What do you make of this girl????

[Kev]

Ok some hobbit wisdom.

Fisrt off let's get a clear picture of what is going on here Tua. Have you EVER spent any time with this girl apart from meeting her this one time?

I mean it sounds like you met her once for a few minutes, swopped emails and have been emailing and texting ever since but have never seen each other again?

That's a new one to me I have to admit. I mean if you've only met once I'm at a loss to explain why she'd still be messaging you now and hasn't lost interest, whilst at the same time hasn't wanted to see you

Maybe she just feels you get on well as online buddies/pen pals and doesn't really want to change that? How often do you talk to each other? What kind of things do you talk about?


Another possible scenario is this. She likes talking online to you. She likes flirting via text with you, and when caught up in the moment she wants to see you.

However when she's not in that emotional state, i.e when you call or somthing she doesn't want to see you. It could be that your messages are really hot and steamy and that when she's not actually in a flirty mood they make her feel slutty?


I know from my own experience that I'm quite likely to text girls late at night, especially when I'm drunk and horny. Lot's of men do this, they have a 2 am club, you know a list of girls they have had sex with in the past who they call only when drunk and wanting to have sex. The next day you just arn't interested at all because you're no longer in that state.

Girls do it too, although less often as they have a built in anti slut mechanism that makes them feel guilty about this kind of stuff.

It's possible she enjoys flirting with you when she's in the mood but never wants to meet you because you havn't built any comfort with her. Most girls don't ever like to feel like a slut and if the two of you merely exchange dirty messages and emails, whilst she enjoys it, she probably feels guilty and a little dirty maybe when she's not in that emotional state.

But you'll need to explain the siuation more for me to better be able to elaborate.