What do you make of this girl????

[Dizaster]

Sounds like she could be intimidated,,, but every time you 2 have organised a date and she has not turned up, she's testing you and your probably failing... Sometimes they even do it subconsiously.. They want to meet you, but a small part of them comes up with some "reason" why they can't go. A part of it is to test how you'll react ie. will you get mad, sad, miss her, happy/carefree. She can test your interest in her in some warped way, and your manliness. What you'll stand for, and what you won't.

A couple of quick questions :
- What sort of dates are you making? Is it a big heavy 'dinner & movie' type deal, or something more relaxed..
- How have you reacted to her when speaking to her after she stood you up?
- How many times have you made dates with her and she's not turned up?

You've got to put the ball back in your court.. By this time she knows that she can get all the validation from you that she wants over the phone/e-mail etc, without really having to commit anything.. This is bad, as girls completely love validation and the less they have to do for it, the better. At the moment all she has to do is log onto her e-mail, and she gets all those great feelins of someone liking her, without having to commit to anything.
I'd also be willing to bet just about anything that she has 5 or 6 guys just like you that she's not giving much back to, and stringing along, but they are giving her a tonne of validation and making her feel great about herself.
Don't take it personally though, this is just what girls do. Especially hot girls.
The good thing is though, it wont take much for you to stand and out seperate you from the rest, and SHE'LL be wanting to chase you. Those other guys will become the distant chumps that she strings along, and you'll become the main man..

Give me a sec and i'll post back your plan to turn the relationship around.

[DAVIDTUA]

Sounds like she could be intimidated,,, but every time you 2 have organised a date and she has not turned up, she's testing you and your probably failing... Sometimes they even do it subconsiously.. They want to meet you, but a small part of them comes up with some "reason" why they can't go. A part of it is to test how you'll react ie. will you get mad, sad, miss her, happy/carefree. She can test your interest in her in some warped way, and your manliness. What you'll stand for, and what you won't.

A couple of quick questions :
- What sort of dates are you making? Is it a big heavy 'dinner & movie' type deal, or something more relaxed..
- How have you reacted to her when speaking to her after she stood you up?
- How many times have you made dates with her and she's not turned up?

You've got to put the ball back in your court.. By this time she knows that she can get all the validation from you that she wants over the phone/e-mail etc, without really having to commit anything.. This is bad, as girls completely love validation and the less they have to do for it, the better. At the moment all she has to do is log onto her e-mail, and she gets all those great feelins of someone liking her, without having to commit to anything.
I'd also be willing to bet just about anything that she has 5 or 6 guys just like you that she's not giving much back to, and stringing along, but they are giving her a tonne of validation and making her feel great about herself.
Don't take it personally though, this is just what girls do. Especially hot girls.
The good thing is though, it wont take much for you to stand and out seperate you from the rest, and SHE'LL be wanting to chase you. Those other guys will become the distant chumps that she strings along, and you'll become the main man..

Give me a sec and i'll post back your plan to turn the relationship around.

Dizaster! first off 5points from me to you bud! thanks for the wise words.

u know more and more i analyze it and i for some reason truly feel she really does chicken out? cuz why on earth would she still be talking to me, emailing me, texting me, etc etc if she didnt want me in some way?

DAMNIT women are IMPOSSIBLE to figure out LOL

to answer your questions:
A couple of quick questions :
- What sort of dates are you making? Is it a big heavy 'dinner & movie' type deal, or something more relaxed..

Answer: we pretty much both say we should hook up blah blah. it was anything from dinner, movies, the beach, san diego, vegas, baseball games, laker games. like for example just when she goes MIA, she'll text me a pic of her and her girlfriend from the laker game or angels game and saying u and i will be drinking beers right here for the next game sounds good to you babe?




- How have you reacted to her when speaking to her after she stood you up?

Well obviously i was pissed and let down cuz i wanna hook up with her in the worst way i mean shes SMOKIN lol i dont know how much more i can stress that LOL. i never really expressed it to her but like after the 2nd or 3rd time i kinda joked about it by saying: hey babe should I call up the channel 5 news to file a missing hot body report? haha. she then doesnt mention anything about MIA and acts like she didnt go MIA at all hahaha. i dont know many quite bizarre if u ask me? confusing as hell.

- How many times have you made dates with her and she's not turned up?
ummm well i do travel alot for work. i basically do sales and it entails me traveling alot for events/conferences etc. i tried to invite her on numerous accounts but she always says ill let u know bs. but actual hey im in town lets do this next weekend type of dates probably about 3 or 4 times at most like 5

AGAIN its weird cuz im not one of those dudes who like has no clue and like stalks chicks. i can def take a hint and shes never made it clear for me to back off or whatever and just when i think shes completely out she'll text me saying like hey babe we should do this or go here next time WTF LOL