Little bit of advice please guys. Want to make sure I am doing the right thing so please be honest.

On Saturday morning my wifes uncle passed away. He was one of those blokes who was loved by everyone and he was always the joker. Now before my wife went up to be with her family (i stayed at home to look after our kids 1 boy aged 4 ,1 girl aged 7 mnths) we said that on the day of the funeral I would stay at home with the children as they do not need to be seeing all that morbidity and our little boy is a sensitive little boy. He didn't really know this man to any great degree..only meeting him a few times when he was really young.

My wife comes back yesterday and says that it was the uncles wish that all the children attaned the funeral. I am in no way happy about this. She said it may teach them (or more so my littel boy as he is of an age to understand) that people do not last forever. I am getting the feeling she is letting her emotions cloud her judgement somewhat. I am prepared to let him attend the wake with all the other children but I am not prepared to let him see a box disappear into a hole or let him see it disappear behind a curtain, especially when there will be so much raw emotion in the room. Final wishes is one thing but I want to protect my boy.

Am I being unreasonable?


Its a touchy subject as my wife is quite upset.