Snakeys 1yr relationship ended and now hes gutted!

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I called her today and i think im fucked. We are going to talk on monday, face to face. But i asked her if there was any chance of us getting back together and she said she didnt know. I asked whether she really meant it last week when she said she didnt love me. She said she wasnt sure, she said she think so but doesnt know. And i asked her how she was going and she said really well. She said that shes going to think about getting back together.






So come monday im fucked, basically im just turning up to find out what went wrong and that she doesnt want me back.

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You shouldnt have called DAMMIT:mad: you did not give yourself ample time to pull it together.. You probably sounded shaky and desperate and gave her the upper hand. You should have waited till got you shit together and composed yourself so that you can talk to her and make a last ditch mature ADULT effort to reason with her and plead your case.

The few weeks would have helped you master your emotions better so you would appear like you were going on with your life just fine(huge psychological advantage)

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Mate im going to do that when i meet her. But it looks like i left it too late if anything. Coz she seems really happy and when i asked if she missed me she said a little bit. So im guessing im pretty much fucked and im gonna walk into the firing squad with my head held up high and hope i dont take too many shots to the heart.

Well todays the day. Snakey feels like hes going to walk into a firing squad :-\ :(


But you know what...if im going down i aint going down without a fight! Im not gonna let her step over me! Im going to tell her exactly what her think and if that changes her mind then so be it but if it doesnt then oh well i guess.



Currently listening to No Easy Way out (the song out of rocky) being played by Bullet for my valentine so im pretty amped!

Good luck Snakey

They should write more songs like that.

If she turns you down for good, just say "Well be that way then ya skinny old maid!!! :mad:

Good luck Snakey, regardless of whether or not I agree with what you're doing, you've got some balls.
This reminds me of an old Sepultura lyric, "When you go down, you go down fighting."
I hope it all works out for ya.

Yeah guys im on lunch break at the moment and im seeing her after work. Im beginning to phsyc myself up, im listening to how long by hinder and no easy way out by bullet for my valentine. Im going down fighting guys, just know that. Im not just gonna bow down and say ok. Im going to make sure i get a proper answer, i need her back or i need closure. So im getting either one today!

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Originally Posted by snakey

Yeah guys im on lunch break at the moment and im seeing her after work. Im beginning to phsyc myself up, im listening to how long by hinder and no easy way out by bullet for my valentine. Im going down fighting guys, just know that. Im not just gonna bow down and say ok. Im going to make sure i get a proper answer, i need her back or i need closure. So im getting either one today!

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Even if she says no and tells you to go fuck yourself, getting closure will help you move on. I wish you the best man.

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Yeah guys im on lunch break at the moment and im seeing her after work. Im beginning to phsyc myself up, im listening to how long by hinder and no easy way out by bullet for my valentine. Im going down fighting guys, just know that. Im not just gonna bow down and say ok. Im going to make sure i get a proper answer, i need her back or i need closure. So im getting either one today!

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Even if she says no and tells you to go fuck yourself, getting closure will help you move on. I wish you the best man.

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Thanks man...do you think i should ask for breakup sex? ;D hahaha better not aye ;D

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Yeah guys im on lunch break at the moment and im seeing her after work. Im beginning to phsyc myself up, im listening to how long by hinder and no easy way out by bullet for my valentine. Im going down fighting guys, just know that. Im not just gonna bow down and say ok. Im going to make sure i get a proper answer, i need her back or i need closure. So im getting either one today!

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Even if she says no and tells you to go fuck yourself, getting closure will help you move on. I wish you the best man.

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Thanks man...do you think i should ask for breakup sex? ;D hahaha better not aye ;D

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You should never ask for sex, especially break-up sex. Trust me, if you guys hang out at all after the break-up, the sex will just happen.

