How do you deal with constant nagging?

**Gandalf** · 09-08-2010 02:36 PM

Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missy

So you are saying all of this kicked off because you won't move to England?

Is that what she told you or it's what you think has caused it?

Yep, ever since then. She told me that was what she needed on her CV and we should go for it. It's a decent enough offer. 25,000 quid for the year and a house provided free with all the utilities paid for. It's twice what she is making here and obviously to her seems like a great opportunity and in its own way it probably is, but I just don't want to go. I can earn that here (with a full schedule mind) and she was hoping that I would just up and leave without any regard for all my students or friends (as few as they are) here. She has been open saying that was why she was so off before and when she was chirpier admitted that she still blamed me somewhat for not compromising and that's why we shouldn't talk about it.

Now that I have gone and erased one of my freelance gigs, she is probably thinking "why can't he just go and cancel all of them and then we can concentrate on my career". But I've been here 8 years and to be honest, this is my home now. I'm not going anywhere. I like teaching and the UK is not a place for a qualified ESL instructor, not unless you are working at a university.

She has gone a bit weird this evening. She doesn't actually drink, but has gone and drunk a glass of rice wine. She was goading me saying that I am a quitter and never try to deal with adversity (complete nonsense BTW, I have never failed to complete at least a year at any of the schools I have worked at in 8 years...except for this one). Anyway, I failed to stay calm (oops) and proceeded to tell her that she is being horrible and has no good reason to keep nagging and then ignoring me like she has been doing. She thought that was funny and just laughed at me in a rather creepy kind of way. She has gone to her room and is probably sleeping now.

I was going to go to the pub and have a drink, but nobody wants to go out on a Wednesday night!

**generalbulldog** · 09-08-2010 03:41 PM

Sometimes I feel like I don't have a partner
Sometimes I feel like my only friend
Is the city I live in, the city of angels
Lonely as I am, together we cry

**Gandalf** · 09-08-2010 03:44 PM

Originally Posted by generalbulldog

Sometimes I feel like I don't have a partner
Sometimes I feel like my only friend
Is the city I live in, the city of angels
Lonely as I am, together we cry

Are you telling me to become a heroin addict?