hey, if my typing is messed up it's because I'm posting from my phone & the reply box doesn't fit the screen

some couples/people have a don't ask don't tell policy, some have full disclosure.

Bilbo, I do prefer honesty but he did kinda shoot himself in the foot by having her about in a 'friendly' manner, e.g. Facebook.

She could of course be vindictive, like me, who has agreed to meet for coffee, someone I slept with who I know is a cheat & a liar, who is back with his ex.

I know it looks bad even if he's just trying to be friendly.
Good. I want it to look bad I'm going to go dressed like a hooker.