Bilbo's moral dilemmas, what would YOU do if you were a friend of OJ?

[Kev]

Ok just for a fun and lively discussion I thought we could have a nice moral debate on really tough issues.

Ok, your best friend is cheating on his girlfriend or wife.

Do you,

A) Do nothing, it's your mate, he can do what he wants, your loyalties lie with him not her.

B) Don't tell her but stress to him you are really disappointed in him and maybe even end your friendship with him over it, but you would draw the line at telling her

C) Be glad his focus is elswhere so he won't realise you've been banging his girl!

D) Warn him to stop, and if he doesn't tell his partner, Cheating is wrong no matter who does it.

E) Tell her, not because you have an upright conscience, but because you know she will be devastated and desperate for payback, and you just 'happen' to 'be there'.

Ok my own choice here is I would do absolutely nothing, its none of my business. This isn't a sexist thing though, if it was one of my girl mates and she was screwing around my loyalties would be with my girl friend. If they were BOTH really good friends of mine, I have to be honest, I'd side with the guy, sorry but that's the way I am, bro's before hoe's and all that.




Ok question 2.

The person you are closest to in the world has a lousy, miserable wench for a wife or husband who he hates.

Anyway he/she dies suspiciously and this person breaks down and confesses to you that they did it, because they were pushed over the edge. They beg you not to tell anyone.


Do you.

A) Call the police and get them arrested. They are a murderer and you have no time for scum like that.

B) Be sympathetic but tell them they MUST turn him themselves in and if not you will eventually tell the police, although you will give them some time to attempt to get away they chooses to do a runner. You will remain their friend/son/daughter/mum/dad though, and keep in contact with them in prison and help them get back on his feet if/when he finally gets out.

C) Keep your mouth shut, you're loyalties lie with this one person more than anyone else in the world. Although you won't proactively help cover their crime or testify that they were with you, you will if asked by the police tell them they were an excellent character and you would not suspect them being capable for a minute. Then if they got off, you'd both promise to bury this horrible secret for ever.

D) Tell him, 'Don't worry we are in this together, I will do my utmost to keep you out of jail and I'll do anything I can to save you. Then you would proactively try and help them get rid of evidence, provide them with an alibi etc.


Ok this one was REAL tough for me. If it was a mate, even my best one I'd lean towards option 2, because no way could I live with the guilt of knowing someone killed somebody. I couldn't have it on my conscience and I'd eventually crack and have to tell somebody.

BUT if it was my mum or my brother, shit I'd be right there with them. I really don't know what I would do. I think I would urge them to turn themselves in, because as you know I believe in God and so for their ultimate safety they had best confess it, but if for example it was in America and they faced the electric chair if found guilty, I would help them as much as possible, give them false alibi's and if all else failed try and smuggle them out of the country in the boot of my car and on a dinghy to France!


Ok so that's my answers what about you guys, where do we all sit on the moral condundrum.

Ps. I already know VD's answers will be A and D

All of that a,b,c, shit don't mean a thing as the thread title maintains proposes the condition of being OJ's friend, that is the qualifier for all possible outcomes. He's a wife beater, liar and murderer so I wouldn't be his friend.

Yes well if you actually read the thread you would have seen I didn't mean OJ exactly, I meant what would you do if the person you cared about most in the whole world killed their spouse for being abusive or a cheat.

It's not OJ, it's not even you're best mate, its the closest person to you on earth, your mother, your son or daughter even.

So come on tell, what would you do?

[Howlin Mad Missy]

Ok just for a fun and lively discussion I thought we could have a nice moral debate on really tough issues.

Ok, your best friend is cheating on his girlfriend or wife.

Do you,

A) Do nothing, it's your mate, he can do what he wants, your loyalties lie with him not her.

B) Don't tell her but stress to him you are really disappointed in him and maybe even end your friendship with him over it, but you would draw the line at telling her

C) Be glad his focus is elswhere so he won't realise you've been banging his girl!

D) Warn him to stop, and if he doesn't tell his partner, Cheating is wrong no matter who does it.

E) Tell her, not because you have an upright conscience, but because you know she will be devastated and desperate for payback, and you just 'happen' to 'be there'.

Ok my own choice here is I would do absolutely nothing, its none of my business. This isn't a sexist thing though, if it was one of my girl mates and she was screwing around my loyalties would be with my girl friend. If they were BOTH really good friends of mine, I have to be honest, I'd side with the guy, sorry but that's the way I am, bro's before hoe's and all that.




Ok question 2.

The person you are closest to in the world has a lousy, miserable wench for a wife or husband who he hates.

Anyway he/she dies suspiciously and this person breaks down and confesses to you that they did it, because they were pushed over the edge. They beg you not to tell anyone.


