I would like some advice. Some serious and some comedic.

[CFH]

let's see now..it's considered a red flag that the woman you are with is upset about a woman who had her tongue down your throat is friendly and likes you and you like her.....hmm yeah can't see nothing at all for her to get upset about.

women eh?

how would you feel if it were the other way round?

From what Booze has said, they kissed once a long time ago when they were drunk, way before Booze and the new woman were together. The girl he kissed is in a committed relationship with his best friend and he's made it clear that he just wants to be friends with her.

Being upset about something like that and making Booze feel like he has to choose between them is possessive and controlling, and if the situations were reversed the man would be castigated for acting like that.

[Kev]

let's see now..it's considered a red flag that the woman you are with is upset about a woman who had her tongue down your throat is friendly and likes you and you like her.....hmm yeah can't see nothing at all for her to get upset about.

women eh?

how would you feel if it were the other way round?

From what Booze has said, they kissed once a long time ago when they were drunk, way before Booze and the new woman were together. The girl he kissed is in a committed relationship with his best friend and he's made it clear that he just wants to be friends with her.

Being upset about something like that and making Booze feel like he has to choose between them is possessive and controlling, and if the situations were reversed the man would be castigated for acting like that.

I think Missy's response highlights what Booze's initial problem was. Telling his gf about it.

Just keep that shit to yourself. What happens in the barn stays in the barn. Opening up to girls and assuming you will get points for honesty is a fool's mission.

Learn from the legends, Clinton, Wood's, Grant, Giggs, De La Hoya, Hatton. Deny everything, until incontrovertible evidence to the contrary arises, then admit to a moment of weakness, say you are depressed, suicidal even, go off to an island or mountain top to think and let your girl think you really need her to 'fix and cleanse' you. It wasn't you cheating, it was you battling inner demons and she is in fact your rock.

Booze is trying to approach an irrational creature with rational thought. Of course he's struggling.

Just lie, tell your gf you hate that fat pig and she's treating your bf like crap. She's a dog. Let her have a moment and think you are onside, then just meet the bf's girl in the barn in secret.

[Gandalf]

Your girlfriend needs to chill out and just accept your honesty for what it is which is a guy trying to be genuine. I think many women, knowing their own base nature and knowing that most men are base at heart too, have a very hard time when they come across someone that is genuinely honest. All you can do is be open and if she has a hard time dealing with that then that is her problem. I wouldn't change anything just to make her happy. You can't dump your best mate because of an irrational woman.

Be a man and stick to your principles.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

hey, if my typing is messed up it's because I'm posting from my phone & the reply box doesn't fit the screen

some couples/people have a don't ask don't tell policy, some have full disclosure.

Bilbo, I do prefer honesty but he did kinda shoot himself in the foot by having her about in a 'friendly' manner, e.g. Facebook.

She could of course be vindictive, like me, who has agreed to meet for coffee, someone I slept with who I know is a cheat & a liar, who is back with his ex.

I know it looks bad even if he's just trying to be friendly.
Good. I want it to look bad I'm going to go dressed like a hooker.