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Yeah guys im on lunch break at the moment and im seeing her after work. Im beginning to phsyc myself up, im listening to how long by hinder and no easy way out by bullet for my valentine. Im going down fighting guys, just know that. Im not just gonna bow down and say ok. Im going to make sure i get a proper answer, i need her back or i need closure. So im getting either one today!

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Even if she says no and tells you to go fuck yourself, getting closure will help you move on. I wish you the best man.

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Thanks man...do you think i should ask for breakup sex? ;D hahaha better not aye ;D

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Not sure if that was a joke or not but it may be indicitive of why she broke up with you in the first place.

I was dumped once and I really turned her off towards the end by being too needy and by trying to get sex from her when we wern't working out.

In my head I felt like she wasn't attracted to me any more and it made me want to get physical with her because I needed her to kiss and hold me for me to feel validated and attractive to her.

It was a very immature outlook and made me look needy and desperate. A complete turnoff for her.

Honestly, if you are having trouble in a relationship NEVER ask her for sex. If you have arguments because you are both passionate then its ok but if as I belive in your case she simply feels like she's outgrown you, asking her for sex and trying to get physical with her will just confirm to her your lower social value relative to hers. You'll look needy, immature and selfish.

Incidently my girlfriend actually dumped me twice. The first time she told me she wanted to break up and I handled it really well. I just told her I respected whatever she wanted to do, that I'd had a wonderful time with, respected her totally and if she decided she wanted to move on that I wouldn't stand in her way and would only feel positive and happy about her.

she immediately undumped me! I guess she was feeling (rightly) that I was too needy and clingy around her but this suprisingly mature speech showed that I was prepared to let her go, that I wasn't clingy after all.

She jumped on me and we had sex immediately.

The next day however I went straight back to being jealous and needy again. There were a couple guys who fancied her, and were always chatting her up at work. I'm 5 ft 7 they were both over 6 ft, I weighed about 140 lbs, these guys were good looking 185 lbs +

I felt I wasn't good enough and demonstrated it through my needyness and jealousy.

Ironically when she did finish with me she started dating a guy who was only my height and chubby, someone I believe I was better looking than :rolleyes:

I think there's a lesson there somewhere!

Anyway buddy, my advice to you if you havn't already spoken to her yet. Just let her go. Thank her for your time together, tell she was a wonderful girlfriend and that you'll never forget the time you spent together but you understand that things don't last for ever and that people change. Promise to respect her decision and part on the best of terms. DONT ASK HER FOR SEX OR TRY AND KISS HER!!"

This may seem completely counter intuitive but sometimes to truly demonstrate that you love someone and can properly give love, you have to be prepared to let it fly away.

If she feels like she's outgrown you and wants to move on, pursuasion will only make things worse. If she thinks your mature and strong enough to allow her to leave, and to leave on great terms, she may just think youre wonderful and take you back.

It's the hardest thing in the world to do but at the end of the day, love is a free choice. Allowing her to exercise her's and bearing whatever the consequences may be is the most mature and truly loving thing you can do.

If she leaves, you handled it brilliantly, and if she comes back she's done so entirely of her own choosing and your relationship will be stronger than ever.

Good Luck :)

Bilbo, those are some damn fine words of wisdom.

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Bilbo, those are some damn fine words of wisdom.

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Cheers buddy, sadly they are a lot easier to say than to actually put into practice. :-\

Guy of course i was joking about the sex, what the fuck do you think i am?


Its over, she couldnt even come and see me. She texted me and said she couldnt and that she thinks we should just leave it at that. I rang her, talked to her about shit...got a bit heated. I had alot of frustration to get out, i didnt let her get away with shit. And yeah its done, i still love her but she told me that she needs time to herself. So snakey is drunk right now and feeling like shit.

Snakey's just been shot down... and the bullet's in his heart :(

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQvCcRiem9c

Hard lines mate.

Looking back you were right to ignore all the 'good' advice us idiots gave you. Your a teenager, you acted like one, shouldnt happen any other way.

It didnt work out, it WILL get better.

Theres always wanking.