Dames are crazy....

[Gandalf]

You could even talk like a Brit and say birds. Dames though huh? When you and your friends are at a bar do you spot a 'fit bird' and go "hey gents check out the dame with the large breasts partaking in those other gentleman's dart game?" I picture you all with suspenders,mustaches and those bikes where the wheel in the front is ten times bigger then the one in the back. There are alternatives to dames that aren't bitches and hos too. Like women.

Amat, just another poser hipster selling sandwiches and giving language advice. Since when was language analysis your forte, just give me a ham sandwich!

Yes, women is acceptable, but dames is just a word too. It is old fashioned but quite synonymous. What's the big deal?

[Ghost]

Here is a dame.

[El Kabong]

Thanks for that Booze, I figured as much. So she's got some issues, namely those stemming from past boyfriends (thanks very much to that dude ) I haven't really delved into it much #1 Because I figure its none of my business and #2 I'm averse to "drama" and asking about that opens the flood gates.

I haven't figured where the ship is sailing yet with this gal, but I'm being patient. The blondie I'm going after is more immature and also coming out of a relationship so I can play that slow.

No harm in testing the waters

[Howlin Mad Missy]

booze & kabong if you don't want any emotional attachment from a woman just pick up drunken slappers who you'll never see again....if by God you would want a woman to actually LIKE you before having sex with you or oh no! talk to her, don't come complaining because she see it as more than a ONS.

Doufases...doufusi.

you like her then you like her but stop wasting her time.

[El Kabong]

booze & kabong if you don't want any emotional attachment from a woman just pick up drunken slappers who you'll never see again....if by God you would want a woman to actually LIKE you before having sex with you or oh no! talk to her, don't come complaining because she see it as more than a ONS.

Doufases...doufusi.

you like her then you like her but stop wasting her time.

Hey if she stops acting like a flake I'm willing to stay with her and be 100% faithful. But all these headaches and depression, and what not are very trying Missy, and not just for her.

I don't want some hussy...(well at least not in general) but the deal is this in regards to my current relationship with this girl is one of "de facto monogamy" we haven't had the "What are we talk" and we're not engaged so its not like you can really consider it full scale cheating especially when all I've done is inquire about the availability of another woman. Contact hasn't even been made with the other girl Missy.

Missy, why are you so ill at me? I'm a good guy, should I put my whole heart in this relationship just in time for her to bail out and crush me for no good reason? I've played the fool before, I don't care for it. I like this girl but she's going to have to get over her past in order to have a future with me.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

booze & kabong if you don't want any emotional attachment from a woman just pick up drunken slappers who you'll never see again....if by God you would want a woman to actually LIKE you before having sex with you or oh no! talk to her, don't come complaining because she see it as more than a ONS.

Doufases...doufusi.

you like her then you like her but stop wasting her time.

Hey if she stops acting like a flake I'm willing to stay with her and be 100% faithful. But all these headaches and depression, and what not are very trying Missy, and not just for her.

I don't want some hussy...(well at least not in general) but the deal is this in regards to my current relationship with this girl is one of "de facto monogamy" we haven't had the "What are we talk" and we're not engaged so its not like you can really consider it full scale cheating especially when all I've done is inquire about the availability of another woman. Contact hasn't even been made with the other girl Missy.

Missy, why are you so ill at me? I'm a good guy, should I put my whole heart in this relationship just in time for her to bail out and crush me for no good reason? I've played the fool before, I don't care for it. I like this girl but she's going to have to get over her past in order to have a future with me.

I'm not being down on you squire.

All of the ills of the world could be put to rest if people drop the bs.

you like her right? and would consider her for more than just sex judging from what you've written here BUT are unwilling to talk to her about whatever is bugging her.

And they say women are hard to understand.

[El Kabong]

booze & kabong if you don't want any emotional attachment from a woman just pick up drunken slappers who you'll never see again....if by God you would want a woman to actually LIKE you before having sex with you or oh no! talk to her, don't come complaining because she see it as more than a ONS.

Doufases...doufusi.

you like her then you like her but stop wasting her time.

Hey if she stops acting like a flake I'm willing to stay with her and be 100% faithful. But all these headaches and depression, and what not are very trying Missy, and not just for her.

I don't want some hussy...(well at least not in general) but the deal is this in regards to my current relationship with this girl is one of "de facto monogamy" we haven't had the "What are we talk" and we're not engaged so its not like you can really consider it full scale cheating especially when all I've done is inquire about the availability of another woman. Contact hasn't even been made with the other girl Missy.

Missy, why are you so ill at me? I'm a good guy, should I put my whole heart in this relationship just in time for her to bail out and crush me for no good reason? I've played the fool before, I don't care for it. I like this girl but she's going to have to get over her past in order to have a future with me.

I'm not being down on you squire.

All of the ills of the world could be put to rest if people drop the bs.

you like her right? and would consider her for more than just sex judging from what you've written here BUT are unwilling to talk to her about whatever is bugging her.

