My girlfriend is moving to Wisconsin and Im in DC. We are both in love with each other so Im hoping this works out. Anyone ever done long distance? Or advice? Im stressing out over here.
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My girlfriend is moving to Wisconsin and Im in DC. We are both in love with each other so Im hoping this works out. Anyone ever done long distance? Or advice? Im stressing out over here.
My advice is to start bangin' around the minute she leaves.
It saves you regretting the wasted time when the inevitable happens.
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Originally Posted by jabvargas24
Nah they don't work. If I were you I'd get out on the hunt for a new piece of ass pronto. There's literally MILLIONS of tarts out their I'm sure you'll find another one no problem.
Women come and go in life, but you can always find another one.
Hope this helps.
Bunch of mongs.
IF you both want it to work it can - if you're both committed to each other - you need to schedule proper time for each other otherwise as soon as one of you starts to feel lonely and someone else starts showing you attention.......
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Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missy
Absolutely, there's always someone else.
I pretty much agree with this.Quote:
Originally Posted by FTMatty
Ive never fancied a phone for sex.
How old are you? and whats keeping you and her apart?
Im 18 and ive been around alot for my age but I have that feeling like this girl could be "the one" And her family is in the military so they move around. Oh and we've been together almost 2 years.
You still at school? You still at home? Can you move with her whats keeping you where you are?
My daughter has been going out with the same bloke since she was 12 she is 20 nearly 21 now, at any stage after they were out of school, if we had moved areas we'd have asked if he wanted to come with us or whether she wanted to stay with him and his folks cause we all realized fast that these two held each other in higher regards than anything else and their happiness outweighs anything we can offer on top.
Im going to school out here. But that gives me hope that this could work. Her parents said I could stay with them a few days at a time. I suppose thats a start
I've never really had a long distance relationship, but I am about to embark on one. There are no decent paying jobs in this city so my wife is going to relocate to the old city 2 hours away. It's a mutual decision. This place is two small for two and we are tripping over each others feet. She wants to earn, which is good considering since March we have been living on my income and so I have had to pay double for everything. My private pension, her private pension. My private health insurance, her private insurance. All these things eventually add up. When you become as middle class and materialistic as me these things start to grate.
I only work 3 and a half days a week, so will be able to go over and stay half the week, but part of me is actually quite invigorated by the prospect of having the place to myself. I have been married since I was 25 and recently things have started to feel jaded for me. I feel penned in and unable to manage my own life on my own terms. Now I am going to be in charge of paying my own bills and that is such a liberating feeling. If I want to have a beer, then I can! If I want to actually meet people, then I can feel free to do so. The long distance is a chance for actual freedom!
You are clearly very young with romantic ideals and values, but when you get to my age and the chance of a little freedom comes up, you jump at the chance.
You're in no position to tell him to start fucking as soon as possible ;DQuote:
Originally Posted by onoI pretty much agree with this.Quote:
Originally Posted by FTMatty
Yeah you are lucky mate. just dont lump off them when you visit, do the washing up occasionally, shout them all fish and chips one night, that sort of thing, show them you appreciate them allowing you to be there and things will get even better.Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
Very good point. How can Ono, the king of elongated sexual preludes agree with banging as soon as she leaves? Haha, it would take him a year to make a move! ;DQuote:
Originally Posted by JazMerkinYou're in no position to tell him to start fucking as soon as possible ;DQuote:
Originally Posted by onoI pretty much agree with this.Quote:
Originally Posted by FTMatty
In my own case, I would do no such thing, but I would try to have more friends and just go to the pub without feeling any pressure.
Thanks man. I appreciate the advice. Lol the rest of you guys are a mess. Does anyone believe in love anymore? smhQuote:
Originally Posted by AndreYeah you are lucky mate. just dont lump off them when you visit, do the washing up occasionally, shout them all fish and chips one night, that sort of thing, show them you appreciate them allowing you to be there and things will get even better.Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
Depends on how hot she is. Hehe good luck. Your about what, 600-650 miles away, you could visit on weekends....but that would be a nice days drive....
I um have a friend yeh who drives 1160 miles round trip within a 24-48 hr span to um see a gal he is fucking nuts for.
Distance, time, money etc etc...even a girls 'guilt' because this friend acts as if its as easy as running right across the street and this friend drives allll that way sometimes not knowing if things will happen in such a short timespan (like her son being rushed in for emergency surgery) and they end up sitting in hospital for 14 hrs :-X.....doesn't matter. Have you ever had Hospital coffee...its fucking awesome. So I've been told.
Can I ask you respectively bud...how old are you? Do it my man.....or wish you had for say 25 yrs. Just sayin :)
You call this long distance?Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
Me in Miami, Florida, USA - Her in Melbourne, Victoria, Australia. :cool:
I have a lot of difficulties with the concept of "knowing she's the one", we are evolving so fast in an era of stress and where it is very easy to gather informations/temptation from elsewhere (the time where people used to live in the middle of nowhere with 10 hours to do to join the city is revolved) that things change fast. We can never know, ultimately, is she/he is the "one".Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
My best advice would be: If you really love her, make the compromises necessary in order to make it work, enjoy every moments you can in her company but keep in mind that such relationships are tough and often don't hold in the long run, which means: yeah, do everything you can to make it last, it's possible, difficult but possible. However, don't sacrifice all the rest for a relationship "partially built on a question mark".
You're 18 right? More than likely it's just High school puppy love. When you get into college, you'll meet new people and experience new things, and more importantly you'll grow and mature and have different outlooks on life. At 18, you're not fully matured physically and mentally yet to make decisions that she is the one.
She'll probably go through the same things.
