Dames are crazy....

[Ghost]

Here is a dame.

[boozeboxer]

Lyle you should really give us a humorous story so that we may help/laugh at you.

OK well I give her multiple orgasms and while I'm working on the last one for her she kind of "dead fish's" and I ask if everything is ok, she asks for a break, I'm like "Yeah, ok, that's cool" and she proceeds to get dressed and leave and then later says she's depressed and has trouble dealing with "things".

HAHAHA....oooooh that's funny

Let's get this straight, I've got no huge emotional investment in this. I'm in this just for the ride, if I end up falling for her then that's my problem, but that type of shit irks me man. I did MORE than my fair share and she gets all sketchy about it. I honestly wouldn't bother posting it on the forum (risking humiliation from you dopes bar what truly happened) had it not been quite odd.

I'm a gentleman, I don't brag or boast or what have you, this is just odd to me, never dealt with something like this. Any insight for me booze?

Well without know more, I would predict that she is just feeling guilty for some reason. After sex, she is just feeling guilty about having sex with someone and not being in a relationship with them or she is in a relationship with someone else and having regrets.

Often people are the most regretful of giving in to temptation right after sex. No biggie and she will probably come around again. She will become less stressed and worried after each time and eventually it will not bother her at all to have sex with you.

Christianity and its societies make sex a perverse thing, and often people have irrational feelings of guilt or shame after doing it. Sometimes it is founded, oftentimes it is not.

[boozeboxer]

Also, just ask her in a few days what is bothering her. Often being emotionally fragile, and after sex they are in the most precarious of states...often one little off-the-cuff comment you make could upset her.
Often these paranoid and guilt driven ladies take comments out of context. Or perhaps they just do not understand your point-of-view. But regardless as Missy suggested, you could talk about it.
Girls love nothing more than mindless drivel about their "feelings."

One more thing, girls almost always want more than sex. You can have sex with the biggest slut in your geographic area and they can come out and say, "all I want is pure carnal sex." She would be lying to you. Almost always they want at least some emotional attachment and that comes in the form of a relationship. Now they may not even feel comfortable considering it a relationship, and it may not be their only relationship, but mark my words ---they want a relationship and you better get away from her if you do not.

[El Kabong]

Thanks for that Booze, I figured as much. So she's got some issues, namely those stemming from past boyfriends (thanks very much to that dude ) I haven't really delved into it much #1 Because I figure its none of my business and #2 I'm averse to "drama" and asking about that opens the flood gates.

I haven't figured where the ship is sailing yet with this gal, but I'm being patient. The blondie I'm going after is more immature and also coming out of a relationship so I can play that slow.

No harm in testing the waters

[Howlin Mad Missy]

booze & kabong if you don't want any emotional attachment from a woman just pick up drunken slappers who you'll never see again....if by God you would want a woman to actually LIKE you before having sex with you or oh no! talk to her, don't come complaining because she see it as more than a ONS.

Doufases...doufusi.

you like her then you like her but stop wasting her time.

[El Kabong]

booze & kabong if you don't want any emotional attachment from a woman just pick up drunken slappers who you'll never see again....if by God you would want a woman to actually LIKE you before having sex with you or oh no! talk to her, don't come complaining because she see it as more than a ONS.

Doufases...doufusi.

you like her then you like her but stop wasting her time.

Hey if she stops acting like a flake I'm willing to stay with her and be 100% faithful. But all these headaches and depression, and what not are very trying Missy, and not just for her.

I don't want some hussy...(well at least not in general) but the deal is this in regards to my current relationship with this girl is one of "de facto monogamy" we haven't had the "What are we talk" and we're not engaged so its not like you can really consider it full scale cheating especially when all I've done is inquire about the availability of another woman. Contact hasn't even been made with the other girl Missy.

Missy, why are you so ill at me? I'm a good guy, should I put my whole heart in this relationship just in time for her to bail out and crush me for no good reason? I've played the fool before, I don't care for it. I like this girl but she's going to have to get over her past in order to have a future with me.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

booze & kabong if you don't want any emotional attachment from a woman just pick up drunken slappers who you'll never see again....if by God you would want a woman to actually LIKE you before having sex with you or oh no! talk to her, don't come complaining because she see it as more than a ONS.

Doufases...doufusi.

you like her then you like her but stop wasting her time.

Hey if she stops acting like a flake I'm willing to stay with her and be 100% faithful. But all these headaches and depression, and what not are very trying Missy, and not just for her.

I don't want some hussy...(well at least not in general) but the deal is this in regards to my current relationship with this girl is one of "de facto monogamy" we haven't had the "What are we talk" and we're not engaged so its not like you can really consider it full scale cheating especially when all I've done is inquire about the availability of another woman. Contact hasn't even been made with the other girl Missy.

Missy, why are you so ill at me? I'm a good guy, should I put my whole heart in this relationship just in time for her to bail out and crush me for no good reason? I've played the fool before, I don't care for it. I like this girl but she's going to have to get over her past in order to have a future with me.

I'm not being down on you squire.

All of the ills of the world could be put to rest if people drop the bs.

you like her right? and would consider her for more than just sex judging from what you've written here BUT are unwilling to talk to her about whatever is bugging her.

And they say women are hard to understand.

