I tried to cook myself last night!

[boozeboxer]

Miles I find your stories very humorous in the way you deliver them.

But I fear for your well being as well. I had a cambodian girlfriend and she would get stupid-mad just like as you are talking about-without any communication to make the situation better. It is extremely frustrating.

I hope you can get out of there and leave her.

[Gandalf]

Miles I find your stories very humorous in the way you deliver them.

But I fear for your well being as well. I had a cambodian girlfriend and she would get stupid-mad just like as you are talking about-without any communication to make the situation better. It is extremely frustrating.

I hope you can get out of there and leave her.

Yeah, it's just really frustrating for me. She is fine 99% of the time, but when the bust ups happen they tend to stand out. When things are good, they are very good. But when they are bad, they are very bad. When things have calmed down I try to point out in a matter of fact way that destroying property and hitting someone is no solution to a problem and where I come from this is actual criminal behaviour. But she will just get defensive and say "but you made me". So, I stood there and said "please punch me on the arm and shoulder for 2 minutes non-stop while screaming in my ear?". I obviously didn't. The other day I simply wanted to get out of the house and sink a couple of beers in solitude and if she had let me go out then it would have been the end of it. She could have calmed down and so could I and maybe things would be better in the morning. But to escalate it to the extent that you are hiding all my shoes and ripping up marriage documents? That's just too far and I am not sure if am going to be able to forgive it.

In that previous reply to Superheavyrhun I painted a very negative image of Korea. It is an accurate portrayal as the roads are full of huge spaceshuttle sized cars and sometimes you are having avoid globules of spits, but I shouldn't paint all Koreans in this light. There are a lot of good Koreans out there and they are just as resentful of the negative aspects of their country as I am. In fact I am hopeful that the younger Koreans who have grown up in a more developed nation will continue to improve the place. They want to break free from the confucian chains, but it does take time. But this is a country that changes very fast and I remain hopeful.

In fact one of the things I dislike the most about Korea is the television. They have these really awful game shows with the same participants day in day out. They do stupid challenges and then sit about in a sauna talking about absolutely nothing. The other thing that annoys me are the dramas. In fact I refuse to allow a drama to be watched at regular volume in my house as the shouting is just too much. These programmes are always showing people shouting at one another and I mean really noisy shouting. They get in each other faces and really, really go for it. Perhaps Koreans are watching this stuff and taking it home or perhaps this is how Korea was first and it simply gets mirrored in the drama. Either way it is quite socially acceptable to get in someones face and just shout your lungs out at one another. It is horrible to watch and one of the reasons I refuse to watch Korean television. It just pisses me off. So when faced with that in person, I really just have to get away from it. It is horrible behaviour.

[generalbulldog]

Geez, no wonder you like to drink a lot. I would to living in such an environment.

Maybe it's a sign to come back to the good old UK?

[Gandalf]

Geez, no wonder you like to drink a lot. I would to living in such an environment.

Maybe it's a sign to come back to the good old UK?

I've definitely had too much in the last week. Much more than usual. But as a whole when times are normal I am pretty controlled.

I don't know really. I have my new university job starting in March and I want to get a year or two on my resume whilst trying to get a couple of things published. That would open up more doors. Just coming back home now would be a bit of a waste as TESL is what I do and I don't have the experience or publishing to work at the better universities there yet. For the time being it is going to have to be Korea.

This university provides accomodation, so in the apartment complex there will be other professors living in relatively close proximity. Imagine if one of them lived on the floor below and we were having one of our tussles? I just don't know if I could live with that. Even with neighbors that I don't know I am always worried about making a noise as I get pissed off if they make any noise. It doesn't bear thinking about. I am going to have to give it careful consideration.

[Andre]

Burn the joint to the floor and come on home son.

[Gandalf]

Burn the joint to the floor and come on home son.

I see some cleverness there. Fingers and homes, nice play on words!

[amat]

You don't have the keys to your house? Your wife sounds crazy but then you kind of do too, banging on the door with a hammer I would seriously try to get home in England or at least try to teach in some less foreign country. Korea just sounds too crazy and weird of an environment.

[boozeboxer]

So I have been giving this some thought...


Getting into a fight about cooking eggs is extremely petty... It is similar to a Woody Allen conversation.