Awwww....Missy, you still hold out hope for us. That's sweet ;DQuote:
Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missy
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Originally Posted by jabvargas24Thanks man. I appreciate the advice. Lol the rest of you guys are a mess. Does anyone believe in love anymore? smhQuote:
Originally Posted by AndreYeah you are lucky mate. just dont lump off them when you visit, do the washing up occasionally, shout them all fish and chips one night, that sort of thing, show them you appreciate them allowing you to be there and things will get even better.Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24
I believed in love when I was 18, young, nieve and a bit stupid.
You grow up, realise a few things about women, most importantly that there are loads of them (and lot's of potential 'the one's) and there is nothing special about any one indivdule woman.
Unfortunately if you go along with this long distance garb, you're riding for a fall.
I believe in love, but you're going to hurt yourself if you are not just a slight bit grounded in reality. With the internet, Skype, etc it's easier to stay in contact with one another than it ever has been...but that physical contact, being able to cook dinner for her (or vice versa), or just being there in person is a need that people have and it usually catches up with a relationship.
I say, if you both really want it you can find a way to make it happen. Just know that the odds are against it.
There's a reason most romantics are classified as "hopeless"...its a cruel world for their grandiose ideas
Thats as sound as it gets Lyle.Quote:
Originally Posted by El Kabong
Also keep in mind bud that as much as you ask the question, so does she. As harsh as it is don't 'protect' each other if having doubts, it crushes those involved much worse in long run. The physical is key, have to have something-time to look forward too. Catch 22...you don't want it to become a second job and work...as opposed to what it should be and needs to be in the first place, easy going, day to day...doin life.
put it this way. I like the romantic idea of love, it's just that every man who's said it to me has ended up behaving like an utter cunt. So in reality that word doesn't hold much sway.Quote:
Originally Posted by El KabongAwwww....Missy, you still hold out hope for us. That's sweet ;DQuote:
Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missy
Now Missy don't try to act all tough, I see right through you and I can bet that once you finally meet a proper gentleman and get treated as you should be your guard against the word "love" having meaning for you will melt.
People get hurt in real life and as horrible as it feels #1 The Sun will still rise tomorrow and #2 as bad as being rejected feels once you've found someone that loves you back it trumps any other feeling.
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Originally Posted by El Kabong
I got accused of wanting perfection in a man - by the same chump who once used the L word and later cheated on his then girlfriend with me. I mean. Really? You have to be fucking kidding me? Men have such short term memories for the shit they do. Women on the otherhand have memories like Big Blue.
http://youtu.be/KdrVkPBy5nw
Missy I've been hurt just as bad...I understand that its no fun, but you can close your heart off.
Men (and women) are turned off by that kind of baggage...its too much work to fight through a guard like you pretend to have Missy. What that one guy did to you was selfish and wrong, but don't punish the next person that shows interest in you...it doesn't make sense to do that.
it's no use kabong:-\ all men are shit.. it's the way it must be!:cool:
Not all men are shitQuote:
Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missy
Yeah!Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24Not all men are shitQuote:
Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missy
....Some men are miles (whipping boys for their shrewish Korean wives) ;D
All due respect miles ;D
I am a whipping boy for noone, I am going to have the house to myself. In that sense I am the one doing the whipping. I shall live as I see fit and do what I will with my holiday that is coming up. I shall be a slave to no woman. She shall earn her own keep in her own lodgings (but mainly because there are no well paying jobs in this city).Quote:
Originally Posted by El KabongYeah!Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24Not all men are shitQuote:
Originally Posted by Howlin Mad Missy
....Some men are miles (whipping boys for their shrewish Korean wives) ;D
All due respect miles ;D
I think 8 years of being in the same relationship and with things recently being more than tense, I am finally rebelling. All these naive, foolish, poetic ideas that we cling onto, barely seem to exist beyond literature. I have one limited lifetime and I refuse to be without control any longer. I don't even know how to pay my bills. I'm taking back what was once mine. I want to pay the fucking bills. I used to have friends and actually had fun.
Give em a month. :rolleyes:
All women are prostitutes. That's a 100% fact.
Some are just cheaper than others.
I don't agree with that. I think there are a lot of stupid women, but I wouldn't call them all prostitutes. Probably about 20% are what I would call out and out hookers and those who basically market their relationships to the highest bidder. But a lot of women want the same basic comforts that a lot of men want. Just someone they relate to and can share their lives with.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hornfinger
All women. you have to buy them somthing to shag em.
A drink, drugs, restraunt, pack of cigerettes, cinema tickets,
Think about it. When was the last time you fucked a bird without buying her something (including taking her out or cooking for her) first?
Been married for almost 10 years, I can say with the utmost conviction this is not true.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hornfinger
I'm sorry to hear that you have to pay for sex though.
You've never bought your wife anything?Quote:
Originally Posted by killersheepBeen married for almost 10 years, I can say with the utmost conviction this is not true.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hornfinger
I'm sorry to hear that you have to pay for sex though.
You don't put a roof over her head?
you've never put food on the table?
you've never taken her out?
you didn't buy a ring to put on her finger?
You didn't go on a honeymoon?
You didn't take her out or buy her a gift each year on your anniversary?
You've never bought her a christmas or birthday present?
Do I need to go on?
Yeah I pay for sex, I'm just not ashamed of it and I don't try to hide it or lie to myself about it. ;)
Come to think of it the only people who don't pay for sex are rapists. But even then more than likely they're going to serve some jail time so it's swings and roundabouts.
I think we've found Archie bunkers alt ;D
How old r you? how old is she? you got a picture of her?Quote:
Originally Posted by jabvargas24