[El Kabong]

booze & kabong if you don't want any emotional attachment from a woman just pick up drunken slappers who you'll never see again....if by God you would want a woman to actually LIKE you before having sex with you or oh no! talk to her, don't come complaining because she see it as more than a ONS.

Doufases...doufusi.

you like her then you like her but stop wasting her time.

Hey if she stops acting like a flake I'm willing to stay with her and be 100% faithful. But all these headaches and depression, and what not are very trying Missy, and not just for her.

I don't want some hussy...(well at least not in general) but the deal is this in regards to my current relationship with this girl is one of "de facto monogamy" we haven't had the "What are we talk" and we're not engaged so its not like you can really consider it full scale cheating especially when all I've done is inquire about the availability of another woman. Contact hasn't even been made with the other girl Missy.

Missy, why are you so ill at me? I'm a good guy, should I put my whole heart in this relationship just in time for her to bail out and crush me for no good reason? I've played the fool before, I don't care for it. I like this girl but she's going to have to get over her past in order to have a future with me.

I'm not being down on you squire.

All of the ills of the world could be put to rest if people drop the bs.

you like her right? and would consider her for more than just sex judging from what you've written here BUT are unwilling to talk to her about whatever is bugging her.

And they say women are hard to understand.

She closes off to me Missy...I don't want to bust out the lamp and interrogate her. If she trusts me, which I've given her no reason not to (to this point) she'll tell me what her problems are without me having to pin her down and answer my questions. There's "mysterious" and there's "irksome" and she's really pushing on irksome with her behavior lately. I'll get to the bottom of things soon enough. To tell you the truth Missy, I never have enjoyed breaking up with anyone or stringing anyone along, the reason I'm taking my time here is because there could be a future in this for me, but we'll see when we finally get to the "substance" of the relationship we'll see.

I will tell you this, never have I ever been out with a girl that didn't talk about her ex...its ridiculous "My ex used to ________" I mean what are you girls thinking? You tell us that why? I can go for YEARS without spilling specifics of past relationships, why do girls surrender that unsolicited information Guys, have you had similar issues? I don't respond to any mention of exes because of course as a man "Whatever you say, can and will be used against you in the court of Crazy also known as the female mind" and also I don't respond in the hopes that it ends the discussion of that specific topic...alas it never fails to be brought up.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

guys are guilty of rambling about ex's as well you know.

[El Kabong]

guys are guilty of rambling about ex's as well you know.

....Not me my dear, I never have and never will.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

guys are guilty of rambling about ex's as well you know.

....Not me my dear, I never have and never will.

what if I asked?

[Nameless]

guys are guilty of rambling about ex's as well you know.

....Not me my dear, I never have and never will.

Ask her kindly what's wrong and explain to her why you're asking, that you like her a lot but that no matter how much you like her, behaviors x,y,z are making it hard for you to cope with the whole situation and that you won't continue eternally if things do not move a little. A straight and non agressive approach seems to be the best path in the circumstances. If it doesn't work or that she's remaining a puzzle, get out of that situation.

That's the best advice I can give you in the circumstances.

[amat]

You could even talk like a Brit and say birds. Dames though huh? When you and your friends are at a bar do you spot a 'fit bird' and go "hey gents check out the dame with the large breasts partaking in those other gentleman's dart game?" I picture you all with suspenders,mustaches and those bikes where the wheel in the front is ten times bigger then the one in the back. There are alternatives to dames that aren't bitches and hos too. Like women.

Amat, just another poser hipster selling sandwiches and giving language advice. Since when was language analysis your forte, just give me a ham sandwich!

Yes, women is acceptable, but dames is just a word too. It is old fashioned but quite synonymous. What's the big deal?

It became my forte when I became a journalism major probably I don't always practice perfect English on this website because it is a boxing forum. It's weird when people clout their sentences with rarely used words (Nameless) because it distracts from a point. Still, I'm not giving language advice. I just really wonder if Lyle actually uses the word dames among friends. If so, wow.

[El Kabong]

guys are guilty of rambling about ex's as well you know.

....Not me my dear, I never have and never will.

what if I asked?

You ask a question and depending on when the question is asked and what the question is I can answer vaguely about details that may incite a row and more precisely on erroneous details.

Nameless, good advice sir

Amat, I like to keep people on their toes. Sometimes I'll throw out words like that, but I don't use it even close to a regular basis.

[boozeboxer]

You could even talk like a Brit and say birds. Dames though huh? When you and your friends are at a bar do you spot a 'fit bird' and go "hey gents check out the dame with the large breasts partaking in those other gentleman's dart game?" I picture you all with suspenders,mustaches and those bikes where the wheel in the front is ten times bigger then the one in the back. There are alternatives to dames that aren't bitches and hos too. Like women.

Amat, just another poser hipster selling sandwiches and giving language advice. Since when was language analysis your forte, just give me a ham sandwich!

Yes, women is acceptable, but dames is just a word too. It is old fashioned but quite synonymous. What's the big deal?

It became my forte when I became a journalism major probably I don't always practice perfect English on this website because it is a boxing forum. It's weird when people clout their sentences with rarely used words (Nameless) because it distracts from a point. Still, I'm not giving language advice. I just really wonder if Lyle actually uses the word dames among friends. If so, wow.

Matt he is coming forward with real problems and you are making fun of his choice of words? You are not helping mate.