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Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
I ask because Ive just been engaged to the girl of my dream ( 9 years younger, the whole package ;D )
and we'll be tieing the knot next year... Im very excited but on the other hand, I know my life will change drastically so I im kind of...... nervous??
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
through out your married life need to constantly remind yourself - the grass is always greener
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
There is no magic fairy dust to a marriage its just a partnership.
The best advice is to keep in mind is that to be critical of the partner is the fools way of trying to better the partner ship.
(I dont come up with this stuff myself) I just took notes when someone whos been there and made it work well and said why.
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
OK I'll start.
Negatives
No sex with other women, unless you cheat and or divorce
She'll prob want kids, which means your life will no longer be your own
You will have responsibilites and commitments to her, her family etc. Much less free time
There will be no more sex with other women ever again unless you cheat
You will have to wake up and look at her every day, ok right now, but as she starts to age...
You will most likely lose all your friends, not much of a social life for a married man
You will officially have given up on meeting the dream girl, nothing to really look forward to again.
Positives
You are less likely to end up dying alone
That's all I got.
Congratulations though.
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
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Originally Posted by
Bilbo
OK I'll start.
Negatives
No sex with other women, unless you cheat and or divorce
She'll prob want kids, which means your life will no longer be your own
You will have responsibilites and commitments to her, her family etc. Much less free time
There will be no more sex with other women ever again unless you cheat
You will have to wake up and look at her every day, ok right now, but as she starts to age...
You will most likely lose all your friends, not much of a social life for a married man
You will officially have given up on meeting the dream girl, nothing to really look forward to again.
Positives
You are less likely to end up dying alone
That's all I got.
Congratulations though.
;D Classic, funny as.
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Actually on reflection I did think of a few more.
Negs
Once you are married she will probably stop making any effort with her appearance.
If you want out of the relationship at any time she will take half of everything.
Her inlaws will almost certainly be annoying.
Pros
You'll learn to love spending time in the shed...
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
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Originally Posted by
Andre
There is no magic fairy dust to a marriage its just a partnership.
The best advice is to keep in mind is that to be critical of the partner is the fools way of trying to better the partner ship.
(I dont come up with this stuff myself) I just took notes when someone whos been there and made it work well and said why.
Ain't no business deal here.
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
How long you been married Bilbo?
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
Lol @ Bilbo's responses... That was good stuff man..
Cons - Bilbo pretty much listed all of the major ones.
Pros - A sense of security and partnership throughout lifes struggles. Having someone take care of you when you are sick. Having someone that genuinlely cares about your health and well being.
Reality - Pros are created on a personal preference of lifestyle. If Bilbos list of cons affect you and make you second guess the marriage then i wouldn't do it. But if you dont' care about that stuff you will discover your own list of pros.
My biggest advice: There is no such thing as the perfect person and there is no such thing as a soul mate. Marriage is extremely hard work, sacrifice, but has the ability to give back 10 fold if you let it.
Good luck man - You're gonna need it!
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Marriage is a lifelong commitment and if you aren't up to the task then don't bother.
It isn't easy and it will have it's ups and downs depending on how bi-polar you are. But having someone who knows you better than anyone else can ever know you and who is willing to be there to support you no matter how mental you might be is the best thing in the world.
I have joked about marriage and have even told stories about dramatic rice cooker explosions, but my wife is my best friend and my life organizer. I have no regrets about marriage, people on here have sometimes assumed the worst because I have started threads documenting particularly vicious incidents, but those are exceptions and just me venting. Also the wife venting too. I'm not easy to know sometimes.
Marriage isn't for everyone, but for someone like me, I need that rock. I don't know what you are like as a person really and everyone is different. But at least in my case, I believe in marriage. However, there are no religious connotations. It is like Andre says, an agreement between two people, a partnership.
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
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miles
I'm not easy to know sometimes.
I find that a little hard to believe
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Mark TKO
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miles
I'm not easy to know sometimes.
I find that a little hard to believe
When I'm good I am very good, but when I am bad I can make women mad.
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
Let's just say it depends on the woman you marry, if she's a good, supportive woman who's easy to get along with, there's little to fear, you can have a great life together. Family life has worked well for me, after 30 + years together, my wife and I are closer then ever.
