Tough one when it's his last wish It seems like you by not allowing it are going against the wishes of the deceased - which no one ever wants to do

then again I'm sure he wouldn't want any of the kids being upset by it in the future.

but as has been said above i reckon your kids are young enough no to care what is actually going on - so maybe not such a bad move to let them go

had your eldest been 3 or 4 years older then I think it would have been a big No No

probably haven't helped at all here have I....