How do you deal with constant nagging?

[Gandalf]

LOL at VD.

That's the one thing she is definitely not doing. We spend fair too much time around one another to be doing that. There are no evenings apart or little trips out. Everything is pretty much done together, tbh probably the reason why we have been getting on each others nerves.

Like I say, we've got it all into the open and for the time being things have been alright. Though she did go to sleep at 11am and woke up at 3pm and then proceeded to blame me for not waking her up. She could have set her alarm or told me to wake her up, but no, it has to be my fault. Women are a strange breed!

[Howlin Mad Missy]

LOL at VD.

That's the one thing she is definitely not doing. We spend fair too much time around one another to be doing that. There are no evenings apart or little trips out. Everything is pretty much done together, tbh probably the reason why we have been getting on each others nerves.

Like I say, we've got it all into the open and for the time being things have been alright. Though she did go to sleep at 11am and woke up at 3pm and then proceeded to blame me for not waking her up. She could have set her alarm or told me to wake her up, but no, it has to be my fault. Women are a strange breed!

With all his excellent advice on women I'm thinking VD is about 15 and his sexual experience is based on razzle and his right hand.

[Andre]

LOL at VD.

That's the one thing she is definitely not doing. We spend fair too much time around one another to be doing that. There are no evenings apart or little trips out. Everything is pretty much done together, tbh probably the reason why we have been getting on each others nerves. She wants a threesome.



You and Vd , tag team.

Rough then caring you know Good cop bad cop.

Actually I couldnt think of anything worse Than a 3some, shoot yourself instead

Like I say, we've got it all into the open and for the time being things have been alright. Though she did go to sleep at 11am and woke up at 3pm and then proceeded to blame me for not waking her up. She could have set her alarm or told me to wake her up, but no, it has to be my fault. Women are a strange breed!

* Tell her: The up hill thing to do in life is to look for the good in someone you reach higher ground ; its too easy looking for the bad all the time because thats just a downhill slide for both.

[DaxxKahn]

I have been married now for just over five years and one thing that has really started to bug me is the incessant nagging. Since coming back from my holiday, the nagging is something that has really begun to stand out. It's all the time now. Honestly, anything I say right now gets turned into a verbal sparring match. I will say something, anything, and it will get turned into WW3. The same thing happened today. I simply said that I didn't want to do an early morning company class (starting 8am) and would much rather just work my regular teaching hours (between 10 and 6) and immediately she was on me calling me lazy, saying that I am useless, and telling me that she will never find me extra work again. Blah, blah, blah. A lot of histrionics over nothing. This time I put my foot down and simply told her to stop talking because I was just not in the mood for another row. Thereafter I simply ignored her and she stormed off to her room and here I am looking at a nice quiet night in the living room. I'm not complaining.

Ever since coming back from holiday she has been like this. The holiday was quite nice actually, but faltered a little towards the end which I had put down to PMS, but it's been getting progressively worse ever since. If I complain that it's too hot, I am always complaining. If I have a drink, I get called a drinking machine. If I wear a nice shirt and accidentally spill some dinner on it, I am in the doghouse. Today I went to work and my umbrella got stolen. I had to come home in the rain and my shirt was creased and drenched. It had been freshly ironed so I hurriedly put it in the bottom of the washing machine in fear of being accused of abusing my newly ironed clothes. That's just sad really.

One thing that annoyed my wife is that her company offered her a six month position in the UK and she asked me to drop all my contracts and just fly over there with her and do that. But I put my foot down and said no. I mean, no way will I just jump and leave like that. Korea is no heaven, but I have my responsibilities and ties here and to be honest I am more than settled. Maybe this is her sweet revenge, but if so it is extremely childish and tbh, I am getting towards the end of my tether with the whole shenanigans. It's not the easiest of things living overseas and if your supposed partner is then also trying to make everything you do so difficult then it leads to a lot of misery. I guess I'm just not very happy right now which is a shame because I really enjoyed my holiday and have come back quite refreshed. I haven't mentioned politics once since coming back!

