What do you make of this girl????

[Kev]

hahaha LOL yeah its weird indeed! i think we are back at ground zero.

well shes never said shes interested in me, i dont think any girl especially of all places in california would actually say that lol.

but she has dropped obvious hints like: we should go here or there and she not only says we should go here or there she textes me pics of her at these locations. her name is NINA by the way.

well some other factors im not sure if we covered yet was i did meet her friend: Melissa first earlier that day i dont know how close they are or if they were just friends of friends or just mere aquaintances but NINA did kinda brag to Melissa by saying hey guess who im with right now blah blah.

at that same night her other friend: Karen, kept saying like hey why are you here by yourself blah blah then Karen went onto say oh your here pimping it huh?(what are you supposed to respond to that? and why would Karen say that if i was already holding hands with Nina LOL?)

so one possible reason is that same friend: Karen is telling her that im a player and not to go out with me?

for the record i only to this day only one i ever talk to after that night was NINA and not her friends after that night.

but in a few of the pics that she sent me Karen is also with her. so im assuming Nina and Karen are good friends. so u know how girls are they control each others lives literally.

i really thought that she doesnt want to hook up as u stated, but if thats true wtf is up with all the confusing hey we should go here and there text messages with pics.

for example on new years she kept calling and texting until i responded she went to vegas and she like would not stop calling or texting till i responded LOL.

so maybe.... she only calls/textes when shes feeling really nostalgic/drunk i dont know man

Girls are funny things mate. They want validation, i.e to feel like they are attractive to someone.

Oftentimes when they have got that, they lose interest. I have a friend like that called Emma. We met at college about 6 years ago and have been friends ever since. She's a groupie type girl, all her boyfriends have been either DJ's or in a band.

I know nothing about music and we've always been just friends, although very close ones. We've always hung out a lot, gone clubbing together, she's stayed over at my house etc but we arn't interested in each other. I'm not her type at all in terms of boyfriend and she isn't my type either although although physically I'd happily bang the fuck out of her whenever she wanted.

Anway, whenever she was in between boyfriends she'd ring me more and more often, she'd want me to go over and see her all the time, and she'd love to get me turned on by her. She'd lay on the bed and ask me to massage her or stroke her legs, she'd love me licking her neck and telling her she was gorgeous but whenever I tried to kiss she'd turn away.

She didn't want me she just wanted me to to really want her. One time she even rang me up at 1 in the morning playing with herself down the phone at me. She wanted to go over and of course once I did go over she had sobered up and didn't want to any more. She even accused me of taking advantage of her drunken state

Anyway that night I got really pissed at her, told her she was a little prick tease and an attention hoe and got up to leave. She just threw herself at me and started kissing me.

I told her she was pathetic and gave her a condescending pat on the back and left and she started crying 'please don't go!' and all this crap.

But she was never interested me at all, it was just games on her part and her wanting to feel attractive to me to boost her own ego.

In her case though it really didn't bother me at all. I mean I love her to bits as a mate but I wouldn't want to be with her in a million years and she feels exactly the same.

She's living with a guy now, another singer in a band but she'll still ring every time they've had a row or something and want to come over. I just laugh at her and tell she's a little attention hoe and she laughs back, cos she knows it!

But we still meet up platonically during the day now and again. We'll meet up in town and go shopping or she'll pop over and we'll chat.

She's a great girl and I value her friendship, and she does mine but I don't allow her to play her little games with me any more, not because she'll hurt me, I don't like her in that way for her to be able to lead me on. But because I don't want to be a tool who gets led along by her. If she rings now when she's drunk and says we should meet up right now I just tell she's an attention whore and we both laugh about it.

The alternative is I drive 6 miles to her house (whilst her guy is away obviously) and have her flaunt herself at me for an hour in a bid to try and get me to kiss her so she can get a feeling of mission acomplished and then tell me she's really tired and that I should go! We've played game sooooo many times that now I don't allow her that power.

I imagine this girl is similar, she gets off on you showing your attracted to her. Just play games with her back. Next time she sends you a pic, tell her she looks like she's putting on weight. Or if she shows you a pic of her in a new dress say something like 'Oh yeah that dress is really popular right now I've noticed three different girls in it this week!' and then say 'But you look nice in it though'

By the sounds of it she's just like my mate Ems, she likes to feel validated, you can give her that validation but make her jump through a load of hoops first to get it. She'll actually be more attracted to you as a result anyway, girls like a man whose interest they have to earn, think a cat with a piece of string, if you dangle it in front of them they will go mad trying to get it, but if you just place it at their feet they will turn up their noses and walk away........