The negative side of marriage, is if you get in a bad relationship, it can ruin you, there's a big difference between being boyfriend/girlfriend, and living together 24/7 as husband and wife.
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Originally Posted by miles;1016422[B
]Marriage is a lifelong commitment and if you aren't up to the task then don't bother.
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It isn't easy and it will have it's ups and downs depending on how bi-polar you are. But having someone who knows you better than anyone else can ever know you and who is willing to be there to support you no matter how mental you might be is the best thing in the world.
I have joked about marriage and have even told stories about dramatic rice cooker explosions, but my wife is my best friend and my life organizer. I have no regrets about marriage, people on here have sometimes assumed the worst because I have started threads documenting particularly vicious incidents, but those are exceptions and just me venting. Also the wife venting too. I'm not easy to know sometimes.
Marriage isn't for everyone, but for someone like me, I need that rock. I don't know what you are like as a person really and everyone is different. But at least in my case, I believe in marriage. However, there are no religious connotations. It is like Andre says, an agreement between two people, a partnership.
Andre is correct, marriage is an agreement between two people, religion, "god", jesus, the bible, et al, has nothing to do with it.
In my case my wife is not only my lover, best friend, and lifelong companion, she's also the obvious = the basis of my family. I figure if your wife is not the basis of your family, then you really have no business being married.
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Wouldn’t not having sex as much as before getting married another con? It is said commonly how sex decreases drastically once she takes a bite of that wedding cake. All of a sudden she’ll start having headaches, too tired for it, too stressed, or even using it as a reward or something to control a man, etc. Sure, sex is not what marriage is all about but it is a part of it.
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
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Ghost
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Originally Posted by
Andre
There is no magic fairy dust to a marriage its just a partnership.
The best advice is to keep in mind is that to be critical of the partner is the fools way of trying to better the partner ship.
(I dont come up with this stuff myself) I just took notes when someone whos been there and made it work well and said why.
Ain't no business deal here.
:cool: Maybe not for you personally and thats your stuff bro.
But there is legally ,try breaking it, see what happens. ;D
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Hardest thing is keeping open about feelings if you can talk them out without negative emotions getting in the way you both got it made.
Also hard to understand, but women quite often dont want your answer to something, they dont wont it fixed immediatley ( They only want to be heard about how they feel about it).
Strange, I know :-\ we just want it fixed right now and that doesnt help, unless its some thing in the house or on the car.
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
communication, is important when deciding who comes first.
laughter, to keep the relationship alive.
time for each other away from children and other people.
tenderness so you get a free feel without getting arrested or slapped.
common interests, preferably porn.
listen, to them and agree with what they say.
children, brings you closer having them
caring for each other when ill.
time out from each other, if you want to want to watch porn yourself.
make up at end of the day, best bit. ;)
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The key to a happy marriage is lots and lots of weed.
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Bilbo relax mate, if you got married your sex life wouldnt change. You'd still be having no sex and perving after teenage girls.
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
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Master
communication, is important when deciding who comes first.
laughter, to keep the relationship alive.
time for each other away from children and other people.
tenderness so you get a free feel without getting arrested or slapped.
common interests, preferably porn.
listen, to them and agree with what they say.
children, brings you closer having them
caring for each other when ill.
time out from each other, if you want to want to watch porn yourself.
make up at end of the day, best bit. ;)
gay bastard
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
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Mark TKO
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Originally Posted by
Master
communication, is important when deciding who comes first.
laughter, to keep the relationship alive.
time for each other away from children and other people.
tenderness so you get a free feel without getting arrested or slapped.
common interests, preferably porn.
listen, to them and agree with what they say.
children, brings you closer having them
caring for each other when ill.
time out from each other, if you want to want to watch porn yourself.
make up at end of the day, best bit. ;)
gay bastard
Which is why Mark TKO is jelous, bitter and single. :)
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
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Memphis
Bilbo relax mate, if you got married your sex life wouldnt change. You'd still be having no sex and perving after teenage girls.
Hahahaha! But yeah, it is well known that sex goes down the drain as soon as the bride takes a bit of that wedding cake. But hey, marriage is not all about sex, right? :rolleyes:
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
If you truly love her, and I mean truly, not loving watching her tits sway back and forth in the doggy position but just her, and are READY to commit it will be the best decision you ever make...although you will occasionally fantasize about murdering her and burying her in the back yard. My sex life is still very active and my children are a true blessing. My wife isn't the best looking woman I was ever with she just happened to be the best woman and that has made all the difference.
