Bad times

[Salty]

Ok I usually respect myself in the highest esteem but after last night I don't think I can do that. For the first time in my life I have "cheated" on my girlfriend, by that I mean I kissed another girl. I know many of you will say it's not cheating unless you sleep with the other chick but right now i'm feeling terrible. The worst part is that I really like my GF, but I seem to self sabotage anything good that happens in my life. I don't know whether I should tell my GF or wait till she confronts me or what. Any advice is much appreciated otherwise I am fucked as they say and really don't know what I'm supposed to do as this is my first "serious" relationship.

[Youngblood]

If she has any access to your PC, the first order of business would be to clear your web history.

[Salty]

If she has any access to your PC, the first order of business would be to clear your web history.

Nah she has no access to my comp and go on MSN YB

[CGM]

Nobody's pefect Salty. I'm sure a lot of us have made similar mistakes. If it was me, I'd give myself a little more time to chill out, and better understand my feelings before making any kind of decision. But that's is easier said than done. Women can be good at sniffing out a guilty conscience, especially if you're not good at hiding it.

[smashup]

Were you drunk?
And how long you been with the GF for?
I started after exactly 7 years out of 15 with my ex and did it a good few times with various women since that first time.
Left her and now with a new one
Trust me theres a reason you kissed that girl
Bit of a let down though as you never even banged the ass off it

[CGM]

Were you drunk?
And how long you been with the GF for?
I started after exactly 7 years out of 15 with my ex and did it a good few times with various women since that first time.
Left her and now with a new one
Trust me theres a reason you kissed that girl
Bit of a let down though as you never even banged the ass off it

Good point there Smash.

[Salty]

That's the worst thing though I thought I had found a girl who I could do that continuously to but yeah, thanks YB for talking me through it. I just hope no one tells her before her exam on monday

I guess what ever happens, happens

[Salty]

Nobody's pefect Salty. I'm sure a lot of us have made similar mistakes. If it was me, I'd give myself a little more time to chill out, and better understand my feelings before making any kind of decision. But that's is easier said than done. Women can be good at sniffing out a guilty conscience, especially if you're not good at hiding it.

Thanks for the advice mate, I will see how it goes in the morning

[Von Milash]

Ok I usually respect myself in the highest esteem but after last night I don't think I can do that. For the first time in my life I have "cheated" on my girlfriend, by that I mean I kissed another girl. I know many of you will say it's not cheating unless you sleep with the other chick but right now i'm feeling terrible. The worst part is that I really like my GF, but I seem to self sabotage anything good that happens in my life. I don't know whether I should tell my GF or wait till she confronts me or what. Any advice is much appreciated otherwise I am fucked as they say and really don't know what I'm supposed to do as this is my first "serious" relationship.

Are you married? No? Engaged? No? Then it's simple. Keep your mouth shut. you'll get over it.

[Gandalf]

Ok I usually respect myself in the highest esteem but after last night I don't think I can do that. For the first time in my life I have "cheated" on my girlfriend, by that I mean I kissed another girl. I know many of you will say it's not cheating unless you sleep with the other chick but right now i'm feeling terrible. The worst part is that I really like my GF, but I seem to self sabotage anything good that happens in my life. I don't know whether I should tell my GF or wait till she confronts me or what. Any advice is much appreciated otherwise I am fucked as they say and really don't know what I'm supposed to do as this is my first "serious" relationship.

Are you married? No? Engaged? No? Then it's simple. Keep your mouth shut. you'll get over it.

Its a situation many of us have probably been through before. The above advice is blunt but seems about right. And try not to do it again.

[Youngblood]

If the relationship can't stand this little bit of a slip up and honestly...it IMO isn't very much of a relationship, and destined for failure. So it is probably a decent test of it's mettle.

Plus, if you start building a relationship off on a secret and hiding stuff, with the fear of being found out...you are building a house of cards, man.

[CutMeMick]

Just deal with it...

If your really into the girl you kissed then move on and get with her.

If you want to have your cake and eat it too then fuck around with the girl on the side and still keep your girlfriend.

If you feel you fucked up and you don't want to loose your girl then tighten up your balls and just let it go. Make it as if it never happened.

You gotta take a lot of things into consideration.

1. Were you drunk when the kiss happened?
If so that had something to do with it. Would you have done it if you were drunk?

2. Is your girlfriend a serious one?
By serious I mean have you been with her for over 1 yr.
Me personally I don't think a serious relationship is less then a year. I don't think you can know someone that well in less then 1 yr. just my opinion.

3. Have you thought about cheating before?
If so then this tells you, you are not that serious about your girl and your not in love with your girl. Chances are the kiss happened because you saw it as your chance to do it and move on.