And they say women are hard to understand.

She closes off to me Missy...I don't want to bust out the lamp and interrogate her. If she trusts me, which I've given her no reason not to (to this point) she'll tell me what her problems are without me having to pin her down and answer my questions. There's "mysterious" and there's "irksome" and she's really pushing on irksome with her behavior lately. I'll get to the bottom of things soon enough. To tell you the truth Missy, I never have enjoyed breaking up with anyone or stringing anyone along, the reason I'm taking my time here is because there could be a future in this for me, but we'll see when we finally get to the "substance" of the relationship we'll see.

I will tell you this, never have I ever been out with a girl that didn't talk about her ex...its ridiculous "My ex used to ________" I mean what are you girls thinking? You tell us that why? I can go for YEARS without spilling specifics of past relationships, why do girls surrender that unsolicited information Guys, have you had similar issues? I don't respond to any mention of exes because of course as a man "Whatever you say, can and will be used against you in the court of Crazy also known as the female mind" and also I don't respond in the hopes that it ends the discussion of that specific topic...alas it never fails to be brought up.

[El Kabong]

No info has come to light that makes me think that her "ex" boyfriend is very newly "exed" and in my EXperience (pardon the pun) broads always, ALWAYS put the "ex" in the front of the line. No matter what he's done to her or how he's acted or what, its just something in the female brain that #1 Makes them think they can change a man and #2 makes them think that relationship is worth saving.

I've not confronted her with my theory, and I won't go off half cocked. I've got to be in a calm state of mind and be reasonable and rational when thinking this out.

....Looking more and more forward to trying out blondie though (another thing that isn't factoring in my final decision).

[Howlin Mad Missy]

can't switch feelings off and on and everyone gets over things in their own time.

I've had guys say and do things that an ex has done and yes it can jarr and may you question if things are going down the same path.

Again - you have a theory, if you're not that fussed about her since you're talking about boning blondie stop wasting this one's time. She may be confused about this shit just as much as you are

Sort it out.

[El Kabong]

can't switch feelings off and on and everyone gets over things in their own time.

I've had guys say and do things that an ex has done and yes it can jarr and may you question if things are going down the same path.

Again - you have a theory, if you're not that fussed about her since you're talking about boning blondie stop wasting this one's time. She may be confused about this shit just as much as you are

Sort it out.

If the relationship was 100% as she said then she should have 0 problem leaving and turning her emotions off on that guy. And if she's not ready to then I will be going elsewhere because its not fair to either her or myself.

I'm "not fussed" about her yet, because a strong emotional attachment hasn't been made yet and also in part I do admit, because I'm not going to play the sap again.

Missy perhaps you're confused at the fact I am reasoning out a response rather than just reacting. I'm gathering information, I'm reading signs, and well I'm trying to be as perceptive as possible. The reason I haven't confronted her or dumped her are simply, I could actually be wrong. So I say nothing and continue to gather information for the general common benefit of the relationship.

[Andre]

Best thing is to be just straight up and ask them what you're thinking, and say what your intent is and talk about a couple of what if situations etc. No secret agendas no future blame or pain.

[El Kabong]

Best thing is to be just straight up and ask them what you're thinking, and say what your intent is and talk about a couple of what if situations etc. No secret agendas no future blame or pain.

...If only it were that easy Andre.

[Spicoli]

I've found myself actually trying to get angry and use it as a vehicle to get over someone. Unhealthy. Some womem are like newly clean windows, they don't have to be open to see right through.

[Howlin Mad Missy]

Best thing is to be just straight up and ask them what you're thinking, and say what your intent is and talk about a couple of what if situations etc. No secret agendas no future blame or pain.

Andre, don't be so silly and grown up

[Howlin Mad Missy]

can't switch feelings off and on and everyone gets over things in their own time.

I've had guys say and do things that an ex has done and yes it can jarr and may you question if things are going down the same path.

Again - you have a theory, if you're not that fussed about her since you're talking about boning blondie stop wasting this one's time. She may be confused about this shit just as much as you are

Sort it out.

If the relationship was 100% as she said then she should have 0 problem leaving and turning her emotions off on that guy. And if she's not ready to then I will be going elsewhere because its not fair to either her or myself.

I'm "not fussed" about her yet, because a strong emotional attachment hasn't been made yet and also in part I do admit, because I'm not going to play the sap again.

Missy perhaps you're confused at the fact I am reasoning out a response rather than just reacting. I'm gathering information, I'm reading signs, and well I'm trying to be as perceptive as possible. The reason I haven't confronted her or dumped her are simply, I could actually be wrong. So I say nothing and continue to gather information for the general common benefit of the relationship.

admitting you have feelings for this dame does not make you a sap, it makes you human.
It also makes it sound like you have your own baggage do deal with? Yes?

I also give free hugs.