I Think It's a Bad Idea, but Tell My Wife That

[Howlin Mad Missy]

[quote=Killface;663833]A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?[/quote]

Go re-read your post.

[Wayne]

[quote=Missy;669891]

A couple days ago, my wife and I were coming home from work. She told me about a female co-worker who she is friendly with getting upset with her husband because she has been trying to lose weight and her husband said something about he was about to go work out. For some reason, I don't know what, this was upsetting. But my wife advised her to have him watch their daughter during a time she knew he wanted to go exercise. I think that's a wee bit petty, but regardless of whether or not it was good advice, I think it's bad policy for a woman to be advising another woman about what she should be doing in her marriage. To me it just has too much potential to blow up in your face, especially if you are friends with the person. I think the best thing to do is listen and nod in agreement to whatever they say. Maybe if you're good friends you can tell the person they have done something wrong if they have, but don't tell the person what they should or shouldn't be doing in their relationship. I know I would not respond positively if my wife, in mid-argument, said something like, "Sylvia said I should blah-blah-blah." First, I'd be pissed she was talking about our business with other people. Second, I'd be calling up Sylvia to give her a piece of my mind and advising her to butt the hell out my business. I think something like this could happen to my wife if she continues to feel the necessity of being an advisor in such an inappropriate fashion. What say you guys?[/quote]

Go re-read your post.

Again, 2 different things. I'm not looking for advice, but rather, opinions. I'm sharing, not looking to adopt a policy change. And again, this wasn't something that was an issue between my wife and myself, it was something she told me, I listened, and that was the end of it. The bone of contention lies between the couple she was telling me about, not us.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

Advice - A proposal for an appropriate course of action
Opinion - A message expressing a belief about something.

Subtle difference but not much.
Maybe your missus will contact Saddo's and tell the posters on this thread to keep their OPINION to themselves.

[Wayne]

Advice - A proposal for an appropriate course of action
Opinion - A message expressing a belief about something.

Subtle difference but not much.
Maybe your missus will contact Saddo's and tell the posters on this thread to keep their OPINION to themselves.

A subtle difference, sure, but the true difference is my wife is giving advice on someone's relationship that could come back to haunt her. I asked opinions regarding something that has NOTHING to do with my marriage. Now if I were asking people's opinion as to what to do because my wife was verbally abusive to me or something like that you'd have a point. But I take my own advice; I never bring those sorts of things up with people outside my relationship. Do you see my distinction?