Do you.

A) Call the police and get them arrested. They are a murderer and you have no time for scum like that.

B) Be sympathetic but tell them they MUST turn him themselves in and if not you will eventually tell the police, although you will give them some time to attempt to get away they chooses to do a runner. You will remain their friend/son/daughter/mum/dad though, and keep in contact with them in prison and help them get back on his feet if/when he finally gets out.

C) Keep your mouth shut, you're loyalties lie with this one person more than anyone else in the world. Although you won't proactively help cover their crime or testify that they were with you, you will if asked by the police tell them they were an excellent character and you would not suspect them being capable for a minute. Then if they got off, you'd both promise to bury this horrible secret for ever.

D) Tell him, 'Don't worry we are in this together, I will do my utmost to keep you out of jail and I'll do anything I can to save you. Then you would proactively try and help them get rid of evidence, provide them with an alibi etc.


Ok this one was REAL tough for me. If it was a mate, even my best one I'd lean towards option 2, because no way could I live with the guilt of knowing someone killed somebody. I couldn't have it on my conscience and I'd eventually crack and have to tell somebody.

BUT if it was my mum or my brother, shit I'd be right there with them. I really don't know what I would do. I think I would urge them to turn themselves in, because as you know I believe in God and so for their ultimate safety they had best confess it, but if for example it was in America and they faced the electric chair if found guilty, I would help them as much as possible, give them false alibi's and if all else failed try and smuggle them out of the country in the boot of my car and on a dinghy to France!


Ok so that's my answers what about you guys, where do we all sit on the moral condundrum.

Ps. I already know VD's answers will be A and D

All of that a,b,c, shit don't mean a thing as the thread title maintains proposes the condition of being OJ's friend, that is the qualifier for all possible outcomes. He's a wife beater, liar and murderer so I wouldn't be his friend.

Yes well if you actually read the thread you would have seen I didn't mean OJ exactly, I meant what would you do if the person you cared about most in the whole world killed their spouse for being abusive or a cheat.

It's not OJ, it's not even you're best mate, its the closest person to you on earth, your mother, your son or daughter even.

So come on tell, what would you do?

can't go changing the rules of the game after it's started. You stated OJ in title so that's how I replied.

I've seen first hand where everyman and his dog has known someone has been cheating - the spouse is always last to know. Not only have they been lied to by their partner their friends have witheld info, they feel betrayed over again. How people can call themselves a friend and NOT tell you I don't know.

So for Q1 - D.

Q2. Depends - hopefully if they were a friend I would have been able to steer them away from said shithouse. If they've been abused I'd consider it payback. If it's less probably advise them to B, because they've told you you have to do something with that, I'm not going to prison for someone elses mistake.

[Kev]

All of that a,b,c, shit don't mean a thing as the thread title maintains proposes the condition of being OJ's friend, that is the qualifier for all possible outcomes. He's a wife beater, liar and murderer so I wouldn't be his friend.

Yes well if you actually read the thread you would have seen I didn't mean OJ exactly, I meant what would you do if the person you cared about most in the whole world killed their spouse for being abusive or a cheat.

It's not OJ, it's not even you're best mate, its the closest person to you on earth, your mother, your son or daughter even.

So come on tell, what would you do?

can't go changing the rules of the game after it's started. You stated OJ in title so that's how I replied.

I've seen first hand where everyman and his dog has known someone has been cheating - the spouse is always last to know. Not only have they been lied to by their partner their friends have witheld info, they feel betrayed over again. How people can call themselves a friend and NOT tell you I don't know.

So for Q1 - D.

Q2. Depends - hopefully if they were a friend I would have been able to steer them away from said shithouse. If they've been abused I'd consider it payback. If it's less probably advise them to B, because they've told you you have to do something with that, I'm not going to prison for someone elses mistake.

Glad you finally decided to take part Missy, how about the overwhelming evidence that shows that dinosaurs once lived with man? You starting to come around to my way of thinking finally now girl eh?

[Howlin Mad Missy]

No I still think you're an idiot.

[Gandalf]

No I still think you're an idiot.

You've got to love it here at Saddo's!

[CFH]

No I still think you're an idiot.

[Saddo]

Question 1... I'd tell my mate he was a dick and needs to stop and if he really aint happy he needs to leave his wife... but would not tell his wife because hes my mate

question 2... i have no idea about this one... one thing is for sure id brake all contact with the fucking loon before he got upset with me.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

Question 1... I'd tell my mate he was a dick and needs to stop and if he really aint happy he needs to leave his wife... but would not tell his wife because hes my mate

question 2... i have no idea about this one... one thing is for sure id brake all contact with the fucking loon before he got upset with me.

You've been ignoring me?