Quote Originally Posted by ono View Post
You just have to soldier on mate. Women are like that. Nagging is a hobby. In reality you're not the man she wanted to end up with. There's nothing wrong with you, she just had unrealistic expectations. It's like Chris Rock said..."Have you ever just caught your wife looking at you? She's just looking at you, and she's thinking 'How the fuck did i end up with you?" That's everyone's wife, at some point. The sooner we realise that, the better we'll feel.

Look on the bright side, death is no longer to be feared. After spending 30 odd years with the same woman, death will be a sweet release. Hope this helps. If you're going to jump, you already know that 5 stories isn't quite high enough
I find that a weird thing to say. Of course I am the man she wanted to end up with otherwise why would we have got together? I'm a decent chap with a lot of positive traits I will have you know. But yeah, I suppose years of being in each others faces does lead to times where even the smallest things can grate. I don't think my wife thinks 'How the fuck did I end up with you?', but she probably does have unrealistic expectations. I mean why would I want those morning classes? Why wouldn't I want a drink after a hard days work followed by a spell of evening verbal jousting? Why would I quit all my teaching jobs just to go to the UK for 6 months in which time I probably won't be able to earn a decent income myself? In that sense her expectations are unrealistic. I won't be a complete slave to the wage, be a monk, nor up and leave whenever the fancy takes me. For the time being it means making each other a bit miserable, but the nagging thing is bringing me down at the moment and it's pointless. If I argue back then it just escalates and to be honest, I don't really see the point in it. But I refuse to be a little doormouse either. It's annoying.

Like I say the nagging has only really been bad in the last week or so. There has always been a little bit but not like this, so I'm sure it's all about me refusing to up and leave. For two years I studied my MA (all the while still being able to be the main breadwinner mind), but only actually working 3 days a week. My wife sees that as her supporting me whilst she was working full time and so kind of expects me to boost her career right now. But I am just not in a position to do so, and I really don't want to move countries in order to do that. In her head I have probably become the devil because of that. But I think that is unfair. If she was wanting to study or whatever I would be more than willing to support her, but this is way too much. So, yeah, she is trying to make me miserable any way she can. It is childish because I have never agreed to move countries and this thing only came up in the last week with the company wanting her to go by October. I had no choice but to stand firm and tell her it was absurd. And having just finished my MA I am quite liking being able to work more myself. I don't want to spend 6 months doing nothing in the UK at the age of 30. I studied so hard so I could move on with my overseas career, not to go home and do nothing whilst I get ever older.