharla]

It is you. It is not what it is - you are what you decide to do and be.

No one is perfect. I'm glad you're not bragging about it anymore.

I think if you hate your wife you should split up with her and find another way to support yourself.

Even if it wasn't a permanent split and the two of you decided to get back together in a year or two when you're older and more mature it'd be better than becoming whatever you would call what you're heading towards.

[Julius Rain]

It is you. It is not what it is - you are what you decide to do and be.

No one is perfect. I'm glad you're not bragging about it anymore.

I think if you hate your wife you should split up with her and find another way to support yourself.

Even if it wasn't a permanent split and the two of you decided to get back together in a year or two when you're older and more mature it'd be better than becoming whatever you would call what you're heading towards.

I hate her but not hate hate, its just anger. I married her for a real reason, I do love her. Shes not supporting me financially but she does make more. I pay for my side but she has more furniture more things more belongings.

I did try to talk to her about taking some time of, and she just threw that idea at my face. She told me, we are not boyfriend girlfriend anymore! we are married, there is no time out in this! That idea made me look like a foolish teenager really. She usually comes down on me with my age. She thought the idea was immature but I was trying to explain to her that it may help in the long run. She says no though cause she does not want me away. She loves me I know she tells me a lot. Our parents just say its newly wed bumbs and it usually goes away after the first year or two.

Her mother tells her to lay of the age difference between us because age does not matter. Plus my mother in law believes that I am usually more mature than the usually 21 year old. Infact she tells me that it is her daughter that can be very immature and possessive. we all have our pro's and con's. I know what I did is wrong and no matter how crazy my wife drives me i should not have been doing them. I honestly just did it, and honestly enjoyed it. What I did will just add more problems to what we already had. i know this and now although I fear having to tell her i know I must.

[Violent Demise]

Yea she does earn lots of money, she kills me with that. Shes 28 im 21, I haven't even finish school she already has a masters.

School is important to me, i tell her that she say she understand but when we argue I can not have any time to be alone and study.

Yea Im back in school. so far its still hard.

You would have all my support and sympathy if you didn't spend the time you would have to be alone screwing around unprotected and bragging about it.

Hell many of us - myself included - worked shitty jobs to get through uni - i didn't find time to screw around as much as you but I did get through it without scabbing off and cheating on the same person!

if i came of as bragging then im sorry, it was humor to me and not intentional that i was bragging. I usually note that what im doing is wrong. if you look at my living two lives thread you can see i say its not right to do but im doing it. I don't know sometimes, sometimes i hate my wife so much. i do not want to hurt her but maybe if i do anyway with out her knowing id feel better. its not right but it is what it is for some reason.

That right there says you need out. Divorce her. There are no kids (at least not with her) to worry about. If anything it can really benefit you. i'm pretty sure there's no pre nup. So with her making more money and you still in school I'm pretty sure you can pull in some alimony. That's a crazy come up.

[Kev]

Don't worry Julius I still like ya mate

It's easy to criticise someone without being in their situation.

You're only 21 mate, your wife is 27 I believe.

You arn't the first person to marry young and then feel like you're trapped in a relationship that you no longer want to be part of.

Some of the moralising on this thread has gone totally over the top imo, like everybody else leads perfect lives

It's easy to pontificate about doing the right thing when your not the one living in that situation.

I've been in relationships where I no longer wanted to be with my girl, or we had problems and it's fucking horrible, you feel completely alone and trapped.

I hope you work things out mate.

[Julius Rain]

Don't worry Julius I still like ya mate

It's easy to criticise someone without being in their situation.

You're only 21 mate, your wife is 27 I believe.

You arn't the first person to marry young and then feel like you're trapped in a relationship that you no longer want to be part of.

Some of the moralising on this thread has gone totally over the top imo, like everybody else leads perfect lives

I hope you work things out mate.

thanks bilbo, I've been pretty much hanging from the neck for the past few days. Thanks again bilbo I really needed that.