Long Distance Relationships

[ono]

My advice is to start bangin' around the minute she leaves.
It saves you regretting the wasted time when the inevitable happens.

I pretty much agree with this.

[Andre]

Ive never fancied a phone for sex.

How old are you? and whats keeping you and her apart?

[jabvargas24]

Im 18 and ive been around alot for my age but I have that feeling like this girl could be "the one" And her family is in the military so they move around. Oh and we've been together almost 2 years.

[Andre]

You still at school? You still at home? Can you move with her whats keeping you where you are?

My daughter has been going out with the same bloke since she was 12 she is 20 nearly 21 now, at any stage after they were out of school, if we had moved areas we'd have asked if he wanted to come with us or whether she wanted to stay with him and his folks cause we all realized fast that these two held each other in higher regards than anything else and their happiness outweighs anything we can offer on top.

[jabvargas24]

Im going to school out here. But that gives me hope that this could work. Her parents said I could stay with them a few days at a time. I suppose thats a start

[Gandalf]

I've never really had a long distance relationship, but I am about to embark on one. There are no decent paying jobs in this city so my wife is going to relocate to the old city 2 hours away. It's a mutual decision. This place is two small for two and we are tripping over each others feet. She wants to earn, which is good considering since March we have been living on my income and so I have had to pay double for everything. My private pension, her private pension. My private health insurance, her private insurance. All these things eventually add up. When you become as middle class and materialistic as me these things start to grate.

I only work 3 and a half days a week, so will be able to go over and stay half the week, but part of me is actually quite invigorated by the prospect of having the place to myself. I have been married since I was 25 and recently things have started to feel jaded for me. I feel penned in and unable to manage my own life on my own terms. Now I am going to be in charge of paying my own bills and that is such a liberating feeling. If I want to have a beer, then I can! If I want to actually meet people, then I can feel free to do so. The long distance is a chance for actual freedom!

You are clearly very young with romantic ideals and values, but when you get to my age and the chance of a little freedom comes up, you jump at the chance.

[Andre]

Im going to school out here. But that gives me hope that this could work. Her parents said I could stay with them a few days at a time. I suppose thats a start

Yeah you are lucky mate. just dont lump off them when you visit, do the washing up occasionally, shout them all fish and chips one night, that sort of thing, show them you appreciate them allowing you to be there and things will get even better.

[jabvargas24]

Im going to school out here. But that gives me hope that this could work. Her parents said I could stay with them a few days at a time. I suppose thats a start

Yeah you are lucky mate. just dont lump off them when you visit, do the washing up occasionally, shout them all fish and chips one night, that sort of thing, show them you appreciate them allowing you to be there and things will get even better.

Thanks man. I appreciate the advice. Lol the rest of you guys are a mess. Does anyone believe in love anymore? smh

[Nameless]

Im 18 and ive been around alot for my age but I have that feeling like this girl could be "the one" And her family is in the military so they move around. Oh and we've been together almost 2 years.

I have a lot of difficulties with the concept of "knowing she's the one", we are evolving so fast in an era of stress and where it is very easy to gather informations/temptation from elsewhere (the time where people used to live in the middle of nowhere with 10 hours to do to join the city is revolved) that things change fast. We can never know, ultimately, is she/he is the "one".
My best advice would be: If you really love her, make the compromises necessary in order to make it work, enjoy every moments you can in her company but keep in mind that such relationships are tough and often don't hold in the long run, which means: yeah, do everything you can to make it last, it's possible, difficult but possible. However, don't sacrifice all the rest for a relationship "partially built on a question mark".

[generalbulldog]

You're 18 right? More than likely it's just High school puppy love. When you get into college, you'll meet new people and experience new things, and more importantly you'll grow and mature and have different outlooks on life. At 18, you're not fully matured physically and mentally yet to make decisions that she is the one.

She'll probably go through the same things.

[JazMerkin]

My advice is to start bangin' around the minute she leaves.
It saves you regretting the wasted time when the inevitable happens.

I pretty much agree with this.

You're in no position to tell him to start fucking as soon as possible

[Gandalf]

My advice is to start bangin' around the minute she leaves.
It saves you regretting the wasted time when the inevitable happens.

I pretty much agree with this.

You're in no position to tell him to start fucking as soon as possible

Very good point. How can Ono, the king of elongated sexual preludes agree with banging as soon as she leaves? Haha, it would take him a year to make a move!

In my own case, I would do no such thing, but I would try to have more friends and just go to the pub without feeling any pressure.