How do you deal with constant nagging?

[Andre]

I don't think it helped that when she got home from work yesterday I was playing Red Dead Redemption. Maybe I should have pretended to be job searching on the internet or something. And the really annoying thing is that it was her that first suggested the idea of quitting the job! I actually took her initial advice and I am still in the wrong. You are damned if you do and damned if you don't!

Red Dead Redemption is awesome, much better than GTA 4. OR Marriage

[Gandalf]

I was thinking of starting a thread about that actually. Which is better RDR or GTA4? Both games are great, but I too prefer RDR. I like the Western theme and all the negativity and drug taking etc in GTA4 kind of wore thin on me a bit. I like the fact that Marston on the whole seems to be a pretty decent chap and doesn't feel the need to go to strip clubs.

Great game and lovely graphics too.

[Gandalf]

Anyway, madam is still not talking to me today. Whatever.

Not talking is better than fighting.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

So you are saying all of this kicked off because you won't move to England?

Is that what she told you or it's what you think has caused it?

[Howlin Mad Missy]

Oh yeah, I've started some training to become a life coach and might be looking for volunteers on here

BTW it's not about me giving you advice

[0james0]

Had my own little trouble in paradise yesterday, I seem to have problems listening to the mrs, sometimes I actually try and listen but then don't hear the whole conversation and ask her to repeat herself. Or if I try and wing it, she catches me out for not listening fully.

Often I'll admit I am easily distracted by the TV, the dog, the floor or anything but what she is saying, but last night I tried to actually listen, but I seem to have developed a habit of saying "what?" after everything she says.

This inturn lead her to not speaking to me because she was pissed off I wasn't listening.

I told her to stop mumbling and speak clearer so I can hear properly (I'm not deaf or anything) I think she forgets how sound travels, if she's doing stuff in the kitchen or talking into the fridge, I'm less likely to hear her than if she looks at me and talks.

Women ey!

[El Kabong]

Well that's an easy enough fix...go to the fridge to get a beer, stand there, pay attention (at least try to), and instead of saying "What?" You can ask different questions "How does that make you feel?", "How can I help?", and then just end things by offering some random kind supportive words...feining sincerity is pretty simple and ladies are suckers for it.

[Gandalf]

So you are saying all of this kicked off because you won't move to England?

Is that what she told you or it's what you think has caused it?

Yep, ever since then. She told me that was what she needed on her CV and we should go for it. It's a decent enough offer. 25,000 quid for the year and a house provided free with all the utilities paid for. It's twice what she is making here and obviously to her seems like a great opportunity and in its own way it probably is, but I just don't want to go. I can earn that here (with a full schedule mind) and she was hoping that I would just up and leave without any regard for all my students or friends (as few as they are) here. She has been open saying that was why she was so off before and when she was chirpier admitted that she still blamed me somewhat for not compromising and that's why we shouldn't talk about it.

Now that I have gone and erased one of my freelance gigs, she is probably thinking "why can't he just go and cancel all of them and then we can concentrate on my career". But I've been here 8 years and to be honest, this is my home now. I'm not going anywhere. I like teaching and the UK is not a place for a qualified ESL instructor, not unless you are working at a university.

She has gone a bit weird this evening. She doesn't actually drink, but has gone and drunk a glass of rice wine. She was goading me saying that I am a quitter and never try to deal with adversity (complete nonsense BTW, I have never failed to complete at least a year at any of the schools I have worked at in 8 years...except for this one). Anyway, I failed to stay calm (oops) and proceeded to tell her that she is being horrible and has no good reason to keep nagging and then ignoring me like she has been doing. She thought that was funny and just laughed at me in a rather creepy kind of way. She has gone to her room and is probably sleeping now.

I was going to go to the pub and have a drink, but nobody wants to go out on a Wednesday night!

[generalbulldog]

Sometimes I feel like I don't have a partner
Sometimes I feel like my only friend
Is the city I live in, the city of angels
Lonely as I am, together we cry

[Gandalf]

Sometimes I feel like I don't have a partner
Sometimes I feel like my only friend
Is the city I live in, the city of angels
Lonely as I am, together we cry

Are you telling me to become a heroin addict?