So a thread about being nagged at and being in the doghouse. What are your experiences and how did you deal with it?

Either I just say "Enough Already!" if that doesn't work I give the old "Will you please SHUT UP" If that does not work I will see if I can just get done what she won't shut up about...OR in the worst case I will just go out and stay until she starts wondering what the fuck I am up to and calls me where I tell her when she can get off her bullshit bitching I will come home if not thenh I will be by in the morning to grab clothes before work.....

BUT from what yu describe she has a bit of a bug up inside her and is pissed about something...I would just ask what the issue is before it gets out of control....Constant arguing like that usually ends up with stuff being said that no one meant that can not be taken back forever causing a strain on things

[Nameless]

one of my good friend did work 2 years full time in Dubai and abu Dhabi and quite frankly, beside money, this place is not very much interesting for more than 2-3 months,, the time to make A camel"s run in the desert and to visit around. Most thing are prohibited over here, just saying "fuck" can lead you to jail or to lose your visa and most entertainment are VERY limited and under cover as there are many illegal things. Money can be exciting but I would consider every other options before moving over here from what I've heard.

[Gandalf]

one of my good friend did work 2 years full time in Dubai and abu Dhabi and quite frankly, beside money, this place is not very much interesting for more than 2-3 months,, the time to make A camel"s run in the desert and to visit around. Most thing are prohibited over here, just saying "fuck" can lead you to jail or to lose your visa and most entertainment are VERY limited and under cover as there are many illegal things. Money can be exciting but I would consider every other options before moving over here from what I've heard.

I don't think I would be able to deal with the weather either. One plus is that the supermarkets apparently stock a lot of British food. The supermarkets out here are beyond shit and are not beffiting a developed country. Korea is developed because of the wealth of the chaebol, but in terms of other stuff I don't regard it as developed at all.

Tbh, I think staying here is better. I have permanent residency status and I'm free to move between jobs unlike other foreigners. I can earn more money here than anywhere else because of that, but it just means taking my time picking and choosing my jobs. I'm going to apply for some university jobs here and build up my resume. And maybe take on pt jobs to further supplement my income. That will work out better than needing to go anywhere else.

The wifes mood seems to have come back to earth again, so fingers crossed that things are on the mend again.

[boozeboxer]

A few things:

1. She wants to go to UK and she may divorce you once she gets settled in there. She is probably afraid of moving there by herself, but hey, you are the time tested Brit.

2. Why does everyone say "to be honest", tbh, or honestly (then some declaratory statement) ?? It drives me crazy! I think, have they been talking rubbish at all points before they state they are being honest now? Or are they just clarifying that they are in fact honest people and this conversation is worth having?? Or should they just use the word "frankly" to express that they are being somewhat blunt?

3. You live where you could get many hot asian women. I would let her remember that.

[Gandalf]

A few things:

1. She wants to go to UK and she may divorce you once she gets settled in there. She is probably afraid of moving there by herself, but hey, you are the time tested Brit.

2. Why does everyone say "to be honest", tbh, or honestly (then some declaratory statement) ?? It drives me crazy! I think, have they been talking rubbish at all points before they state they are being honest now? Or are they just clarifying that they are in fact honest people and this conversation is worth having?? Or should they just use the word "frankly" to express that they are being somewhat blunt?

3. You live where you could get many hot asian women. I would let her remember that.

1. That is always a possibility, but if we don't go together then she won't go at all. I think she is off the idea actually. She usually steals the internet to look at handbags for hours on end, but in the last 3 days she has been all over the academic job sites (all in Korean) for me. Just maybe the England idea has passed over.

2. In my case I use it instead of frankly. I find 'frankly' to be a bit of an antiquated term tbh. Or should I say 'frankly' there?

3. That is true. And I still have a modicum of sexiness going on for a man of 30. One of the jobs my wife has found is for an all girls university. I would find that a bit weird tbh. Or should I say 'Frankly, I would find that a bit weird'.

Stop screwing with my discourse patterns dammit!