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
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VictorCharlie
If you truly love her, and I mean truly, not loving watching her tits sway back and forth in the doggy position but just her, and are READY to commit it will be the best decision you ever make...although you will occasionally fantasize about murdering her and burying her in the back yard. My sex life is still very active and my children are a true blessing. My wife isn't the best looking woman I was ever with she just happened to be the best woman and that has made all the difference.
This x1,000.
I've been with the same woman for almost a decade (Jesus...) and we've been living together for 4 or 5 years now. Our sex life is great, possibly never better, and the positives massively outweigh the negatives. If you find the right person, it's great.
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I like to think that marriage is like finding your favorite beer/wine/liquor....some people try Bud Light and nothing else, they love it and refuse to venture out and try new things. Others like to sample what else is being offered and then settle on a winner. Others have a favorite drink but every now and then feel like trying something new.
The deal is all of these will get you drunk, all will give you a headache, all will get you a hangover, but once you get one you like you'll always want more.
Just my view and of course it works on marital troubles too: some people like drinks that cause them to act like assholes, some people like drinks that always give them hangovers that make them wish they never drank that AGAIN, and some people over indulge in a specific thing and are then never able to enjoy it again (gin or tequila seem to do that).
Just my view.
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I thought my new girlfriend might be "the one" but after looking through her knicker drawer and finding a nurse,s outfit a policewomans uniform and a french maids outfit i dumped her cos she obviously cant hold down a job !!!!!!
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
I really wanted to remarry the woman I divorced years ago, but she said I was only after my money.
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X
I really wanted to remarry the woman I divorced years ago, but she said I was only after my money.
;D
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Originally Posted by
FinitoElDinamita
I ask because Ive just been engaged to the girl of my dream ( 9 years younger, the whole package ;D )
and we'll be tieing the knot next year... Im very excited but on the other hand, I know my life will change drastically so I im kind of...... nervous??
Your life can change drastically for numerous reasons, the fact that you are the one conciously deciding to change it means it's probably kinda missing a little something. You can't guarantee anything in this life but you can be sure that stasis leads to stagnation. A lot of single guys say they are afraid of becoming safe and predictable imagining that their own lives are a lot more progressive and less routine than they actually are. I still get a little nervous before a lot of things, it usually means I am excited about taking first steps into the unknown, good luck mate, you'll need it, particularly if she ends up being a Ricky Burns fan:-)
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
Pros: someone preparing your meal and doing the household-chores.
Cons: you gotta stop and face the music sometimes.
Thanks for reading. And now all overeem.....;D
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GOAT
Pros: someone preparing your meal and doing the household-chores.
Cons: you gotta stop and face the music sometimes.
Thanks for reading. And now all overeem.....;D
Pros: when you work out pros against how much your wife costs in upkeep, pros are much cheaper and do whatever you wish when ever you wish.
Cons:when you work out pros against how much your wife costs in upkeep, pros are much cheaper and do whatever you wish when ever you wish. :)
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
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Andre
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Originally Posted by
GOAT
Pros: someone preparing your meal and doing the household-chores.
Cons: you gotta stop and face the music sometimes.
Thanks for reading. And now all overeem.....;D
Pros: when you work out pros against how much your wife costs in upkeep, pros are much cheaper and do whatever you wish when ever you wish.
Cons:when you work out pros against how much your wife costs in upkeep, pros are much cheaper and do whatever you wish when ever you wish. :)
Cons: high maintainance for low output.
Pros: most females are natural nymphos and work teh cuck even for fun although they don't admit for profit.
Some guys are wise after birth, some guys need to get wise while performing 'the drama' with females. ;D
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
Marriage - Betting someone half your sh*t that you'll love them forever.
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Manos de Piedra
Marriage - Betting someone half your sh*t that you'll love them forever.
Great ;D
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
Pros on them cold night's they keep you warm in bed.!;D
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Dia bando
Pros on them cold night's they keep you warm in bed.!;D
Only if they got a hot-water bottle with them. :rolleyes:
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Re: Question for the married men: What are the pros and cons of being married?
pro: no one else is sticking their cock in her
con: you're not sticking your cock in anyone else