This questioin is about immortality, versus bliss and happiness. "Immortality" being that of floating your name in public beyond the scope of one's natural life, and "happiness" being; of having select people, loved ones, touching and enriching one's life until the day it's for quits.

The true nature of man is to extend its influence to its very maximum. The extent of this influence proportionately dictates the magnitude of its immortality. ... fatherhood, public service, public office, leadership, legendary feats, martyrdom, sainthood and etc.. are examples where one can float one's name. The magnitude achieved and consequent dedication put forth in achieving the same is the one that defines the man.

A no brainer then, everyone should not dismiss a personal situation like that of PBF, the first statement, as disagreeble, for making a name is only for the very blessed, even if it entails at times, being damned from familial bliss.