How do you deal with constant nagging?

[CFH]

LOL, I have now just been offered a job in Dubai working for considerably more money than my wife was offered to go to England.

It seems we have both been offered jobs that want to tempt us away. Like her job, mine would be tax free, free nicely sized apartment and all the company benefits from the airline. It would also allow me to work with one of my best mates who I first met in Korea.

I can't believe the timing of this offer tbh. Beyond freaky. The job won't start until early next year which does actually allow me a chance to tie up all my contracts in a legit way, but at the same time I am quite happy here in Korea. But the truth is, I am earning what I am because of Visa status rather than my qualifications. This would be a chance to go somewhere new and use my qualifications in a setting that will challenge me appropriately. I am kind of tempted.

I'm half tempted to keep the offer secret and just carry on doing what I am doing, but I am half tempted to tell her too. But I also worry about the backlash if I do say something. "Oh so we can do what you want, but not what I want!". And then 10 days of no talking and back and forth. I am quite happy in Korea, but will only take work that I feel is appropriate (ie hours and pay). Staying here is what I prefer, but without a supportive wife it isn't easy. You quit a job and then spend 10 days pissing around because she is sulking. It's kind of crap.

I took an class on second language acquisition as an elective when I was finishing my degree this summer and the prof mentioned how much money their is to be made teaching ESL in the UAE. It was actually a pretty interesting class and I've been half-assed looking into ESL teaching jobs. I doubt I'll do it though, I'm leaning towards doing a professional Master's like an MPA...

[Gandalf]

LOL, I have now just been offered a job in Dubai working for considerably more money than my wife was offered to go to England.

It seems we have both been offered jobs that want to tempt us away. Like her job, mine would be tax free, free nicely sized apartment and all the company benefits from the airline. It would also allow me to work with one of my best mates who I first met in Korea.

I can't believe the timing of this offer tbh. Beyond freaky. The job won't start until early next year which does actually allow me a chance to tie up all my contracts in a legit way, but at the same time I am quite happy here in Korea. But the truth is, I am earning what I am because of Visa status rather than my qualifications. This would be a chance to go somewhere new and use my qualifications in a setting that will challenge me appropriately. I am kind of tempted.

I'm half tempted to keep the offer secret and just carry on doing what I am doing, but I am half tempted to tell her too. But I also worry about the backlash if I do say something. "Oh so we can do what you want, but not what I want!". And then 10 days of no talking and back and forth. I am quite happy in Korea, but will only take work that I feel is appropriate (ie hours and pay). Staying here is what I prefer, but without a supportive wife it isn't easy. You quit a job and then spend 10 days pissing around because she is sulking. It's kind of crap.

I took an class on second language acquisition as an elective when I was finishing my degree this summer and the prof mentioned how much money their is to be made teaching ESL in the UAE. It was actually a pretty interesting class and I've been half-assed looking into ESL teaching jobs. I doubt I'll do it though, I'm leaning towards doing a professional Master's like an MPA...

Yes, the top jobs pay really well, but you pretty much need a masters plus experience to get them. I guess you need to adapt to the culture somewhat and also learn to deal with the weather!

ESL is always an option without the MA though. Many countries will accept a simple BA in anything and a clean background check. I don't think those people are neccessarily effective teachers though. I certainly wasn't when I started out, but if there is a demand the jobs are there.

I did a bit of research looking at ESL in the UK and it's one of the reasons I don't want to return home at all. The money simply isn't there.

[Gandalf]

I have just been given an apology and been told that she has just been a bit depressed. She thought that me earning a lot of money was one way of justifying her not been able to advance her career and I kind of let her down in that regard. Anyway all seems to be relatively peaceful again and I am going to buy dinner later. She admits that pressuring me to take the first new job that came along was wrong.

Like I say, I am always willing to work hard, but no late finishes and no random bullshit in terms of organisation. Will just take a few weeks picking and choosing to get that right.

I've no idea what to think about that Dubai offer tbh. Will have to sit and stew on that one a while.

[generalbulldog]

You need a reality tv show bro. It would be cool to see a stressed out Englishman in Korea, getting nagged by his foreign wife speaking the Queen's English and having an argument with her. Some good hilarity would ensued on such a show.

[Gandalf]

Honestly, you could make a pretty unusual film about my experiences here. Some of it would be very funny, but all at the expense of my sanity and peace of mind.